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IMAGINE THIS SCENARIO: You and a boy have always been more than friends.. a quiet understanding, late-night talks, little gestures that blur the line. He finally says it outright and proposes something real. You care about him, but you’re not sure, so you ask for time.

That same week he goes out, drinks too much, and dials you. Your phone is already engaged with a call from another guy.. your best friend, nothing romantic, but it’s a long vent-session you don’t want to cut off. (Your guy) calls again. And again (10+ times). You see his name flash, your stomach knots, and you let it ring out because you’re not ready to face his voice right then.

He switches to text: IG, WhatsApp, short messages that get more urgent. You read them, guilt prickling, but you don’t answer. Confused and irritated, you block him everywhere like shutting a door to buy a minute of quiet.

Later the day you felt the guilt is louder than the fear. You unblock just enough to call. It rings, once, twice, and then voicemail. You wait for his call back... nothing comes.

The next day you hover over the unblock button. Part of you wants to explain: “I was on another call, I panicked.” Part of you freezes.. what if he leaves me on read? What if he says he’s done, that he’s moved on? That dread sits heavy, stealing sleep. You replay his silence, wonder if he’s already talking to someone else, feel the shame of your own avoidance.

"5 months have passed" (You were still waiting to fix) & beneath it all, another question: maybe you’re not just scared, maybe you really do need time and space to understand what you want before you try to fix what you broke.

Woman on TikTok says women dating Trump supporters must protect themselves—if he feels no shame/guilt for voting Trump/MAGA, he’s dangerous. Do you agree or disagree with this woman?

"If you are a woman still dating a man and he is pro-Trump and MAGA, you need to protect yourself right now. We are far along enough to the point where if he voted for Trump and hasn't addressed his shame and guilt for voting for Trump, he is a dangerous man.
Okay? The only reason why people still support Trump in this day and age is because they see a piece of themselves within him. Okay?
A man that's able to commit all of these atrocious crimes and harm and abuse women and children and the list goes on and get away with it. Also a man who's DL okay he's able to get away with this stuff and it excites them. I'm gonna tag the creator below she said this in another video and I was like yeah it makes perfect sense. Everything is a mirror so if you haven't gotten out or whatever your situation is you need to protect yourself because these are very dangerous people and yes it is that deep. It is that deep." - https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTr146wjS/

So this question isn't meant to shame anyone who doesn't donate, but today I had an opportunity to do so. I sat in my car, psyched myself up, and walked over to the bus. And then I walked past it. And then sat against a wall and had a heavy hit of guilt and depression to the point of tears. Then I went to my car later and left.

I hadn't eaten breakfast or anything, and the *one* time I've donated in the past, I fainted. Watching the needle, watching blood leave me, feeling it in my arm... I guess it was a more negative experience than I remembered. No amount of coaxing in the world could've worked on me today, and it's really bothering me that I couldn't do something selfless.

One thing about a more secular society is people are more likely to face shame as societal punishment vs. actual guilt.

Shame is an external force. Sometimes it is well justified for people who really do wrong. Other times the “shame” is socially constructed and evil on its own. The Maoist struggle sessions are a great example of this. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Struggle_session

Guilt is internal. It’s actually a much more powerful psychological motivator to make right or wrong decisions. Upbringing, communities and religious influences can directly impact guilt.

But some people are sociopaths/psychopaths and don’t feel any guilt. Hence they only worry about their reputation being harmed vs. whether or not they actually harmed someone.

Anyway I’m noticing this bizarre trend in modern society where we have become more “tolerant” of certain deviations but far less forgiving others. Less forgiveness too. Ironically I think this is driving some people to actually get worse on actions that harm others and themselves.

It's from the Bible, and I agree with it... in general. I was thinking about the various Trump trials... what a mess, caused by lies and deceipt, shame.

In other words... find out wha the truth is... so you can move forward.

Expose the truth, so you are not enslaved to the negative emotions holding you back.

But that's not how our world works, especially politics, court, but everywhere. Shame is used to control people, admiting guilt is a weakness with consequences, and people become discarded.

Lies and misperceptions persist. There is a flip side...'the truth will get you into bigger trouble.'. That is true, but you will have emotional freedom rather than emotional bondage.