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Okay so my mom has been controlling all of my life, and has been a tiger parent since this is an Asian household. She’s is emotionally, physically, and financially abusing my siblings and I since we were born. However, recently like within the last few years, my brother started to go out and have sleepovers claiming it was for work when we caught him actually having sleepovers with his girlfriend (we’re all not allowed to date either).

here’s the kicker, my mom doesn’t do anything to him about it. She claims she has discussions with him and he “apologizes saying he won’t do it again” but does continually in front of her face to the point she just lets him go no questions asked. But, if I want to do the same, it’s a problem. She doesn’t see an issue with her ways and feels like she’s treating us appropriately.

i told her that I wanted to go to a sleepover today since I’ve been planning it for quite some time and she threatened to get physical with me and all that other jazz. I’m not sure what to do or if I should wait until tomorrow or something like once I leave the house to tell her I’m staying the night even though that might cause more problems. I talked to my therapist about this as well and he’s telling me to do it but I’m not sure how. Also I’m 22 years old. What do you think?