What are your honest thoughts on age gap relationships and why do many people hate them?

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Me personally isn’t against it at all considering age to me doesn’t really mean shit if I have great chemistry and connection and attraction for a girl that is legal age of consent. Some of the younger girls’ I have dated treated me better than some girls’ my age or older , so that’s why I don’t hold age as a deciding factor whatsoever, I am not all of a sudden going to dislike a girl because we have an age gap , to me that is silly and stupid to do. But when I hear other people bitch and complain about it , I just shake my head and think to myself just shut your mouth because you clearly have no clue what you are talking about so why rain on someone else’s’ parade , the only relationship you know is your own , nobody else’s’ period

Kassandra1994 · Accepted Answer

Well back in 2012 I was just was in love woth this guy my same age we attended the same church lets just say if I married this guy his mother came included along in thebpackage I was yes was not anymore deeply in love with him. Out of no where back in May 2013 , I decided to break off the engagedment wedding Invitación were sent to the guest the vende the church my dress wedding preparativos everything was pay off. Out of no where he confesé to me that he can not connect with me and broke off the engagement I was depressed he hurt me really bad I was devested. Something changed in me two years later I was 22 at the time at work this guy who happend to be 38 years old ask me out for coffee to be honest even dough he was much older he treated me better he had a mature mind of his own he did not need to called mommy and ask her if she approved of the furniture hebwas paying for. Woman like older men why? Because they are more mature they are more focus on family while guys my age are so attached to mommy yes millenial men are all mommas Boys.

Crimsyjo · Accepted Answer

I agree. Age doesn't matter as long as it doesn't effect certain expectations. So a person wanting kids who is with someone older who has had kids and doesn't want any is a problem not going to be solved by attaching harder. But if both people have kids already or don't want and are age gap it's nobodies business.

Not just kids. That's an example. But usually no 1 factor. But health and longtivity can be a factor too.

In my opinion a max ten year age gap is probably the most likely to still be within life stage crossover without clashing.

genericname85 · Accepted Answer

from a social scientific standpoint: large age gap relationships tend to have higher relationship satisfaction and overall life satisfaction than same age relationships at the start and slightly during the middle. but at the end it gets worse, than same age relationships, cause at the end, one partner becomes senile and more and more sick as the younger one is still more fit.

psychology isn't my expertise but i'm assuming that the younger partner was lacking a father/mother figure so they try to compensate by getting an older partner. that's probably not always the case but i think it's likely relevant.

normatively speaking, i don't think it's a problem as long as both partners are at the age of consent.

and i think the ones who don't like it tend to be older ugly women, cause they're butthurt that others are more attractive than them. that's usually a women exclusive cause men aren't picked for their beauty.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

If people accept age gap relationships, it means that when you are on the hunt, there is more competition.

I have dated wornen who were 20 years older and some who were 20 years younger. But my best relationships were with women within 10 years of my age.

DishLady · Answer

The thing is that a significant age gap is always going to be difficult to explain. For instance, there are young guys who are interested but morally I won't go for anyone within a range that is perceivably my kids' generation. It seems pervy to me and I'd never go for that. By contrast, a smaller age gap (let's say within five years higher or lower) is fine.

AviatorTom · Answer

Age is just a number. I've known couples with large age gaps that have good long relationships. My father was much older than my other and they were married 40 years until he died. I've also known couples about the same age that have horrible relationships.

Whatever works for a couple is what's really important.

CherryLove007 · Answer

Don't reduce someone's life to a number. What bothers me is when I'm not attracted to a man and he has a giant gut and thinks he's healthy and such. Nobody needs to settle and not feel fuzzy nice feelings for someone who values health and esp their mind. The well read male mind is hot as all fire.

4ngelic · Answer

I'm completely fine with them, even big ones. Though I might silently judge if it's like 22 & 50, but in the end it's none of my business. I'm only actually pretty against it if the younger party is a minor (regardless of age of consent) or 18-20 (with someone significantly older). 21+ I stop caring.

I think many people, especially gen z, are against them because of the perceived pedo undercurrent and power imbalance. I don't think there's anything wrong with calling out let's say a 40yo who mainly goes for barely legals, but there's many people who take it too far. Like people suggesting 23 & 30 is creepy, 30 & 50 is predatory, if you're attracted to people under 25 you're a pedophile, etc

Anonymous · Answer

This mostly comes from women who have hit the wall and squandered their fertility. Or women who have multiple kids by multiple baby daddies.

Basically men value youth and fertility. Why should a 35 year old successful bachelor date a woman who is his own age, with a massive body count, huge amounts of baggage, multiple kids by multiple baby daddies, when he can get someone who is 25, and a better fit for him. Same goes for women who see them selves as high value, bis babes. Why should a successful man in his 30's get someone like that, who nine times out of 10 won't be a traditional mom, will pawn any children off on nannies or day care, and be an all around insufferable bitch when he can get with someone who shares his same values.

It's those two types of women good men just do not want, and that's why they bitch when we pick someone younger and more compatible.

Purpleronnie · Answer

Each to their own , if both are happy then who am I to judge. It’s relative to a certain extent and I feel that it matters so much less when both are over 30

Being in a ‘relationship’ with a much younger woman though is not for me , to explain why is difficult to put into words but I think it’s around the respect I have for myself , I’d rather be single than do that.

Mark_Est · Answer

Anybody old enaugh to vote me to war is old enaugh to choose if they want to date me or not.

Usually old women have problem with it, 30+ cause they are losing most of the attention for younger women. And it is normal for young women to like older men. Just biology. Adults are free to choose.

Anonymous · Answer

Man it makes me so sad when i think of the night and day difference between doing something out of pure joy vs out of anxiety.

A lot of people seek age gaps because it curbs their anxieties to be in such a dynamic.

I realized today how sick all my life. It is not a brain problem. It is a body problem. The body perceives a threat and pumps adrenaline if you refuse to live in the dynamic that traumatized you.

As a general summary. I am not saying you have it. I did not read your question description. I am saying MOST age gaps relationships are based on PURE ANXIETY.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

I don't think it is a big deal.. unless it's more than 10 years cuz that just seems creepy to be honest since its like you were a teenager or adult and the other person wasn't even born... Personally I would only date my same age or a bit younger or a bit older.

BonzoInBitburg · Answer

My wife is 20 years younger than me and the only people who seem bothered by it are older women and younger guys who don't know us. I don't notice an age gap in our relationship so I don't see an issue. If someone has a problem with it, so be it.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Since I was 14 every girl/woman I have dated save one was older, often much older, and the younger one was only a few months younger. As long as the adults are mentally capable and consent, I do not care nor should I. It is not my business.

exitseven · Answer

I think if two people are happy then it all good. Personally I always thought ten years either way would be my limit.

Levin · Answer

I like it. Dating is supposed to be joyful and playful. I don't get why people are so judgmental. Age gaps can be hot.

AgentG111 · Answer

If it's legal and it works who cares. Life's short live it up!

LC75LC71 · Answer

I moved to Texas when I was 33 to live with a 19 year old woman that lived with her mother. The first time I heard her mom, was by voicemail sounding like Yosemite Sam lol. But after a few months, she was obviously accepting.

lilBigPotato · Answer

Don't care, whatever works best for people. I like some gap but nothing too extreme.

Abbycado · Answer

I don’t care what others do, but I would only date around my own age, currently.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Not my thing but some people are very happy in them

InStrictConfidence · Answer

There is no limit if you are in love. The health sets limits and the love helps to go through rough times.

sage2021 · Answer

I don't believe that age gaps make any difference whatsoever if you've found true love.

Kvass · Answer

I'd never choose a wrinkled guy, but I don't care about young girls who settle for less

Rapport · Answer

Some age gaps like 35 dating a 20 year old just don’t look right to me and for me I prefer being with someone my age or at least a few years close to my age.

dudeinohio · Answer

The largest age gap i have had is 7 years... I think that's good enough. Anything more, you risk being in different life stages and can't relate well to your partner.

AngryCarl3 · Answer

I feel like age gap relationships can work just fine up to a gap of maybe 10 years. As long as both partners are mature.

robocop666 · Answer

are they jealous as men do that. If a woman is 20 and hot why would anyone turn her down?

Anonymous · Answer

I have no opinion on other's relationships. I'm in love with a woman in France who is 25 years younger. She's unhappily married and unavailable.

CyberGhost615 · Answer

My husband is 30 years older than me. This will be 10 years married in December.

RavVid · Answer

It depends on the couple and a bigger age gap is okay for a period. It is just up to them. Older women are pissed of by men of their own age being able to date far younger women than them.

Amy1990 · Answer

If both legal age and younger one In relationship are over 21 at least. I wouldn’t go under 25. If I was single.

Anonymous · Answer

It doesn't bother me much, if I had a chance, I would date a younger woman.

curlyfirecracker · Answer

Hard to have the same interests and goals in life. Not impossible, just harder.

Shiprex · Answer

I don't think it matters as long as neither is using or abusing the other for selfish benefit.

Agape93 · Answer

Idgaf long as nobody is with a minor.

_Jenny_ · Answer

@finchie40 it’s all about consent

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