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my mom was and still is a pretty toxic person. she divorced my dad when I was 3 and took me away from him and then decided to poisoned my head by telling me that it was his fault, that supposedly he never loved me and left me for her to raise me on her own.

I dont even know where to start on all the things she used to do to me while growing up. she used to

• take out all of her everyday stress and frustration out on me
• she used to scorn me whenever I stood up for myself
• always compared/contrast me with my cousins and kids of her friends who supposedly did things better than I did
• limit my friends
• limit my hobbies
• used to take off and leave me behind with relatives and other friends of hers

but it obviously couldnt just end there, as I got older she used to

• treat me like I always her husband
• was obligated to get a job and help out with spending (even though my stepdad made enough)
• pressure me to move out and "get out of her life" literally on a daily basis
• always looked for an excuse to pick fights with me and then acted like a victim when I would retaliate

and the list goes on. After High School I've become a toxic cunt magnet myself, in fact I have 2 older brothers who were in and out of toxic relationships as I grew up. I used to watch them go through all that hell that I promised myself that I will stay single because I dont want to be like them. but again whenever I break this promise the women I show interest or show interest in me always end up showing their true colors later on and end up repulsing to me.

till then I was always told that us humans will always be bound to attract or be attracted to people like our parents. Celebrities like Eminem are a prime example of this as well. so I was wondering should we children of toxic parents just remain single forever? is this our only antidote for peace?

- She is an introvert.
- we see each other alone & away from our friends group every week. We go for lunches, to museums, coffees, Christmas markets. She gets nervous when alone with me.
- In a group, she follows me, talks to me the most and will butt into conversations I’m having with others.
- when she’s relaxed, 1 or 2 times we have had moments where we’ve just smiled & stared at each other in silence. She told me the other day how to relax her - make her laugh.
- She tells me about what she’s reading.
- She asks me questions about my opinions on things.
- She remembers things I said in the past.
- She shows admiration in her facial expression when I mention my hobbies, volunteering and ambition although later she says she should probably have more hobbies etc.
- if I ask her if she wants to do something, she says yes unless she’s genuinely busy which is rare.
- She tells me things she’s embarrassed about.
- I often see negatives like how she never texts first & how she never initiates the plans, i interpret her being nervous alone with me as not wanting to give me the wrong idea. I also notice how she looks away after a few seconds most times I try to make eye contact. Although I look away too. As a result, I tend to assume she’s not interested and start treating her like a guy friend - teasing her and punching her on the arm when she says something funny etc. Sometimes she jokingly says I’m a terrible person etc.