Is it easier for a divorced guy or gal to find their next serious partner?

[DishLady]

Please only answer if you've been through the wringer of a divorce. If you haven't... please refrain. Thanks.

Was catching up with a guy friend who's the same age now that I was when I got my divorce. I can't even tell you how surprised I was to find that he split and was dating again (less than a month after his divorce, which was finalized right around the holidays). He's very easy on the eyes, so I was not surprised that he found a new gal, however I did think it was strange that he found her so easily and stuck with her immediately. (Perhaps he knew her from before the finalization of the divorce... I don't know... it's none of my business.)

Everyone was happy for him. No one had a bad thing to say about him. Everyone welcomed the new gal... NP.

But women I know who divorced went through the wringer of being called out (even in church), and being suddenly rejected by friends and acquaintances with single brothers/cousins, and being harassed for "being a cougar" just for speaking to a younger fellow. There was no insult at all that seemed too low or too petty to call a divorcee (including myself). One woman disapproved of the ONE guy i dated after my divorce. She said, "You shouldn't be wasting his time. You should leave him for the ACTUAL single women." I asked what that meant since I was single and I'd been with the guy nearly two years. She said, "Oh, I mean UNATTACHED, TRULY SINGLE (no kids, not divorced and unclean)." She literally looked me in the face and called me unclean?

I remember asking the guy if he was just biding his time with me and he said no, that the idiot woman was just fishing for gossip, but after that we did grow apart bc his mom arranged for him to marry "someone clean" from back home "to make babies with" ... VERY ironically, those two are divorced now bc she couldn't make babies. And he's dating again, though dating around and not settling down again.

[BonzoInBitburg]

It depends. When my marriage fell apart I worked on myself a lot. I got in better shape, started a new business and tried to become a better person all round including trying to understand women a bit better. When I felt ready to date again, it was super easy. I was divorced at 50 and kept dating simple with only coffee dates at first because I was going out on 3 different first dates a week when I felt like dating. When colleagues found out I was going through a divorce, they were all trying to set me up with their single friends. I used to be a good looking competitive athlete in great shape in high school and I can honestly say it was WAY easier to date as a balding middle aged man with a dad bod. It also didn't hurt that I make enough that I wanted a traditional wife that didn't work outside the home. Women seem to like the idea of not going to work

[BadApple69]

I think it’s easier for guys than it is for girls.
If for only this reason…. Younger girls are ok with older guys. More established, more mature, but I don’t think there are many young guys who want older women. Young guys want a family. An older woman may not have the time left to give him a family.
The point is an older guy can get older women and younger women where an older woman can’t.

[OlderAndWiser]

This is one area in which there is a persistent double standard.

[MidnightRivers]

From what I've seen, read, talked to people about, it seems society judges women more than men from divorces.. Women get more stigma from it, men get less which it makes them move on quicker and find new relationships quicker. Which is crap

[exitseven]

My best friend was married four times. He never had any problem finding the next one.

[Randomguy28]

Yes if you're financially stable then its very easy

[AgentG111]

After divorce it can be 50/50 of what you are looking for In order to move ahead with it.

[Amur8711]

Gal in my opinion. Its always easier for women to find men

[Imjustagirl1520]

Not as an older single mother bffr