What do you think about women in their thirties being single?

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Lliam · Accepted Answer

I think it's totally fine.

30s isn't old by any means.

Some people are in a rush to get married. They may have fantasies of fairy tale romances with "they lived happily ever after" endings. They may want to start families.

The probability of first marriage by the age of 30 is 74% for women. So it's not strange at all for women to still be single in their 30s.

48 percent of those who marry before the age of 18 are likely to divorce within 10 years, compared to 25 percent of those who marry after the age of 25.

60 percent of couples married between the age of 20 -25 will end in divorce.

Those who wait to marry until they are over 25 years old are 24 percent less likely to get divorced.

Some people who wait to get married are busy with education or building careers. They can still engage in relationships without jumping into marriage.
Some people don't want to have children and raise families.
Some people just haven't yet found the person that they want to spend the rest of their lives with. That's the category I fell into.

I had girlfriends from the age of 16. But I didn't want to settle down. I wanted to experience life. I didn't even start thinking about finding a life partner until I was in my mid-30s. And I didn't want kids.
I finally met my future wife when I was 40 and she was 2 1/2 years younger. Neither of us had ever been married. We had both lived full lives by then, built careers and had amazing experiences. We got married two years later.

We both considered marriage to be a very serious commitment; a pledge honor; a vow of lifetime loyalty. So we didn't enter into it just because it was expected of us.

So I don't think there is anything pathetic at all about women in their 30s not being married.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

I don’t think anything of it , everyone walks different journeys in life , if she chooses to stay single in her 30’s that’s her choice , not everyone experiences the same things through out life , I am 44 and never thought once I would be where I am at now in life , I am content but not 100 percent happy and not where I expected to be. Sometimes I think to myself why am I still here , What else is in store for me? My beliefs on girls and love and relationships was so wrong, This world is filled selfish people and assholes , trusting someone today is hard to do , I experienced so many obstacles that taught me complete opposite of what I was taught as a child , for whatever reason , finding happiness is hard to come by , Giving your heart to someone doesn’t mean shit today they will still shit on you , Their is so much negativity around us that trying to find positive is a mission , but the only thing I do for myself is keep moving forward and have my faith in God cuz without God, I really don’t have anything. I would love to fall in love and find someone that wants me like I want them but in today’s world it seems impossible to do because so many people are selfish and only really care about themselves , everyone wants to be wanted and loved but when they finally get it , they decide they need opposite instead of fixing what’s right in front of them they jump ship thinking someone else will save them , One thing I learned in life is Selfishness gets you no where , if you can’t remove selfishness for someone then they can’t remove selfishness for you

Puppystarfish23 · Accepted Answer

I don't think there pathetic at all. I think it can sometimes lead these women to become bitter towards younger women who are attractive or in a relationship as I've experienced this myself but that's because they are usually insecure about how society treats them and I think it's wrong.

a lot of people think if a woman is single in her 30s something must be wrong with her but sometimes it's the best thing for them and what makes them happy. I honestly believe some people just aren't made for relationships and that's okay.

Unfortunately I do think for men and women it becomes harder to date in there 30s

Squaresquirrel · Accepted Answer

I don't think anything. I don't care and not my business.
If the question is "what do you think about women in their thirties being single and whine about the lack of good men?" Then the answer is they probably have an unattractive personality that turns men off and their expectations are delusional.

aWes0MeNeSs · Answer

What's wrong with it? There are many reasons someone could be single at any age.  It's absolutely not pathetic.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I think most of them would probably be happy to find a partner for a LTR.

nitsuj86 · Answer

Brutally honest answer. 30 isn't bad, I'm 35, I would date a 30-year-old. But I also realize that this age comes with different expectations than someone younger.

Is it pathetic? Not the words I would use.

Usually, the feeling I have is not one of pity, but of "this is what you get when you waste your good years".

A lot of these women have wasted their 20's chasing after douchy guys, having children with other men, etc... Then when they reach 30, they think they can magically find this perfect man that will accept all of their flaws, get married in a year, and still have time to pump out 3 kids before they hit 40, and can't have kids anymore. Or they decide to "settle" for the nice guy who will help them support their children, because the man they chose to reproduce with is a POS.

On top of that. To be brutally honest I want 2-3 kids. Sure if I meet a 30-year-old woman, that is still possible, but let's say I meet one of these good women out there, but she is 35. Is she going to be able to have 3 children at that age? Maybe, but it's not gonna be easy or cheap.

So as a 35-year-old single man, the choice seems to be to choose a younger woman, that is easier to deal with, hasn't been damaged by multiple men, and can still have multiple children with me. Not to mention better looking usually.

Or choose an older woman, that rushes me, is emotionally damaged, possibly has children from another man, and will have difficulties producing the family that I desire.

I'm making a lot of generalizations, and of course their are plenty of women in their 30's that are good women. But from my experience, the good ones get taken.

VanillaSalt · Answer

Most women and men want a family. Let’s be honest. On your death bed being surrounded by your children, grandchildren, and partner and their all crying and you understand how much you will be missed. Or you can go the career route. Having a successful career working 60-80 hours a week no time to go out or anyone of substance to share your time with. On your death bed with the best care money could buy and your caregivers whom are in it for the money with you at the end.

What fool don’t feel something thinking of being in either of them positions…

Thing is women care more for people and men for objects. Women are emotional and men are stoic… Hobbies and coping are what men do. Women will have pets and antidepressants. A lot of people will die alone… who do you think will be better off at the end?

Slartybartfast · Answer

It's their choice, dating is for the young. If you're not married by 30 you probably never will be. One of the main reasons for marriage is to provide a stable home to raise a child in, so once a women is past childbearing age it's understandable they stop dating. Men have a few more years for children but many men, if not most men, have given up on women by then if they weren't successful finding someone in their 20's. Dating has become so Terrible for men thanks to online dating I often wonder why any man still tries.

Qdbrown · Answer

Depends on the situation. But it's a red flag, because women are voluntarily single for a reason. That tells me they were not picked up on the first cut.

This could mean they are boss-chicks, mentals, garden tools, and less than ideal women.

But it's worth checking them out. Sometimes women get caught up with life, maybe taking care of an elderly parents, had to take care of family business first, doing something meaningful with their lives that kept them out of the singles scene.

I would definitely go in with eyes wide open. Don't get too serious too quickly, and really learn who she is. Actions speak louder than words, and if she trying to trick you, there will be hints and sometimes revelations.

Wester1967 · Answer

Yep. All the party girls who were queens of planet earth in their 20s were beached like shipwrecks just a few months later. Every 20s era party feminist, i don't need no man girl I knew ended up 1. Fully Single and alone 2. Single mom fully alone 3. Divorced and alone. 4 Childless and Married to a drunk 5. With ONE kid married to a high level simp and not even 100% sure he is the baby daddy. There ya go.

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly i’m in my 20s and i say keep your options open don’t just focus on one guy unless y’all are serious. dress up and look cute & post cute photos when you’re having a good day and want to for your own benefits & so guys who are attracted to you will message you. or just go out more to different places and be you! make sure you find someone who loves you for you ! i went months without talking to anyone it was like i wanted to be with someone but it’s too much work. but it’s a beautiful thing once you find someone so don’t waste time girly!

Gloree · Answer

No. They are not pathetic. I started dating at 33. He is my first and current guy. I have never been so happy. I am glad I waited for the right one.

I see the guys who asked me out from my school days and I don't regret my decision because most are divorced, and some are now playboys. I got a couple of them coming back to test the waters again but my door is now shut. I'm no longer in the market. people find love at different times.

Some are not interested in relationships. My friend who is in her 40s told me she will never get married. She hates commitment and likes to have time only for herself. She said relationship is too much work. I asked if loneliness don't bother her. She said loneliness don't bother her to the point of wanting a partner. People are different.

erandal · Answer

Please tell us why you think that women who are still single in their thirties are pathetic (I was single well into my 30's). Also, please define 'single', what about casual boyfriends? I'm looking forward to your detailed answer that will be worthy of discussion.

Anonymous · Answer

Why do people hate on 30 years old single women? Why do especially some boys on gag think they are giga chads who is wanted by all women? You know you will struggle to find someone if you only prefere young women in your 30s except you are a rich tall guy who has no problem with cheating golddiggers. Since no self-respecting young woman would date a rich man who could be her dad.

Women under 30s are the minority. Acording to the statistics women prefere similarly or 1-6 years older men, and not old fucks. Dont complain why you are an incel aka single when you only want a tiny minority of women. People on gag act like it is a crime to be 30 years old.

HighValue · Answer

I have no interest in them. They can do what they want.
I'm a good guy that never had casual sex and didn't have kids with any ex, and I want someone for an exclusive LTR and to create a family with, so women past 30 don't appeal to me.
I'd recommend they go for a single father or for someone that doesn't want kids if they are trying to find someone for a LTR.

Just in general outside of dating they can talk to me just like any other regular person and it is fine.

t-8900 · Answer

My demand sharply increased when I hit 30, but I'm a guy. I got lots of looks, still do and women take me more seriously. I would say it starts to become the opposite for women around 28-29 onwards for most of the single, never married men and men sitting "on the top shelf". I however don't care about age, I care about values and how she conducted herself the last 10-15 years. That'll be the deciding factor tbh

Browneye57 · Answer

Fresh off the cock-carousel. They're coming to the realization that they may never find a quality mate. They've spurned any number of qualified candidates, just thinking she's going to find prince-charming and he's going to swoop in and sweep her off her feet.
Ain't never happening. It's a lie from the time she could speak. Even disney got in on this shtick.

TonyV · Answer

Pathetic? No, they may have chose to be single.

I do think they are playing a dangerous game tho, irs definitely time for them to get serious about a guy if they want to have one.

If I find myself single, in decent shape, with my own place, and with money in my late 30s or 40s I'll probably be looking to date the 20 year old girls who didn't date me when I was in my 20s, not people my own age.

Losalt · Answer

Well, in my country the *average* age for women marrying is 33,1 years old...
And for men 35,5...
And I think that's numbers for peoples first marriage only, although I'm not sure...
That said, most people here *never* gets married at all now...

metaldragon563 · Answer

Being single in the 30s is the norm now. A lot of people aren't married until about 40 cause finding someone to marry is super hard these days and people are getting divorced a lot. I mean its sometimes on the woman herself if she's rejecting like every guy when he's a good guy and she has high standards so thats kind of on her, but then again divorce rate is getting higher and a lot of people aren't even maintaining LTRs for even more than a year.

HawkPerception · Answer

Definitely not pathetic. But most likely either jaded from dating after having bad relationships with guys in the past because they had terrible standards for guys. OR they have a lot of qualities that don't really help long term relationships (bad at honest communication and understanding and leave any time any little thing they don't like comes up).

But I'm getting close to 30 myself and I'm glad there are single women around my age because I could potentially have a partner my age.

kinggeorge007 · Answer

No, not pathetic. I'm a single man in my mid-thirties. I understand why and what could make someone single in their 30s and it's not pathetic. I haven't lowered my standards. That's why I'm single. And I don't regret that. Because the last time I lowered my standards, I was betrayed. I'll never let that happen again. I'm cool as a single. I'm gonna be the cool uncle!! 😎️ You can be the cool auntie 😍️

exitseven · Answer

Everyone has different life experiences. Getting married is not like making an appointment to get a haircut. It works on it's on timetable. There are plenty of single women in their 30s who are pretty and nice that are very dateable. Some are just busy with careers or spent their 20s in a relationship that suddenly went bad.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

Not pathetic in the slightest. I spent my 20's partying, my 30's being a workaholic and now have crossed 40. If I had married for the sake of marrying I'd be miserable today. During my adult life I have met, and dated, some amazing women but none were right for me or me for them. You either meet someone that's a long term match or your don't. Forcing things just leads to messy future. So no I don't find it pathetic. I find the divorce rate pathetic.

DermalPunch · Answer

Everyone's situation is different. I think most who say they are truly happy without kids and a family are in denial. That's just my opinion. But no, I would never label someone pathetic based upon their relationship status.

RationalMale · Answer

Pathetic? No. Disadvantaged? Yes. Guys in their 30's more hitting their stride, becoming more confident and attractive to women, (granted some let themselves go and become gross toads) and girls in their 20's are an attractive dating option compared to women in their 30's.

Sarahr123 · Answer

It’s not pathetic. Some people have standards and won’t just be with anyone for the hell of it or to say they’re with someone. Only people with inferior intelligence think it is pathetic to be single at any point in life.

Anonymous · Answer

That they are women in their 30's that are single. You're relationship status doesn't indicate the person you are. Do you think this of men? There can be so many reasons for a person to be single, AND, it's not BAD! That's the real issue, why society views single as "bad" and "something's wrong with you".

Sixgunsound · Answer

I think that women in their 30s have exchanged sexual market value status with men in their 20s, and many of whom are finally faced with the realities of that. Not necessarily pathetic, but misled and lied to by modern Feminism.

Twalli · Answer

If they've never had a relationship, it might be a red flag, but it's possible they got out of a relationship recently. My girlfriend was in a 10 year relationship until 28. She started dating me at 32 after several short (less than a year) relationships in the interim.

PJH359 · Answer

It’s a trend that has been consistent since sometime in the 90’s…I’m fine with it since I interact with younger ladies from 25-35 years old. My answer is YES…just be sure you’re on the same page with the subject of having children.

Anonymous · Answer

It generally depends on their past.

A girl who partied and racked up cock in her teens and 29s who is single is pathetic and deserving of her situation

a girl who was in a long term or hadn’t been with anyone but got her shit together instead... are not pathetic. It’s unfortunate.

Better_off_here · Answer

I think that it takes time and trust to find someone you truly care about and want to be with. it takes time and energy to be able to just have that with anyone you meet.

love takes time. i think this would be what i say for any one at any age that is single

shaysh87 · Answer

its so sad that anyone would think a single woman in her 30s should be seen as pathetic. what sort of people do you associate yourself with? doesn't sound like decent people.

Anonymous · Answer

I’m 30 and never been in a relationship. I’m about myself and if they right person comes along cool. But I don’t want to spend my life saying “ wow I’m alone” I focus on my career, friends, and family. I’m glad I didn’t have kids early and I’m glad I didn’t rush into anything.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think they are pathetic, but it does raise the question in my mind about how they ended up in that position. Was it a matter of their choices and priorities, or have they just had bad luck with relationships? If the former, I would be a little leery of them.

Tiptoetamm · Answer

I mean I'm in my 30s single but I see no problem with it. I'll find my Mr right until then I'ma do me

Jendcheuebc · Answer

No. I’m tired of hearing about women in their 30s being thought of in such a negative light. Like everyone’s situation is different, it’s not black and white.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

It depends on the reason. If she's led a life with my level of hardships, being single could prove a blessing. No one to desert you when the going gets rough.

Femphile_xoxo · Answer

If she's not looking for a relationship then I said good on her. I totally get not centering time around finding relationships. Besides at least for me, I have my friends.

Guy13 · Answer

No, that’s silly. Pathetic because one is single is nonsensical. There’s plenty of other items that could make the pathetic list. Maybe we can figure out why? What do you guess is pathetic about you?

hahahmm · Answer

It's a symptom of her not being valuable in a long term relationship so she could not get that. Now you may say it's because she didn't want that but these aren't mutually exclusive.

Anonymous · Answer

It depends. If she's attractive, why is she single? Unless she's dumb or sexually inert, she could have a partner. Men don't want extreme women, like stupid chicks, ignorant, sluts, gold diggers... Those women end being alone even if they're attractive. So, yes, she could be pathetic.
If she's ugly, it would be normal.

Dargil · Answer

They may be divorced. They may also be Lesbians. They may also have demanding careers that crowd their lives.. They may also be too selective.

mobiusforniner · Answer

Many appear outwardly happy or social, perhaps a frail attempt at trying to feel or look younger, but my experience is they are inwardly very lonely and sad

TheBootyChest · Answer

I don't mind it one bit. I'm in my 40's and single. We all have our reasons for being single, but that shouldn't stop us from looking.

molonski2 · Answer

Pathetic? No way , ITS GREAT ! , no reason not to be , its as it should be , be careful  It shows you are real..

FreyaRed · Answer

Their choice their business. Constructing life quality solely basing on relationship a person has, isn't especially smart.

AydenHazor · Answer

They are absolutely not pathetic! Every single woman I know in her thirties is an amazing person and, even if they do desire to get married, is wise enough now to look for a truly good man.

Lionman95 · Answer

I´d ask myself which kind of career they chose because that would be the explanation why they are single.

JSmuve · Answer

Well based on how much attention women allegedly get, I'd think she's either not interested in relationships, is asexual, is very introverted, or has high standards.

lovedejj_xo · Answer

I find this stupid my friend turns 27 this year and has been bugging me about not being married so much so she goes on a date with a new guy every other day. It’s never that serious for me. 30 is young enjoy life and travel.

Valso · Answer

"Do you find them pathetic?"
No, that would never cross my mind. It's their choice to be single and even better for me - one more potential fuck toy for me. :D Unless she's a lesbian - then I won't bother her.

SnakeBoop · Answer

There's literally nothing to think Congratulations on troll of the day award.

slatyb · Answer

It may be difficult for them to find a partner, particularly if they are college-educated and are looking for the same.

Irunya41 · Answer

Why would it be an issue? I'm much older and still single, may stay single my life. Dating isn't madatory

Phoenix-gb · Answer

Nope, I'm in my 30s and single so looking for exactly that.

TallAnon · Answer

I think we're shifting to a society where people get relationships later in their lives and that's no problem to me. I'm single at 26 and I am not in a rush.

cookiecrusher · Answer

Usually they are single for a reason.
Most of those reasons aren't good.

The will also have harder time finding a partner, due to their looks fading and past issues.

Other than that, just like any other woman.

Paul09 · Answer

Send them my way. Why on earth would that be pathetic? Who cares what the herd thinks. You do you , f the rest. Your choice. I single and 40. I just think I'm. Not attractive enough at this point. But could be all in my head.

England4eva · Answer

My ears are burning... I’ve come to hear the insults, come on then... let’s hear it🥤🎶🎉🥳🍾😂

TrulyPink28 · Answer

Just take care of yourself & look your best including managing your weight well.

SaraSmithishere · Answer

Well, I was born and raised in Los Angeles and still live here, and most women I know are single into their late 30’s...

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