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I am 31 years old. I have held 25 jobs since the age of 15. I have been hospitalized in a psych hospital more than 20 times. In my late teens/early 20s, I became obsessed with finding another virgin to lose my virginity to. I lost my virginity at age 20 to a 16 year old young woman, and later I was arrested and convicted of stalking after trying to desperately and pathetically win her love. I ended up losing my EMT license after the entire ordeal. Then I went into software engineering and because I became desperate after trying to find a woman without a romantic past (after realizing being a woman's first love was more important than taking her virginity), I managed to get myself into an even more troublesome situation. I ended up getting kicked out of the software engineering community and being blacklisted all around town.

I finally managed to find the love of my life, and we are now married. We are each other's first real relationship. I regret all my stupidity from the past, but how as it stands, I am 31 years old and barely leave the house. Now I just collect disability.

I have held 25 jobs in my lifetime. While my tenure was very short, I have gained exposure to a lot of experiences. I am multifaceted in a multitude of different lines of work. I went from lifeguard in my teens to Advanced EMT to software developer with minimal post-secondary formal education (of course AEMT was an accelerated course I had to take). I have retained a lot of this knowledge too. I have saved lives along the way and have worked on projects for multi-billion dollar companies by the age of 30, including Zoetis, Daimler, and McCain Foods. I am also working with state legislators to pass much-needed legislation. I have appeared before county commissioners with concerns. I am probably one of the most memorable people others encounter, although a lot of this is for bad reasons.

I have had a very rough road growing up, even into most of my 20s. I was hospitalized involuntarily countless times. I missed most of my high school years being in psychological treatment centers. By the time I graduated, I was desperate to catch up on most of the adolescent experiences I missed. I only wanted to lose my virginity to another virgin at the time, which left me in a bad psychological state. I lost my virginity to a high school girl at the age of 20, which led to a whole bunch of issues with the law, mainly because her daddy called the law on me. It was a weekend fling, considering she wanted nothing to do with me afterwards. I was kicked out of multiple colleges, and even had my gym membership suspended. I lost my EMT license. I went on dates with a lot of 17-year-olds in my early-to-mid 20s, until I got my first real girlfriend at the age of 29, whom I am now engaged to and expected to marry.

If you grew up with your father in the home, and if you had a good relationship with him, then he probably was the most important man in your life. . . for a period of years. But, at some point, his importance assumed a lower position and another man, most likely a man near your age, became the most important guy in your life. When did that happen? When you started getting a crush on boys? When you started dating? First kiss? When you became sexually active? When you agreed to have an exclusive relationship? When you got engaged? How did your father respond to his loss of status in your life?

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So, I am a second-generation immigrant from a very traditional and conservative country, now living in one of the most liberal Western countries in the world. I am very grateful to be living here as the quality of life and opportunities are just a lot better; however, needless to say, the cultural differences are immense.

One of the things that always bothered me growing up was this "rush" to lose your virginity, especially as a guy. My friends would drag me along to clubs and stuff, and I'm not a bad-looking guy by any means, and opportunities for me to have "one-night stands" have presented themselves, but I never really had any interest in this.

Call me corny, but the idea of being intimate with someone I do not have a very strong emotional connection with, someone who couldn't be my wife in the future, did not appeal to me.

Guys talk about this stuff, and I am open about this in my friend group as I don't feel like lying about it, but I find myself being the subject of "virgin" jokes quite often, especially considering my age (which isn't an abnormal thing in my home country).

Now, I know it's all in good fun and I know they have no malicious intent, but I can't help but wonder if this would be a problem for potential future mates. So my question to you girls is, if a guy you were dating in his mid to late twenties said he was a virgin, would you immediately associate that with negative attributes? Would this be a problem or perhaps not your first choice, would you be indifferent or heck even prefer it?