How can I hide my comfortable wealth from low-income coworkers?

[Anonymous]

Okay so im not rich rich but I live in a comfortable living situation. I work full time in a low level job because I as wealthy as my husband and his family is i dont think its fair to expect them to bank roll me and I dont want to be in debt to people so having a little of my own money feels like a safety net for me and my husband and his family also agree. Plus it keeps me humble and stops me from losing touch with the real world.

I think people at work first started noticing i wasn't like them when it started snowing. Seeing my husband drop me off in a land drover defender made for a lot of questions i didn't feel comfortable answering.

It doesn't help a lot of my colleagues are from extremely poor backgrounds and grew up in ran down areas.

Then it came to colleagues asking my husband to do work for them and me trying to not offend them. My husband is basically a professional gardener but not like the type of guy who mows your nans lawn he's designing and building millionaires and celebrities gardens on massive country estates. Not to be that person but they genuinely couldn't afford my husbands work.

Then today at lunch I had my love shack fancy x stanley lunch bag out on the table and most my colleagues dont know big brands or anything so when they asked me about my lunch bag I just lied and said i bought it in America and that I didn't know the brand. My manger looked it up on Google because he thought his daughter would like it too. It retails for around £120 but its a very good lunch box and I don't often make big purchases like that.

My manger called me crazy for spending that much on a lunch box and I felt super embarrassed. I said i didn't pay that much and just tried to play it off.

I don't want people knowing I have money because I dont want people seeing me any different or taking advantage of me in anyway

[Cyfris]

It is better to just be who you are then be disingenuous. People will think what they will think regardless of what you do. There will be people who don't care about your differences and those who will and then you know which table to eat lunch at. There is no hiding what we are so just embrace it.

[midnightmoon05]

I do t see a problem here. Just need to learn to deal with different types of people under different circumstances…. Everything else is just a distraction. Learn how to handle them…

we have all kinds of people we have to deal with… can be material things or personality issues or just a bunch of gossip or drama … just learn to handle work drama… I just have a good laugh and minimize situations… if they ask… I have a good laugh… walk away and say… guess…

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

So you do realize you’re blatantly admitting that you don’t trust most of your work team because they’re poor and you’re privileged, right? You don’t see how that makes you look?

[Asker]

When did I say I didn’t trust them because they are poor?

I dont trust anyone outside my family no matter who they are. Rich people take advantage of rich people all the time how you think they get rich?

Im kinda embarrassed if anything and dont want people treating me differently. I get little jealous comments off colleagues at work because they can tell im not poor but none of my things I have besides the ring on my finger was bought by my husband people just make assumptions about me and I don’t want people seeing me as a stuck up rich girl just because they've figured out im some what richer than them. At the end if the day were all on the same wage.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

If you can’t trust them, don’t work with them. It’s that simple

[WindAtMyBack]

Just don't flaunt it. There isn't much you can do about it otherwise. They apparently already know anyway. Don't be embarrassed about it either.

And I agree, £120 for a lunch box is absurd.

[Asker]

Its like a cool box bag and I don’t like using the work fridge at work because its dirty and people are constantly stealing from it so it keeps my food fresh still. Thats why I invested in something a little more expensive

[slatyb]

Just don't discuss it. Dress comfortably but leave the logos at home. Anyway I hope you have good taste and don't wear clothing with designer logos. It's tacky, noveau riche. If anyone asks, you can tell them you found it at a resale shop.

[strateguy632]

Good idea. Drive to work in your older car. Wear smaller jewelry not necklaces nor many rings nor fancy rings. I mean it!

[Asker]

My car is pretty basic, second hand ford because I've only just passed i didn't want to get anything to nice incase I damaged it, in anyway. Sometimes I forget to take my jewellery off as I've fell asleep with it on the night before and one of my bracelets is extremely difficult to get off but I try to hide it under my clothes

[exitseven]

Try and become aware of what you buy and what you wear. Don't wear designer clothes of fancy lunch boxes. Try to become what you want your co workers to think you are.

[msc545]

This really is not rocket science. Just don't take your expensive cars, expensive lunch boxes, expensive clothes, expensive anything to work. Take some just everyday stuff like your co-workers use.

[Jeff51]

Please. Rich people don't work with poor people. Even more wealthy people than what is considered rich. Get over your selve

[Asker]

Mate i didn't say i was Bill gates

[Abbycado]

Lmao @HollyK21 read this. XD

[HollyK21]

JFC😫💀

[Abbycado]

So rich but can't even afford a username.

[HollyK21]

Not even an identity!😩

[Asker]

Firstly you don't pay for a username secondly why do you two talk like bitchy teenage girls in your 20s kinda embarrassing 🤣 ... im mean like literally omg

[Anonymous]

lol shut up!