Should single women at 30+ feel shame?

[Anonymous]

In china a lot of people call women 30+ ‘left over women’ ‘the orange that didn’t get sold’ ‘the sugarcane that didn’t get sold’

Whereas men single and 30 get called ‘quality real estate’

Makes sense, after all they will be the biggest superpower. You have to shame people, if there’s no accountability nor values what’s the point. People need to be settling down earlier so they can have kids.

Women and people generally are too selfish these days, I’m struggling to find a really good woman that’s ready to settle down. I find i match with tons but it leads to ghosting etc.

Yea it’s good to shame

No it’s not good to shame

[Summeroflove]

Shaming people is wrong it depends on her situation. But I’ll say finding someone you truly love can take time and too many people rush into relationships that end horribly.

Yes, there are people who sabotage themselves better then sabotaging someone else along with themselves

[Anonymous]

Well in China there’s also nearly 35 million men in their 30s and 40s who are “leftovers” because they still can’t find a wife. There’s also the gender gap, with men outnumbering women thanks to the one child policy so it makes sense for the women to be very selective with who they choose to be their partner.

If you’re ready to settle down, you also need to be sure that you have what it takes to provide for a family. Maybe you have the finances, but what about her emotional needs? You seem like you still need to work on your emotional immaturity and perception of women.

[Asker]

Men aren’t really leftovers are they? We don’t have a biological clock and age like fine wine

[Opinion Owner]

Some are, if a man still can’t financially support himself (and a family if that’s his goal) by a certain age, if he doesn’t take care of his body, if he has no goals. Men don’t necessarily have a biological clock but they have to race against the “societal expectations” clock

[MzAsh]

Women have realized settling down in marriage or motherhood too young only lands them in poverty and dependency with men they aren’t compatible with.

[Loki97]

I mean for society to do so I think it’s more productive to correct the lies of feminism by teaching that hey you can be a girl boss but don’t expect to be desired by men in your 30’s and 40’s unless your okay being a sex object or settling for left over men (men who have no ambition).

[Flower7]

No because not everyone WANTS to get married or have kids.

[oldpigg]

Men's attractiveness to women online peaks at age 50, while women's attractiveness peaks at age 18 and then rapidly declines.

[Plugs]

Peaks at 50 ? Never found a 30 plus male attractive in real life

[oldpigg]

https://www.science.org/doi/10.1126/sciadv.aap9815

[Kingofkings1992]

“ I find i match with tons but it leads to ghosting etc.” Maybe stop being a jerk and won’t be ghosted. Did that thought ever come into your head?

[Anonymous]

Never seen that happen. A well of royal women need well off royal guy and vice versa

[Anonymous]

No, shaming is not good for anyone. But I do feel bad for them.

[chrissykerdock]

i agree to a certain extent