Since the beginning of my relationship with my child's father, I have experienced a series of difficulties and extremely disturbing situations. When I met him, I was far from imagining the complexity of the situation. I later discovered that he was married, something he deliberately kept from me. Over time, I was faced with countless betrayals, lies and a complete lack of respect for my feelings and emotional well-being.
Even when I was dealing with deep depression, a direct result of his actions, he made me feel guilty and inadequate for confronting him with the truth and his unacceptable behaviors. He never respected my emotional state, even when he lived in my house with my family. Despite the difficulties, I believe he could change and we decided to go ahead with the pregnancy. However, initially he repeatedly pressured me to abort, leaving me in a position of great emotional vulnerability. After some reflection, he changed his mind, but his conduct continued to be marked by secrets, arguments and an environment of constant distrust. During the pregnancy and after the birth of our son, he alternated between moments of apparent support and aggressive and completely disrespectful attitudes. I even felt physically threatened, even during the postpartum period, when I most needed support and understanding. Since he left, the situation has worsened significantly. His behavior became increasingly hostile and insensitive, completely ignoring my needs and those of our son. His words and actions have been extremely harmful to our emotional and physical well-being. Currently, I find myself in a very vulnerable situation, taking care of our son alone, facing financial and emotional difficulties, while he seems to show no parental interest or responsibility. He even say he doesn't love his son. However i wish my son to have a complete family and dont have to feel bad when go school because don't have a father, i think nobody will want me because my after birth body
Even when I was dealing with deep depression, a direct result of his actions, he made me feel guilty and inadequate for confronting him with the truth and his unacceptable behaviors. He never respected my emotional state, even when he lived in my house with my family. Despite the difficulties, I believe he could change and we decided to go ahead with the pregnancy. However, initially he repeatedly pressured me to abort, leaving me in a position of great emotional vulnerability. After some reflection, he changed his mind, but his conduct continued to be marked by secrets, arguments and an environment of constant distrust. During the pregnancy and after the birth of our son, he alternated between moments of apparent support and aggressive and completely disrespectful attitudes. I even felt physically threatened, even during the postpartum period, when I most needed support and understanding. Since he left, the situation has worsened significantly. His behavior became increasingly hostile and insensitive, completely ignoring my needs and those of our son. His words and actions have been extremely harmful to our emotional and physical well-being. Currently, I find myself in a very vulnerable situation, taking care of our son alone, facing financial and emotional difficulties, while he seems to show no parental interest or responsibility. He even say he doesn't love his son. However i wish my son to have a complete family and dont have to feel bad when go school because don't have a father, i think nobody will want me because my after birth body
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Boo, I'm so sorry you've had to go through all that. No one deserves to be treated the way you described. You and your son both deserve so much better.
It takes real courage and strength to leave a bad situation, even when you have a kid, so give yourself credit for getting out. Raising a child alone will come with challenges, but it also sounds like you'll have a lot less stress and drama in your life without all that drama from him.
Try not to let his actions make you feel unworthy or defective. His problems say nothing about who you are - sometimes people are just selfish and hurtful no matter what. You did nothing to cause his behavior.
Reach out to your support system - family, close friends. Let them help carry some of the load so you have time for yourself as well. And talk to a lawyer about getting formal child support in place since it's your son's right.
In time I'm sure you'll heal from this and be able to move on without letting his actions hold you back. You got this, sis. Stay strong - you and your little guy got each other and that's what really matters. I'm here if you ever need an ear.
My son is 3 months old.. and I don't have any family or support... I cannot ask for help to anyone
Oh man sis, I'm so sorry to hear you don't have anyone close you can turn to for help right now. That must make things feel really scary and overwhelming. But please don't lose hope - there are still options for you and your baby that don't involve this toxic guy at all.
Even if you can't tell friends or family what's happening yet, please at least call one of the help hotlines. Explain your situation to a counselor anonymously - they're trained to help women in dangerous spots who have no one else. Tell them about his threats and abuse so they understand how unsafe it is. They can connect you to shelters that will take you in secretly and protect your privacy. No one deserves to feel afraid like this, especially with a little one.
I know it's really hard, but try to stay strong for your son. Focus on just getting through each day and keeping yourself hidden from that dude. Go to the shelters - they won't turn you away since you have a baby. Once you're safely inside, then start working on a proper long term plan. But safety has to come first. You've got this, sis - just take it one step at a time. My prayers are with you!