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Maybe they’re meant to be together?

I feel hurt after my cousin secretly started talking to a guy I confided in her about then tried to gaslight me about it and really started struggling with my mental health… I haven’t really dated in my 20s and he was my first real emotional connection.. I really wanted to be with him and we did talk and go out.. he ultimately ended up rejecting me and he just treated me like I was nothing.. I felt really depressed and I found out he was also attracted to trans women.. I have a trans cousin I was close with and I talked to her about it and showed her his @ twitter to see if he there were signs I missed… I just knew something was up awhile after and it sent me to pieces.. like just feeling betrayed and rejected.. I feel small.. and I feel like when I try to talk about it I’m dismissed and they’re encouraged..

I talked to my therapist and she says “is it so bad if they were together?” Or other people saying “so, let them fall in love”

So it’s just been a blow to my self worth entirely and right now I just kind of started doing Onlyfans and other stuff to feel somewhat good about myself and not think about never being chosen by any man.. and wanting to get work done.

I dated a man who discarded me fast after making me feel like he genuinely liked me but the moment I put a boundary on sex in which he knew about in the beginning he became very demeaning and he discarded me.. he is almost 40 and seems like he doesn’t know how to genuinely love a woman.. he seems to treat them like objects or status… since he comes from a religious, achieving family.. we weren’t intimate and we didn’t have a relationship bc he claims he wasn’t ready even though he made it seem like he wanted more in the beginning.. I feel like he’s the kind of guy who has a big ego.. he felt rejected and entitled but and there was no sense of empathy when he decided to discard and throw things back in my face… I just feel like he’s a man who doesn’t genuinely like women..

I think he lives a double life by possibly having sexual urges to sleep with trans women and he loves trans 🌽…

Can any man help me decide if this is typical downlow behavior? Seems like he can perform on how to treat a woman but is actually not caring or selfless/ knowing how to genuinely love a woman?