Why does my guy friend said I’m more unapproachable because I got fit and I’m hot to other guys?

[Anonymous]

So my guy friend admitted to me earlier today that he’s always loved me and likes me since day one. He said he alway made me feel beautiful even though guys didn’t see me that way. You see I was a chubby girl growing up (not really fat) and the boys I liked always liked the petite or taller slimmer girls. My guy friend (also tall and chubby) never cared for the hot, gorgeous girls or skinny/slim girls. I thought he would but he always chased after chubby tall me.

Boys would never look my way. I was never asked by the guys I want. I asked my crush in high school but he rejected me and said he only dated hot girls and if I was fit or slim he would go with me. I give anything to be a fit or slim fit girl. My guy friend back in high school said I don’t need to be slim to be beautiful and I’m better than the gorgeous girls. I thought he was just saying that. I know chubby girls can be hot too.

I always told him we’re just friends even the numerous times he ask me out. Give other girls a chance but he said no other girl would do and ask me again. Anyways I got fit, in shape and slimmer and I feel great. He said if I looked like the way I looked now, he would not have asked me out or go to the dance with him. I was shocked. Then he said I look unapproachable and now more guys find me hot and I’m too hot for him. He said even though I had some chub in me, he found me sexy. I didn’t care because I’m not into him. I did this for my health, not for guys.
I went from 201lbs to 155lbs. I’m 5’7. He is happy for me but now saying I’m unapproachable?

[Anonymous]

Dude your friend is a simp ass bitch. Waiting around for a scrap of food to fall from your table for him. He’s full of shit that he doesn’t find hot, gorgeous women attractive. He’s only saying that cause he can’t get them. Now he’s saying that about you because you’re in that league that he could never get. He’s saying that now w you cause you’re even further out of his reach. He couldn’t get you when you were chubby, now, he’s sure as hell not going to get you. You’re unapproachable to him because again you’re in that category of women he could never have a chance with. I hate to say this but it sounds like he’s trying to shame you for getting into shape by making you feel bad by saying you’re unapproachable. He sounds like he’s trying to get you to rethink this whole losing weight by saying is he right. Reverse psychology. Like should I just go back to what I used to be because now even more men aren’t going to approach me. Your friend isn’t a “friend,” he’s just trying to get w you. Get rid of him, he’s not a real friend.

[msc545]

Tell you what. In a private message, give me your name and your phone number, and the guy's name and his phone number. I will call him up and ask him your question since you seem incapable of doing that, and somehow think that a bunch of strangers on the internet will have the exact correct answer for you.

[Asker]

Okay you didn’t have to go there. I did talk to him about I and he said he liked me before I got slimmer and I didn’t have to change. If guys can’t see me for who I am and look passed my appearance they’re not the one. Fine a man that’s available (points at himself). I’m not incapable so that shows how much you know

[Nikki1989]

That says more about him than it does about you. Be grateful; you managed to avoid a bullet.

[DryGermanGuy]

Ask him. We can’t look into his head.

[Asker]

Y’all are no help. Need advice

[Anonymous]

You would be more likely to reject him.

[Asker]

Well i rejected him when I was chubbier so what’s the difference

[Opinion Owner]

Guys are less likely to approach a girl if they think their chances are low. You being more attractive increases that.

[888theGreat]

You sound like Trump

[Asker]

Excuse you