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People are only faithful to their partner, because they don't have a choice otherwise or feel compelled to by their upbringing. The options are typically "get one person and sleep with them" or "stay single and sexually frustrated". Some people can sleep with whoever they want without needing commitment, but most cannot. Monogamy is a sort of a "necessary evil", not an intrinsically "desirable outcome".

“But it’s good for children”, you might retort, “having parents’ partners go in and out of their lives is bad for their development” and that is the only time, where monogamy becomes relevant. Imagine, if you will, that the population is rendered immortal and/or never ages. Reproduction is now immaterial, because you have an indefinite lifespan. Changes the equation quite a bit, doesn’t it? If there’s no need for children, but the urge to f*ck is still there, why not pursue it completely and relentlessly? Enjoy pure pleasure, as much as possible, without restraint or complication—granted, we’d have to eliminate all STIs, but I digress.

All of which is to say, if every person alive could enjoy an entire population of their choosing, having sex with as many different people as often as they desired, vs settling down with just the one, why would anyone choose the latter over the former? Nobody would limit themselves, if they didn't have to. Monogamy is forced upon people.

Do you agree with this idea? Why or why not?

In china a lot of people call women 30+ ‘left over women’ ‘the orange that didn’t get sold’ ‘the sugarcane that didn’t get sold’

Whereas men single and 30 get called ‘quality real estate’

Makes sense, after all they will be the biggest superpower. You have to shame people, if there’s no accountability nor values what’s the point. People need to be settling down earlier so they can have kids.

Women and people generally are too selfish these days, I’m struggling to find a really good woman that’s ready to settle down. I find i match with tons but it leads to ghosting etc.