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I keep thinking about this.

My ex spent a lot of time and energy getting me to like her which I resisted at first. But then I fell for her and I showed her love in the ways I did like planning out thought out dates for her, getting her things which I thought she’d like whenever I saw anything on trips away and planning special things for her birthday. After a while, she occasionally dropped hints that she wanted me to show love by telling her I like her and that I think about her and she wants more of my attention and she sighed when I did things I don’t like (like go on my phone sometimes when I was with her) but she never said anything about thinking about ending the relationship or that it was affecting her a lot. Then she went away for a couple of weeks then she went silent then when I messaged, she was saying things like we’ll find a time to get together. Then she said she wanted a chat. I asked if everything’s ok and she said yeah, just wants to catch up. Then she seemed normal and had a chat with me about unrelated things then after some time out of nowhere towards the end of our catchup she said she’s starting to feel we’ve become more like friends recently and that she’d been thinking that for about a month. She said she’d discussed it with friends who said if she feels that way after a year it might be time to leave then she said she doesn’t see a future together but genuinely wants to stay friends. I had an inkling this was the case when she stopped messaging during and after her trip. 6 weeks on she keeps messaging me even if my responses are brief.

but I still feel confused, betrayed, angry and sad. And I don’t know how I should feel.

Like are there obvious signs of tension and it’s obvious to both partners that the relationship is clearly not working out or is it less obvious?

Like they’re planning future events and telling each other about how great the other is up until the last minute?

If you go on X, your feed will be flooded by "conservatives" that post anti-immigrant and anti-black content over and over. Many of these accounts love to only show black people committing crimes, particularly on white people, and claim that white people are at war with blacks. A lot of them even dehumanize blacks, tell white people to never relax around blacks and to stay away from them.

NEW: The Chicago teen who was sh*t by a lifeguard is now paralyzed and on a ventilator

Jeremy Herred Jr., 15, then 14, and 15-year-old Marjay Dotson were both sh*t on June 26

Jeremy was sh*t in the neck. The bullet struck an artery and his C4 vertebra

Dotson died from his… pic.twitter.com/vROuYAT66P

— Unlimited L's (@unlimited_ls) October 9, 2025

In the video above, a white male appears to be fixing his bike. He sees two black males approach him and instantly pulls out his gun and starts firing. One teen is shot in the neck and is now paralyzed. The other teen tried to flee but was shot in the back by said white male and is now dead. When you look through the comments, about 1/2 of them are trying to claim it was self defense and that the two black teens were planning on robbing the white male. Many even rejoice that the two black teens are dead and claim that it's good for society, since they won't be able to steal in the future.

Now if you are a white person and your social media feeds is flooded with this content daily, wouldn't this warp your perception of black people? Wouldn't this make people, who are already trigger happy and have racist belief, act hastily and do things like this? You can also argue that maybe this person was mentally ill and would have done this to a white person as well, but it seems like with the growing number of racist account and open racism on blacks that this person's judgement might have been skewed by what they saw online.

I never had children, so my experience is limited to observations of friends. Most young boys - 18-23 - are not eager to become a father, but I think between 23 and 25, guys start thinking more about planning their future and not simply living for the moment. As part of that change, I think most men embrace the idea of becoming a father. . . when they meet the right woman, of course.

Guys, was this true for you. Girls, do you think men are preparing for fatherhood by their mid-twenties?