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I am a reserved guy who's humble and well meaning. I've never thought of myself especially highly, and I always noticed I was a bit different. Over the past three years I started to get a lot of attention in public; women lingering with me, flirting in public, inviting to join their circles at the gym, asking me for directions, getting a bit flustered when taking my food orders sometimes, passing me smiley faces on vouchers or writing notes on my coffee lid... being the person I am, (A) I was initially oblivious, and (B) I had absolutely no idea what I was meant to do.

To use an American term, I am a "Wallflower"; someone who is present and tries to join in but struggles due to hesitation. Now here's where it gets interesting; the frequency and quality of the women that are drawn to me is particularly high, high enough for people to question it when they haven't seen what I look like. Now, I never thought of myself as anything particularly special; sure I had a few genetic quirks, but doesn't everyone...

Well... that's the thing: My body might be more masculine and athletic in appearance than it should be when compared to my personality and lack of training for two years. If you want specific stats, here you are:

- Height: 181.6 cm (5'11.5")
- Weight: 60 kg (lean, low body fat)
- Horizontal hip width: 31.8 cm
- Thigh circumference (each): 48 cm (standing, firm raw muscle)
- Calf circumference: 34.5 cm (standing, very firm raw muscle)
- Chest width: ~31.1 cm (narrow relative to hips)
- Glute protrusion: ~20% of side profile (untrained raw muscle, firm)
- Leg gap: ~4.54 cm (minimal gap despite thigh thickness)
- Shoe size: UK11 Men
- Palm width: ~9 cm
- Palm height: ~11 cm
- Middle Finger Length: ~6 cm
- Hair colour: Natural golden blonde (never dyed, never styled, only conditioner)
- Hair style: Basic side part with comb as it dries after washing hair
- Moustache colour: [Same as above]

A girl might be like he’s the perfect guy - 6 months in dating she is used to him, he is not novelty, no matter how hot + rich etc...

That ‘other’ guy she sees on social media with the abs is novelty as she never had that.

Like with me apart from fame + defined six pack I do have every gift a man can have and I’m a nice guy. I can see my girlfriend getting more and more comfortable around me. She no longer compliments my tall height and ultra luxury things my family own or my looks, career as much. Like I am hung because I’m so fat but I’m only a bit longer than average.
She’s getting over all of it. I can see it.

Women want more and more, they want the novelty.

Best to just get happiness from yourself as no girl will make you happy.

Getting a girlfriend has made me realise, it’s only about your relationship with yourself that matters no other girl will complete or fulfil you.

Every god dang time! lol

Just to be clear its ok to have preferences but some dudes (and women) take it wayyy too far, even assuming things about the women getting these things. Like slutshaming them or thinking they're easy for example. I wonder if you press them on it what they really think about women in general? it's probably not pleasant. they all tend to vote a certain way too...

https://medium.com/@karmenkingery/why-socially-conservatives-especially-men-seem-to-dislike-womens-tattoos-63d4a0f4ae6d

Anyways what do you think of this irrational hatred these dudes have of women wanting to get tattoos or piercings on their bodies?

Read some of the dudes responses here to see what i mean: Should I get my nose pierced?