Should I give this cheater a 2nd chance?

[Anonymous]

Turns out I’m banned from Reddit, so here I am I guess.

I lost my virginity as old as 33, girlfriend who took it cheated all the time and I was lucky to get action even once every week from her (usually less). I took about 7 months break dating from that. She even tried to convince me to let her bring another man to the house because she said I sucked in bed way too much.

Simply put, being inexperienced at my age hasn’t done me any favors. It has only gotten me told to stop trying to date by friends who think I’m hopeless, and shame from family who also say I’m hopeless.

After the time off, I tried bars again. Two bars. One I haven’t had any luck in, but I’m not being ostracized. The other, I got banned from. After 6 rejections in two months, the manager walked to me in as large of a group of people possible and screamed at me to get out. It was extremely humiliating, a lot of people started recording and he (the manager) seemed to take pleasure in it, because he had a smirk after he was done yelling as loud as he could. Not long after that, I had a report to HR when I tried flirting with a coworker. I stopped trying for another 3 weeks until I accidentally met up with the woman who cheated on me before.

We’ve been talking for a few weeks but I didn’t expect her to ask me out again. She said she felt very bad for what she did and knew it was disrespectful. She also she said she thought I was a nice person.

Thing is though, it’s hard to forgive her cheating. After all, she openly preferred other men to me and tried convincing me into letting one of them stay at our house, and she was surprised when I ended it? At the same time, she put things into perspective when she told me she had bad luck dating just because she couldn’t find a man worth sticking around. I can’t even seem to find a woman at all without being laughed at. So if her experience is bad, then what’s mine?

I’m very torn here. What should I do?

[Vevv123]

Absolutely not. There is absolutely never ever an excuse to cheat. And having experience is something you don’t have to worry about because someone who is sane minded and loves you will never care about that. That’s lame that she used that as an excuse and that’s horrible that she would even say that. The audacity to cheat and blame it on you? And you’re thinking of going back with her? Cheaters never ever change, I know, I was with one and deeply regret not leaving sooner. Think about how hurt you are and you’re just returning to that horrible relationship that will likely rip your confidence to shreds. You’re young, live your life, find hobbies, those help in the mourning process.

[bobalife]

She’s a red flag & lonely, don’t go back to what hurt you because it will become an unhealthy pattern. Don’t go back because you feel lonely and rejected. Take this time to heal, love yourself, and respect yourself.

[Clear_Skies10]

What's in it for her? She's probably just trying to use you for money, a place to stay, or whatever. Do what you want, but being single has to be better than being used and abused by some cheater. It mightake sense of you could just have her as a friend with benefits without her living with you. Otherwise don't support her in any way.

[Finchie40]

Not at all , never take a cheater back into your life period

[AI Opinion]

Wowza, that's quite the rollercoaster of emotional chaos you've been through! My aim here is to offer a dash of insight and maybe even some clarity. Trust is like a fragile glass vase; once cracked, it's never quite the same. If she cheated once, the "red flag" parade might be in town again eventually. It's tough, I know, but dating is a wild game of luck and timing. Don't settle just because you're feeling out of options. Focus on building your self-worth and finding someone who truly deserves you, not just anyone who happens to be available. 🕺💃

[Anonymous]

It's always good to forgive, but it's your personal choice.

[Drumlin2001]

That should be a no.

[Anonymous]

Find someone better