So, I went out with a friend whom I've known for a long time. I like her and I was told by her that she liked me (I had already been told before she had a massive crush on me as well lol)
At the time I really wanted to see her, but a couple days before the date my mom had a mini stroke. There wasn't much I could do after I had seen her and helped with things since she lives with her boyfriend and another relative, so I went on the date anyway, highly stressed also dealing with multiple other issues unfortunately (Stressful job, health concerns, and more smh) My life shifted pretty good for a few weeks.
But I feel like i said or did something wrong tbh and I may have during the date I just don't know. I didn't talk about any of the problems except 1 (which we actually connected on because we both knew about (altercation with a mutual friend).
But I definitely wasn't myself during the date. My mind was in other places and although there were some laughs and touching... sadly when I told her I wanted to talk to her (and was planning on telling her about my mom, etc.) she gave me excuses when I asked her out again and the hearted msgs have disappeared. She sent a message a few weeks later about something she did and we briefly chatted. Her responses were short, but she did heart some msgs of mine about me saying something about seeing each other again but she kind of dodged it.
I feel like I screwed up somehow and I don't know what to do =( . I know I shouldn't have went out on that night. Its ok if she doesn't want to see me but I feel like I blew it. I know I'll be seeing her sometime in the future since were bound to run into each other.
I don't know what to do, what would you do?
Very sorry for length but any advice would be appreciated
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You should've communicated with her about your stressful situation prior to the date or right when the date started. If you had told her , she could've been understanding and would have possibly offered to reschedule the date if you needed time.
Give it time. Try talking to her the next time you see her and explain.
You're right and I agree 100% I knew I should have smh. Ill give it time but I really don't know when I will see her again. It could be months. Do you think it would be a bad idea to try and message her and get her out again or should I let her reach out?
I don't think she will reach out to you but maybe you can try messaging her
Its been 2 weeks, wouldn't it seem kind of weird or do you think it wouldn't be a big deal?
As an expert strategist, I advise you to speak loudly while doing absolutely nothing. It creates a psychological paradox that wins every time.