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I was talking to a girl a few years ago. She was really interested in me and wanted a relationship. I kind of pushed her away because of things I was dealing with. It definitely seemed like a rejection from her viewpoint. I always felt awful about rejecting her, so I apologized and told her what I was thinking. I said it was my fault and she didn't do anything wrong, and that she is great. I told her it was my anxiety and depression and I didn't handle it well and I didn't want to reject her. I owned up to everything, took full blame and shared what I never was comfortable sharing with anyone. Her response was to ignore my apology and then post a picture of her all Dolled up trying to look as good as possible. Her hair done, makeup, trying to look like an Instagram model. She doesn't always post pictures like this, so the timing felt intentional. My impression of it was like a, hey, I'm great this is what you're missing type of thing.

Noone owes anyone forgiveness, but I am put off by this response. I went from feeling sad I hurt her feelings to feeling grossed out by her character. I told her she was great, and it was my anxiety and depression, and she responded like I had rejected her. I don't know, no response at all would have been one thing. But to kind of rub it in someone's face with a "Screw you im the bomb" post after someone talks about dealing with depression. That seems kind of messed up to me.

Where do you stand? Noone owes forgiveness or her response was a red flag?

A few nights ago I had a good conversation with a Uber driver on my ride home after listening to some live Christmas music downtown. I honestly was depressed I couldn’t find a girl to go with me. But it’s a personal tradition to listen to Christmas jazz. I am glad I went anyway

Anyway about the conversation. The Uber driver was a younger guy in his 20s who used to run a contractor business but it went under during covid and he drives Ubers full time. He told me he completely given up on dating and doesn’t use social media or dating apps. He has been single for 4 years. He wasn’t some overweight slob either. Not a trouble maker. Decent looking young light skinned African American man. Seems like some girl would appreciate him but he quit.

Anyway we both shared experiences about how we both once out in a lot of effort into dating that was very under-appreciated by women and then quit. There was a study done that over 60% of men under 30 are single now.

However most young women who answered this survey claimed to not be single. Either they are (or a combination of) 1) dating older men 2) in causal relationship they claim “is a relationship” when the man feels differently 3) not in a relationship at all but lying about (virtual “relationships” are complete bs)

Anyway let’s forget about men for a second. How are young women dealing with all of this? They are supposed to be more “free and empowered” but are they really happy in modern times? Statistically young women are reporting very high rates of depression:

https://www.wfxrtv.com/news/health/depression-rates-skyrocket-women-and-young-adults-hit-hardest-gallup-poll/amp/

https://www.statista.com/statistics/252323/major-depressive-episode-among-us-youths-by-gender-since-2004/

My theory is young women have been indoctrinated in a lot of modern feminism brainwashing that brings them a lot of short term benefits but long term misery.