Due to PTSD, I didn’t lose my virginity until 28. Basically what caused this is PTSD (rather not describe its origin, that’s so dark) that was so crippling I lost my sex drive for years. It basically felt like I was castrated.
I am not kidding, When I was 23, you could‘ve showed me that Megan Fox was willing to have sex with me and that she’d be sad if I rejected her, I don’t think I could’ve gone through with it then when the PTSD was in effect. There are studies (using war veterans) that show that this is really how bad this sex-drive shutdown is. Again, it’s almost as bad as castration.
So, when the sex drive came back, and when I could afford to do so, I hired a few escorts so that when I jump into the game for real I don't horribly disappoint a woman.
My female friends know I went on a trip but they don’t know where. I said it was a trip to see some family of mine and that we were both planning to meet there. Thats all a lie. They think I had a girlfriend all the way back in 2019 who didn’t work out and that I paused my dating life since (they saw me having PTSD so they believe that). Thing is, women are very judgmental of men who do what I did and I don’t think I could tell them ever. I don’t even think I could tell a future spouse (people don’t seem to understand why a man in my situation might do it).
Last, I will say I’ve already managed to get it for free afterwards, I just hope I didn't suck super hard in bed with her.
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No, I don't think it's wrong to lie about that. The lies you tell aren't intended to hurt or manipulate anyone, they're intended to protect you by keeping private info, well, private. The exact details of your PTSD and sexual history are not your female friends' business.
That said, I don't think seeing escorts years ago damns you in the eyes of all women or makes it impossible to talk about with a future spouse. There are some women who would understand, in fact there are entire countries where that kind of thing is more normalized and the women there don't really care. So I wouldn't overthink it or get too overwhelmed with guilt.
Grow a backbone.