I have a married sister but since she does not live in my house (the one she used to live when she was single many years ago) she believes she had lost control over to decide on things she believes she still needs to ahve control of. Ok she is married but she has her own house and now I believe she does not have any right to control or decide on things in the house I live with. I dont get involve or has a say in her house. My sister is the older sister she is 55 years old. The thing and this is irrelevant. I live with my brother and my mom who is elder or a senior. My brother and I are the ones taking care of our mom in the house (my dad passed away 9 years ago, he was a medical doctor) and maybe I give my sister the benefit of the doubt that beause she no longer lives in our house, she can't decide on things that matter to our mom or that decide on things she can't see due to she lives somewhere else as she is married so for that impotence perhaps she needs to be like an inspector in our house. any chance she gets when she stops by the house or see us or visit us. She has to know the way my brother and I take care of mom, if she is filling her needs, is like she does not trust my brother or me on that.
My brother and I in any moment is neglecting our mom we are always with her and try she is ok. My sister is aware of that sure and she had thanked us before but somtiems my sister gets overboard and believe my brother and I has to do more. She does not help us financially or help my mom financially (at least cooperate with something, not that she has to collaborate with a lot of course) for her medical issues, the house things, all of that my mom pays it with her own money my dad left her maybe because of that my sister feels she does not need to cooperate in anything. My sister what she likes is criticize and question my brother and I that we dont do things fast at the house, we take our time but is not that we dont do it simply we are more laid back on that,
For instance since we dont have like lot of money for some house repairs (my house is old for sure), ceiling, get rid of old stuff, buy new things) we had to save money for many
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Your sister has the right to make comments about your mom's care, but if you and your brother are doing the best you can, and she isn't around to help, she should not complain.
Tell her you and your brother are taking care of things and that she should take care of her own things. Then ignore her.
But she keeps doing it and nag and criticize. She noiw want sme to buy a certain type of salt for mom low in sodium. I mean I dont cook with lots of salt in the house but she does not like the salt we are using and now is suggesting us to buy low sodium or low iodine salt. I try to cook with little salt anyway but she may believe I dont. Liek I said she doe snot live in the house to know if I cook with too much slat or not. She saw the brand of salt we use maybe is the reaosn she wants us to change and use the one she uses. Also she is telling us to buy a certain furniture cleaner for the furniture. Like I sai she criticiz and compalisn but she does nto give any money then to buy the things she wants us to buy so she can be happoy we buy what she says. In her house she does nto prepare her meals is the maid who cooks for her and her hubby. My sisetr does ot even cook a lot.
Please re-read the last sentence in my opinion. Just ignore her.
No. Tell her to piss off. She’s your sister, she’ll get over it.