I think I’m in love with my older coworker and am feeling jealousy at work?

[Anonymous]

He is 18 years older than me and I don’t know what to do anymore. I’m 30 He is 48.

He is a very charming man and talks to other woman at work…But sometimes I think he likes me back.

We had a drunken night at a staff party and he told me he liked me. He has mentioned to me ‘how he wishes he was 10 years younger’ and tells me I’m such a catch, I’m beautiful, loves my personality, compliments me, talks to me about his personal life, his family, his struggles, issues, his weekend plans, everything. He stares, touches me, hugs me, jokes around. And I confide in him too, I try to flirt back, laugh joke and do nice things for him.

He was single when we met, then he was in an on/off relationship for a few years. I thought I should distance myself to try to forget about my feelings.

I tried to date other men but nothing ever worked out. I’ve spent the last 3 years focusing on my work, saving for a house and travelling.

And my feelings never stopped.
Then he was single again and since then we have gotten even closer and my feelings are driving me absolutely crazy.

Seeing/speaking to him everyday is the highlight of my day, if he flirts with me I’m in the best mood ever, if he talks to me I’m so unbelievably happy, if he texts me at night I’m smiling ear to ear. I’ve never felt so happy.

Now my new thing is, if I see him talking to woman at work I start feeling jealous. If I see them laughing or having coffee or going to lunch together, it will ruin my day and I feel a burning in my chest, shaking and feel like I could cry. I almost threw up today when he was taking to one of my friends/coworkers.

I feel like I’m going crazy. I’ve never felt jealously in my life and I know it’s unhealthy it’s so bad that I went into the toilet cubicle and cried today.

Should I just keep our friendly/flirty relationship going as it is? And see if anything ever happens?
Should I tell him how I feel?
Should I ask him about doing something outside of work?
Should I leave my job?

[Fanfare690]

I mean he's already telling you you are a catch... Half of me says he's a flirt and the other half of me is saying GO GET YOUR MAN lol it's your decision... he could be talking to other women to get you jealous or he's a player... try finding out more clues if he likes you likes you

[Asker]

How can I find out more clues? Thanks!

[Fanfare690]

By talking to him. Like ask him questions about him and you and kind of see where he's coming from

[chrissykerdock]

time to give him a blowjob and take it from there

[StevenMcGarrett]

I think she was wondering how to get to that point.

[chrissykerdock]

@StevenMcGarrett that's pretty easy

[StevenMcGarrett]

Hmm, I don't think that's true for. most girls.

[StevenMcGarrett]

Like she just can't drop to her knees in the th middle of work.

[chrissykerdock]

@StevenMcGarrett no but there's other ways to go about it

[StevenMcGarrett]

I think that is what she wants to know.

[Yohenis]

Take things slow and let go of these "jealousy" thing it will kill you. Both of you have attraction towards. Each other it's clear. You don't need to worry about it or changing jobs if it's meant to be it's meant to be

[StevenMcGarrett]

Definitely ask him to do something outside of work and then tell him how you feel. It sounds like he is in to you
Good luck.

[Asker]

I’ll try that thanks!

[StevenMcGarrett]

Welcome. Let me know how it goes. Good luck.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the sweet chaos called love! It’s got more twists and turns than the latest rom-com 😜. First, remember jealousy is that little green monster that can mess with your brain. It's normal but needs taming! Since you’ve caught the feels, maybe it’s time to address the elephant in the room.

Consider sharing your feelings with him, gently and privately. He’s been flirty and expressive too, so who knows where this might go? But also remember, you deserve someone who’s ready and all in. Leaving your job seems drastic right now; let the heart work its magic before swapping the office out! ❤️ But be ready to embrace whatever comes, and make sure it makes you happy!

[In_Trance]

Don't fuck your coworkers
It never works out the way you think it will

[Anonymous]

Not this again. Fuck him already.

[Asker]

Girl how can I? Help me 😂

[ewok737]

Don't get involved with people from work.

[Asker]

It’s too late for me…