Why do I get less attention from men now that I got fit or “hotter”?

[Anonymous]

I was always a chubby girl. Been overweight my whole life. I have never once been at a healthy weight. I lost weight before but I gained it all back. Some of my family said good I don’t need to lose weight in the first place and women are supposed to be full figured. I was chubby and curvy. Plus I’m 5’9. And plus size.

ice always envied slimmer girls and the attention they get from guys. Now I am fit, feel better about myself and I wish I looked like that in high school. I went from 200 to 160lbs. I notice that guys look at me but won’t approach me. I have gotten approached more when I was chubbier. Even at 227lbs I got hit on a LOT especially by a lot of African men. My guy friend said he never thought I was fat and I was beautiful the way I was (he’s chubby but he’s losing weight too) he was a tall chubby boy.

[sawno]

It could be a race preferences thing, that part gives me a bit of a blind spot as I don't know what black men over there are in to and if its a huge asses / tits kinda situation where they don't care about the weight.

So lets assume the answer is the same as it would be here with the cultural preferences that I am used to. It would only make sense that the guys think your to beautiful to be single and you became unapproachable to the kind of men that dared approach you before. The way to fix that is to become more approachable, don't dress to impress, dress to express what kind of person you are so that your match knows to approach.

[BruceWayne32123]

Maybe they’re more intimidated by you now? Could have been guys that thought you were more approachable because you were on the bigger side so they thought their chances of being rejected were less.

[Asker]

I guess I never thought of it that way. I got approached when I wasn’t so hot but not I get looked at and they keep walking

[BruceWayne32123]

Do you have a before and after or I should say a before and current? Curious how big the change is

[Asker]

Even my guy friend said I was easier to pursue because the hot girls wouldn’t go for him and he was never interested in the hot gorgeous girls or slim girls. He only chased me and he said I’m not the girl he used to know because I didn’t need to lose all that weight to be beautiful and I was beautiful the way I was. Now I’m too hot to be pursued. Okay ouch but it’s whatever because I’m not into him anyways and he knows that.

[BruceWayne32123]

Can you DM me? Might be easier to talk about all of this

[bowenw]

It's impossible to know what they are thinking, but it might be that they feel you are out of their league.

[Asker]

Maybe. My best friend said I’m unapproachable by some guys now because I’ve gotten “hot” but at least it weeded out the crappy ones.

[Anonymous]

The more attractive you are, the more attention you get. I used to get next to no attention when younger. Now I get tons of attention if I wear something showing my arms.

[beefcakebradybatson]

When you were fat, you wouldn't have been hit on by THIS black man.

[Asker]

Well too bad. I did this for my health. It’s fine if guys don’t like my weight loss. I was just fed up with being chubby.

[beefcakebradybatson]

It should be about your health, not to be attractive for dudes.

[robocop666]

you sound like you are skinny and not looking good on you

[Asker]

I’m not skinny! Im at a healthy weight. some people keeps saying I’m too thin and chubby/thick looks better on me. I don’t care

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Because men are shallow and materialistic

[Asker]

Of course they are

[jahaims]

Fat chick's are easier to fuck and approach

[Asker]

Have fun.