My girlfriend and I lived in North Carolina she went to California to donate her stem cells and her kidney to her 6yesr old son basically to save his life. She’s been gone for 4 months now and won’t be back for basically 4 more months. She’s been dealing with a lot of stress and depression and has been in abusive relationships and her parents might get a divorce now and her mom is with her in California she is stuck in the hospital with her son basically can’t leave and had to pick her whole life up and temporarily go to California she can’t work or do things she loves watching her son go through chemo etc Is it over or can she come back and feelings grow again? She said she’s only felt this way this past month and I understand if she lost feelings due to stress depression and everything but I’m scared she won’t come back to us and remember us
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I only see one screen shot image , but I’m sorry you are going through this with her. Being apart for that long is a long time to be apart from each other and sadly that could cause some resentments in your relationship with her. Is there anyway you can take some time off and go see her and stay with her for a bit? Showing up and being by her side is probably the best thing for you to do if you truly love and care about her. Do you both video chat each other a lot?
Damn guess you had to select each image separately. I tried and she wouldn’t accept it. Right now we are broken up and she says she needs time to miss me etc and I’ve been pushing and fighting for her which pushed her away
Yea no longer fight for her man , if she is in a state of depression you are best to back off and maybe she will try to come back to you eventually but don’t bank on that. , , My advice man , is to just focus on yourself and do what’s best for you , I know it’s easier said than done , but if she ended things with you? , you are best to just let her go and focus on yourself , I know it’s hard man , and it is a tough pill to swallow , but understand you can’t force someone to be with you. If it’s not meant to be it’s not meant to be , if it is meant to be , she will come to you , giving you the option on whether you want her back or not , that’s something only you can decide. If you meet someone else? You meet someone else. You don’t have to answer to her anymore , and you don’t have to be her enemy either , but make it clear to her that you aren’t a convenience to her , if she truly loved you she wouldn’t of ended things with you period , so do not kiss her ass anymore , whatsoever , since she ended things with you. You are officially single again , you didn’t choose this , she did , so you don’t have to answer to her anymore. My advice to you is to not sit around crying over her. You will only be hurting yourself man by doing so , start hanging out with your friends and find things to do to help keep your mind off of her as much as possible , Go date again and don’t rush into any relationships with anyone , until you feel you are ready to settle down again and you are able to give yourself 100 percent to another girl , Dating will help you keep your mind off of her as well once you date someone that catches your interest and take things slow , without rushing into anything. My wife and I separated after being together for 15 years , because she decided to be selfish all of a sudden and started treating me like shit , as much as I was hurting inside , I stood my ground and didn’t give into her whatsoever, by not giving into her? Made her chase me , and
Wanting me back , I told her No that I need more time to myself , during that time away from her I started dating again and met some really nice girls’ I had sex with a few of them but it was just sex cuz I was honest and upfront with all of them that I wasn’t looking to rush into another relationship right away and told them the truth about what happened with my wife and I , Girls love that game of chase , so those girls’ o was dating didn’t hesitate , they wanted to see me as much as possible because they knew I was a tough catch , now some of the girls’ I was having sex with were liars and told me they were single when really they weren’t but that’s a whole different story. All I am saying man is focus on you and do what makes you happy the best way that you can. Remember she left you leaving you single
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I only see one screen shot image , but I’m sorry you are going through this with her. Being apart for that long is a long time to be apart from each other and sadly that could cause some resentments in your relationship with her. Is there anyway you can take some time off and go see her and stay with her for a bit? Showing up and being by her side is probably the best thing for you to do if you truly love and care about her. Do you both video chat each other a lot?
Damn guess you had to select each image separately. I tried and she wouldn’t accept it. Right now we are broken up and she says she needs time to miss me etc and I’ve been pushing and fighting for her which pushed her away
Yea no longer fight for her man , if she is in a state of depression you are best to back off and maybe she will try to come back to you eventually but don’t bank on that. , , My advice man , is to just focus on yourself and do what’s best for you , I know it’s easier said than done , but if she ended things with you? , you are best to just let her go and focus on yourself , I know it’s hard man , and it is a tough pill to swallow , but understand you can’t force someone to be with you. If it’s not meant to be it’s not meant to be , if it is meant to be , she will come to you , giving you the option on whether you want her back or not , that’s something only you can decide. If you meet someone else? You meet someone else. You don’t have to answer to her anymore , and you don’t have to be her enemy either , but make it clear to her that you aren’t a convenience to her , if she truly loved you she wouldn’t of ended things with you period , so do not kiss her ass anymore , whatsoever , since she ended things with you. You are officially single again , you didn’t choose this , she did , so you don’t have to answer to her anymore. My advice to you is to not sit around crying over her. You will only be hurting yourself man by doing so , start hanging out with your friends and find things to do to help keep your mind off of her as much as possible , Go date again and don’t rush into any relationships with anyone , until you feel you are ready to settle down again and you are able to give yourself 100 percent to another girl , Dating will help you keep your mind off of her as well once you date someone that catches your interest and take things slow , without rushing into anything. My wife and I separated after being together for 15 years , because she decided to be selfish all of a sudden and started treating me like shit , as much as I was hurting inside , I stood my ground and didn’t give into her whatsoever, by not giving into her? Made her chase me , and
Wanting me back , I told her No that I need more time to myself , during that time away from her I started dating again and met some really nice girls’ I had sex with a few of them but it was just sex cuz I was honest and upfront with all of them that I wasn’t looking to rush into another relationship right away and told them the truth about what happened with my wife and I , Girls love that game of chase , so those girls’ o was dating didn’t hesitate , they wanted to see me as much as possible because they knew I was a tough catch , now some of the girls’ I was having sex with were liars and told me they were single when really they weren’t but that’s a whole different story. All I am saying man is focus on you and do what makes you happy the best way that you can. Remember she left you leaving you single
She is going through a lot. You should not give up on this yet.
Did you read the screenshot images
I know but it still might work out.
I think you should talk to a professional psychologist.
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