Do I break up with my boyfriend of 7 months in this case?

[Anonymous]

How do I approach dissatisfaction with my overall relationship? We met in June via Hinge, and from the beginning, he made it clear he had never been in a relationship and was focusing on getting his life together before getting into one, so we made things official in late August.

With that being said, like in every relationship, in the beginning, I was excited and felt we matched well and all was going great.

He introduced me to his family and began letting me into his inner circle, and that is when I started seeing a few issues and also began experiencing the other side of his personality, which is a mix of a serious, obnoxious and, at times immature 26-year-old guy turning 27 later this month.

I also began noticing that his parents were not that friendly, that his dad was incredibly controlling and that they were devoted Catholics who forced my boyfriend to attend church every Saturday and other church celebrations even though he has expressed that he doesn't want to. Furthermore, they control his finances and fear someone, or even myself, can take advantage of him financially even though I have a full-time job and we split the cost of our food and everything else.

Even though his mom cosigned on his home, and he pays the bills, she seems to have decorated the house in her own taste (the 60s), and his dad is furious; I visit or spend some time at his home, so both he and his mom try to hide that fact from him. Furthermore, he tells his parents everything, so I'm now careful what I tell him; as his mom got angry, we did a few Costco trips together, even though I paid for my groceries, and it was simply a fun activity for us.

Updates

11 mo

Also, he is adopted and has a brother with some developmental disability and would require guardianship, which my boyfriend will assume after his parents pass away ( they are in their mid-70s). Anytime my boyfriend mentions this to me, it evokes sadness, anger and a mix of emotions from him. In regards to sex, we began experimenting back in November, but we haven't really got the hang of it, but still trying.

[OlderAndWiser]

Can you honestly believe that your future lies with this guy?

[Asker]

nooo sadlyyy

[OlderAndWiser]

In that case, every minute you remain with him is a wasted minute that you will never get back.

[Pyrofox]

Just tell him you can tell his family doesn't like you and its making you uncomfortable and you think you need to just go your separate ways and that this clearly isn't working out. And that maybe in the future if life really means for you two to be together he'll find you or maybe not either way now clearly isn't the time to be chasing a relationship.