Do you feel people in their early 20s are immature in all aspects?

[Alwayreckles93]

I am the secound oldest and taken over the responsibility to watch after my younger siblings. Now my 23 year old little sister has the mindset of a 13 year old. I paid for her college texts books car. You would of tough she would had no issue getting a career earning a degree. No not my sister isn't she would skip school go out messing around with boys. No she is angry at me because I made ab appointment with her doctor to get her on birth control. The last thing I want from her is to be a single mom. Clearly she isn't mentally or financially ready to bea mom at 23. Then guess whos going to be taking care of the baby me of course. She doesn't have a job , I took her car away as the car and insurance is under my name. Last year she damage someone else proverty I had no choice but to takenher car away. I did help her get a job threw one of my friends that owns an insurance company, I pay for her training course which she file to show up at the interview when she had everything in order. My mom did a horrible job at spoiling her. Now she can't navigate the real world. I've seen this immature childish behavior in most people in their 20s.

[MrOracle]

You're exactly right in that you are dealing with the effects of parents who have completely spoiled their kids, never told them "no" or set any expectations or responsibilities for them, and, yes, they are immature and irresponsible. And only a healthy dose of "tough love" is going to change anything for them.

You need to sit her down and set some boundaries and expectations for her. If she can't follow your rules, she needs to find some other place to live and figure out how to pay for it. If she gets pregnant, you won't be taking care of her kid - she'll have to figure that out on her own. Etc. Let her know, UP FRONT, where the boundaries are and what the penalty is for breaking them.

She won't like it, and she's going to take some tumbles when she has to face the realities of the world, and you'll want to step in and fix it, but you must not. You must make HER figure it out and solve her own problems. That will be hard, but it's what needs to happen. Tough love isn't just tough on the one receiving it - it's tough on the one giving it too, but it's necessary.

[Exterminatore]

I feel they are immature in most aspects.

[DryGermanGuy]

American helicopter parenting has been at another level for decades, the results are what you see now. A buddy of mine was visited by his American cousin (both were ~20), the poor schmuck knew nothing about anything. He couldn't buy groceries for food, he didn't know how to use buses or trains, he had no idea how much alcohol was safe to drink, etc etc. All his life his parents organized and decided everything for him, including what and where to study, without them he was a deer in the headlights.

[Alwayreckles93]

Yes I agree with your statement. I havefamily living in France and kids 11 years old know how to cook and capable of doung things forthem selfs.

[Andres77]

I see this too. This is a very valid point.. there is a generation of parents who seem to be so afraid of the future that the keep their children even into adulthood so dependent on them that the children will never leave them because they have no choice because they don’t know how because they can’t do anything on their own. It is tragic and embarrassing.. my ex-wife and I are raising our kids to put ourselves out of a job. we want our children as self-sufficient as possible.

[AmeerX]

Stop trying to get her on birth control and tell her that behavior is just wrong. As a devout Christian why don't you just stop her from abusing her body for sex and nonsense. If a boy loves her then he should tell her to marry each other.

And age has nother to do with maturity or lack thereof. Not everyone is equally responsible so stop feeling this way.

You are not responsible for other people's actions. If you really want to help her then start by telling her to not do something instead of giving her an alternative way to bypass it like tell her to stop sleeping around instead of putting her on birth control.

[Alwayreckles93]

Your so quick to judge Mr. Karen I changed herndaipers when I was an 8 year oldnchild myself I was likenherbsecound mother. So dont try to come at me asifnyour Mr. Knownit all. FYI since you love to jump to conclusions yesnI didngivenher that advice and she ignored it. She was still sleeping around eve dough I told her about STFs and unwanted pregnacies. No you idiot I am not abusing Im doing her afavor. Now your so childish and immature to think its okay for her to not used birth control and get pregnant on porpuse when she isn't financially and mature to habe a kid. Get yourself check. GROW UP!

[AmeerX]

Getting sex is the wrong. Tell her to stop that instead of telling her it's okay as long as she is not pregnant.

[Alwayreckles93]

I never saidnits ok.

[Alwayreckles93]

I told her that its wrong and she ignore me still doing it.

[Alwayreckles93]

Your really annoying stop

[Andres77]

I know guys my age that are as immature as a teenage boy. He just never grew up. There are some young ones in here wise beyond their years.

stereotypes exist for a reason. It’s the majority. But there are amazing exceptions as well. Don’t write them all off

[Alwayreckles93]

Guys your age at the time when you were in highschool you guys would never goof clown around never made fun of other kids or fight with each other.

[Andres77]

Oh yes they did. Between elementary school and last week somebody my age was always getting in trouble for idiotic immature behavior age is no guarantee that people will learn the lesson and be better.

[Alwayreckles93]

Who knows wr can't always judge people. Some people have special needs their parents never took them to a doctor to get tested for a diagnosis. I a always mimdful of that.

[Alwayreckles93]

*we.

[exitseven]

yes, they have no concept of how the world works. They think it is like "Friends". They also have no survival skills. They have been codded all their lives so they do not have a good grasp on what can get you killed.

[jamesgoldman]

Often, my brother is the same age and still acts like a teenager

[Alwayreckles93]

Do you fee likenyou haveto babysit him? Or correct him on his childish behavior?

[jamesgoldman]

Nah, I'll let him make his mistakes

[WhiteBoyChill]

If she ever ends up marrying a guy in the future, I cannot help but think how much chaos she would add to the man’s life.

[Alwayreckles93]

Oh he won't blame him or be surprised if she ends up divorce in less then a week.

[WhiteBoyChill]

I see. So she doesn’t really expect any guy to tolerate her?

[Alwayreckles93]

She wants husbad and kids. I told her well more likely she will be a cat woman.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Hm. Well did you tell her that men don’t respect or want to settle down with women that sleep around?

[WhiteBoyChill]

I find it ironic she wants the traditional life even though she is living in non-traditional ways. Have it make sense

[PBandJ_Nerd]

As someone that is 24, I'd have to say yes. In your 20s sometimes you act mature and sometimes immature. Or at least that's my experience.

[OlderAndWiser]

I mentor young men in college and most of them are fairly responsible.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Could it also be that the men who seek a mentor tend to be the more mature men?

[OlderAndWiser]

@WhiteBoyChill Possibly true, to some extent, but it still proves that everyone in their 20's is not irresponsible. I've been doing this for about 10 years.

[WhiteBoyChill]

I should know because I’m in my 20’s myself haha.

All I’m saying is, most young men in general aren’t that responsible

[Bklynbadboy12]

Yes most people in there 20's were immature im sure you was to. That's how we become more astute and mature through our life experiences most of us don't much in our early 20's

[Alwayreckles93]

Well if you haven't realized we keep getting a lotnof kids still living at home with theirbparents in their 20s complaining about parents charging them rent. Nownyou toldnme beforenyou were 30 so most people our generation millenials by 18 we were ethiernliving on a dorm room or living in apartments. Once my mother stop recieving chuld support pay checks I was useless to herguess what I had to move out. Now good thing I save up as much as I could. I didn't get the opportunity to go to a traditional University I had to apply for a loan to a trade institution earn a degree in other for me to become a manager. Most gen Z people still depend on parents. Im sorry but I see it everywhere. Oh inflacion No excuse excuse people now a. days just want to live luxury when their salary isn't enough sorry.

[Alwayreckles93]

Now 19 year old myself I was paying $1000 for an apartment. If mt mom told me i could stay but pay $200 I be like og tell me where to sing.

[Bklynbadboy12]

I moved out at 18 and I loved it never went back

[elizamichale1]

Yes definitely

[Redstang88]

Some are, some aren’t 🤷‍♂️

[LiamJHayden]

Obviously not.