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I was stood outside talking to my male colleague. We were finished for the day and we work in the same office. We were stood by our cars and were having a good laugh and chat. Once, we were sitting together for breakfast at work and my crush gave me a small smile and looked away quickly, whereas normally he would gaze, smile warmly and hold eye contact.

We park by the exit. So basically, at our work there is a one way system you drive through at no more than 10mph. There are various car parks branching off this one way system.

My crush was driving towards me and my colleague and he beeped his horn. He was a fair distance away, like a couple of metres. I looked up and him and gestured to myself. He shook his head and then waved at me. When he got closer to us, I asked him if he was beeping at me. He stopped the car, despite another car being behind him. He was grinning and laughing, saying it was an accident. I could see that his seat was very far back. My male colleague made a joke and my crush briefly glanced at him but stayed staring at me.

An hour or so after this, my crush finally opened and reacted to the reel I sent him a few days prior. I think the timing isn’t coincidental, he opened it shortly after seeing me with my male colleague.

Then a few days after this, I was chatting with my crush and the colleague came into conversation. I said “you know, the one I was chatting to in the car park”

My crush immediately said “oh, where I beeped my horn by accident? That was so embarrassing, I was grabbing my bag” etc etc. and he was grinning but avoiding eye contact. Which to me, confirms that it was on purpose.

In December 2024, I met a guy on an app and was instantly attracted to him. He expressed that he found me pretty, which made me feel special. Despite the age difference of 1 year and 10 months—me being older—I didn’t think it would lead anywhere serious. However, I was pleasantly surprised when we began talking every single day. He would text me at any moment, even while he was at school or at practice, sharing pictures of what he was doing. Our conversations often stretched late into the night, sometimes until 1:00 AM, and he consistently sent me good morning texts that brightened my day.

As our connection deepened over the months, I noticed that he was genuinely invested in my life, asking about my family and recommending places he thought I’d enjoy. His enthusiasm is evident in his texting style; he often double, triple, and even quadruple texts, which shows how much he enjoys communicating with me. However, about six months in, while he was on vacation, his good morning texts stopped, although he still reached out regularly.

Now, nearly a year into our relationship, I’m left wondering why he hasn’t asked me out. It feels like we have a strong bond, akin to a romantic relationship, yet there’s no official label. He has shown signs of jealousy when I mentioned dating someone else, which makes me think he has deeper feelings for me. Despite our closeness, I’m unsure if he sees me as just a close friend or if he’s hesitating to take the next step. Our dynamic is unique, filled with warmth and connection, but I can’t help but wonder what’s holding him back from making a move.