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If You Were My Age in this situation, What Would You Do?

I’m in college (Ivy League) and met this girl who’s perfect in so many ways. She’s insanely beautiful (like “gets discounts just for walking in” beautiful), smart, ambitious, and knows exactly what she wants. She comes from a well-off, connected family but is humble and grounded.

She’s feminine, kind, respected, and supportive—even when I’m dealing with my insecurities. She’s told me she wants to be a mom, and I know she’d be an amazing one. She’s truly the full package—once-in-a-lifetime kind of girl.

We have a strong connection, but here’s the thing: she’s a virgin and has never been in a relationship. Not because she couldn’t, but because she chose to wait for marriage.

When I mentioned that I have a high sex drive, she said she does too, but she’s learned to manage it.

Here’s where I’m torn: I’ve had a few relationships and hookups, I am not a full-on player but part of me still wants to enjoy college and hook up before settling down. But then there’s her—someone I could definitely see myself marrying. Honestly, I wish she’d wait for me while I go through that phase, then come back to settle down.

So, I’m wondering:

Should I test the waters before fully committing, or is attraction + similar sex drive enough to feel secure?
Should I date her and let go of that phase?
Should I keep hooking up and risk losing her?
Will I regret not going all-in with her?
Does she deserve someone better?
She’s one of a kind, and I can’t help but wonder if someone like her can find a guy who’s successful and willing to wait for her.

Any advice from someone older would be really appreciated.

If You Were My Age in this situation, What Would You Do?
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