Any suggestions on how to make a decision?

[Anonymous]

I got offered a new job 5 hours away from my current location but I've been seeing someone for 3 years but he constantly ends the relationship and then comes back to me. This has happened maybe 20 times over the past year and 3 months. I'm 31 and he's 42. His mum and dad's marriage was modelled horribly too his, his dad is a narcissistic and he has a negative view on relationships.
He says he wants to be with me and in a relationship but then refuses to label it. He also says he can't see a future with me and doesn't make any head way off planning evening the simplest of things. He expects me too which is just sad.

We are inseparable most days so I don't know what to do. My heart aches for him to say 'I want you, let's take the next steps' but there's been 0 progress and he's also never grown or changed in all 3 years I've seen him. In that time I've moved jobs twice, progressed in my self development but he's stuck not knowing what to do in life. I feel really stuck in my feelings but I feel I'm abandoning him by leaving

[HollyK21]

Leaving you once is one thing, but over 20? Please don’t miss out on a great opportunity for a man who does not see your value and isn’t afraid of losing you. This is a hard truth but he comes back and sticks around out of convenience. You are the only woman he’s ever met that let’s a him do all that, and still takes him back. He will have a hard time finding another woman who would accept this and that is NOT a compliment. Do better, want more. This guy is not the one to miss out on big opportunities for.

[HollyK21]

He even said he can’t see a future with you and doesn’t want to label your connection, I mean how much more could you possibly need to be done? To walk in on him with someone else or for him to ghost and literally block you from contacting him since you’d probably lack the restraint to stay away?

[AviatorTom]

Here's a good rule my parents taught me:

When in doubt, make the decision that is best for you. Because you have to live with ypurself.

[AI Opinion]

Oh la la, it sounds like your heart is playing tug-of-war with your head! 🌊💔 Your beau seems to have commitment issues, and you deserve consistency and clarity, not a rollercoaster of emotions. If his indecision and the on-again-off-again tango have you feeling dizzy, moving away might just be the fresh start you need.✨ You're at an exciting crossroads; it's your time to shine in your career and happiness. Remember, self-love is as important as falling in love! Trust your gut, darling. ❤️

[In_Trance]

block him and move on