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@LaFemmeFatale_1 asked me something about my love life earlier… and it actually stuck with me and made me think…

I’ve known someone for a long time. He’s intelligent, funny, has depth… but opening up has always been a slower process for him. It’s something that unfolds over time…. Like a really long time. We started out as just friends and then we decided to try something more…

And then there’s someone I met more recently…

We could barely communicate at first because of the language barrier lol, but somehow we kept gravitating back to each other… laughing, losing track of what we were doing like it just flowed naturally. I actually posted about him some months ago and you guys were sharing with me how you’ve dated someone who spoke another language primarily.

What stood out to me though… was the effort. And even emotionally… he didn’t rush it, but he didn’t avoid it either.

He told me:

“De nada, con gusto… es bueno saber un poco y te diré poco a poco.” (I’ll tell you more little by little.) …And he did.

He’s also the guy I was talking about when I posted about going on a date.. and asking you guys whats a good first date… anyway..

That made me question something… because I feel like we tend to assume history means more.

But what if someone new is showing you more intention?

So what matters more to you in the end?

Ok, so we have farm girl Dorothy Gale and then we have "proper" British girl Alice Liddell. One rolled around in a field of poppies. One indulged in Amanita muscaria. They both proceeded on journeys of self-discovery.

The following summary was entirely worded up by AI:

Dorothy’s discovery: What you need is already within you

Dorothy travels to Oz believing happiness lies somewhere else—“over the rainbow.” By the end, she learns:

Home isn’t just a place; it’s belonging, love, and self-acceptance.

Power was largely an illusion.

Deeper meaning:
Dorothy discovers that external authorities and magical solutions are often false. Growth comes from recognizing the value and strength you already possess. Oz is a lesson in self-reliance and emotional maturity.

Alice’s discovery: The instability of identity and logic

Alice’s journey is less about arriving somewhere and more about questioning everything:

Language doesn’t mean what she expects.

Rules change constantly.

Adults and authority figures are irrational or arbitrary.

Her own size and identity are unstable (“Who in the world am I?”).

Deeper meaning:
Alice discovers that the world—especially the adult world—is often nonsensical, and that logic, identity, and social rules are constructed rather than fixed. Her growth comes from learning to navigate ambiguity without losing herself.

The key difference

Dorothy learns a comforting truth: the world makes sense if you trust yourself.

Alice learns a challenging truth: the world doesn’t make sense, and that’s something you must learn to live with.

Shared revelation

Both stories suggest that childhood journeys into fantasy are really psychological awakenings:

You cannot rely blindly on authority.

Meaning is not handed to you.

Growing up involves learning how to interpret reality on your own terms.

In short:
Dorothy discovers inner wholeness.
Alice discovers existential uncertainty.

Which finally brings me to my question of the day, Who had the biggest trip?