Shall I leave him for good or forgive him in time because it'll take me ages?

[Anonymous]

Me and my partner had a gender reveal party, and it went so bad I ended up breaking up with him. Let me tell you what happened. The sonographer accidently told us our baby is a girl, but we wanted to keep it a secret.. anyway, he wanted a boy so he was quiet all the way home; and when we was getting ready he'd just tell me I take ages doing my make up ext, and moaning. We got to the reveal, popped the balloon, blah blah blah, my sister recorded it and put it on Facebook, I asked her to delete it because I was going to put it up that evening after I've called my dad to tell him (as he couldn't be there). So my boyfriend called me f****** embarrassing because apparently I made a scene, yet he was being aggressive telling my sister to leave it. I got upset, as anyone would and went to the bar with my friends that came along. I didn't talk to him for a bit because I was angry, upset and hurt. Anyway, he blanked me like I was invisible, I started crying at the table and walked outside to calm down before going to talk to him, went to find him and guess what? He left. He actually left our gender reveal party and went to the pub. I called him and he was shouting down the phone telling me his dad told him "why the fuck are you with someone like like?" and apparently his mum called me a f****** idiot. To make matters worse, my mum told me he went up to her and told her I've been annoying him all day, and all I've done is moan, then went and told him what his dad said ^^^. I was disgusted, upset and embarrassed. I left when I found out about this and some people stayed, they didn't know what actually was going on so I probably looked crazy.🤦‍♀️ I left it for the rest of the night, and he started saying "all he does is look after me" trying to act innocent about it all. I was so upset I told him I can't deal with that behaviour. We've agreed to meet up at the weekend to get everything off our chests.. what do you guys think I should do? Help.

[AviatorTom]

It's obvious he has his heart set on having a son, and this really upset him. Talk with him and let him know that you will both care for and love your daughter, and that a son will be in the future. Relationships always have some hard times, it takes work in a relationship, which is not something most people are told.

In my case, my now ex-wife always wanted a daughter and our first two children were sons. Before we got married, we had talked about only having two kids. Well, my ex-wife did everything she could to have a daughter, and birth #3 was female. I guess the moral of the story is to look to the future, don't get stuck in the past or present.

[MotorcycleMan]

That sounds like a seriously huge amount of drama over what should have been a short conversation. Work towards that. Share your feelings without all the emotion and drama that you two seem to have together.

[Asker]

Yeah that's exactly what I thought myself. We've agreed to talk out everything at the weekend face to face as we both would of calmed down a lot by then. Its just such a shame how it turned into such a rubbish night which was supposed to be full of celebrations.😔

[Anonymous]

Why have kids with someone you don't want to spend the rest of your life with? Another single mom in the world?

[Asker]

Never said I didn't wanna spend the rest of my life with him, but the way he acted has made me dislike him.. like no one should act like that, it's disgusting!

[Opinion Owner]

Yes he sounds like a jerk, find someone else.

[Anonymous]

Why do people like you and him have children? Why? WHY?