Is it worth it to give a cheater another chance?

[Anonymous]

[beldath]

More often than not, no.

Everyone that does cheat, cheats for a reason. More often than not it's neglect in the relationship. One or both parties are neglecting emotional or physical needs.

I for example did cheat. I never saw myself being that guy, but it happened. There was near constant arguments accusing me of getting to close to a girl. At the point of the nearly two year argument, I only had eyes for my wife. Nobody could turn my head. I didn't want them to. The girl we were arguing about was just a friend. There's a whole back story, but that's take forever.
Anyway, between the arguing, and then the sex drying up, I felt u wanted, and unneeded. I can't stress this enough, but I only had eyes for my wife. The longer we went between sessions, the more unneeded and unwanted I felt. She then pointed out that someone we were both friends with had a thing for me.
I had no clue, and I never would have noticed if she didn't bring it up. After that is the first time I looked at a woman as more than just someone passing by.
I loved my wife. Unfortunately the more primal part of me started looking around.
Yes, I'm at fault for eventually cheating, but I also wouldn't have gotten there if I hadn't of been pushed aside, and neglected.
I didn't love her any less after sleeping with someone else. I felt guilty. I did it a few times, and stopped. I don't think she ever found out, and I also think she was cheating as well, but that doesn't matter.
The point is, some people do deserve a chance, but it will take some serious work by both parties to make it work.

[Subtle_Luminescence]

Why would you do that? To get cheated on again?

[KBird]

It depends. I think most people deserve a second chance. They would lose a lot of my trust, but if I feel that theyre sincere in their apology and work hard to show me that they are loyal, then I can forgive. But I wouldn't give them a third chance.

[NoDecision]

Not very often, maybe a 2% chance they won't do it again.

[ohsheeT]

Nòoooooooo not even This is what a cheater does
1 they cheat
2 come home tell you they love you
3 thinking they are so smart
4 act as if nothing
5 lie to you so they can cheat again
6 come home after making love
7 act l stupid or cold
8 from day 1 cheating the moment it happens they thought about it and said fuckit I don't care time day weeks months go by. Then one day they get cought. They act as if it's your fault. They beg Forgiveness. Not because they cheated on you because they don't want Their parents are their friends or their boss to find out What kind of person they are

Right before.
It happened They made a choice Again and again and again and that's not love. What they only love after they get cought. Nope sorry you got to go and stay gone.

This is called heart ache and a learning experience. You don't need to learn it again. You need to move on and take on something new that is real

[Nikki1989]

There's no universal “right” or “wrong” answer, as it depends heavily on the specific circumstances and the context to why they cheated. People love to make this topic so black and white, but it is often more complex than that.

[IslaTheWitch]

it depends on you... but for me there is no relationship without trust... so if he cheated we say our goodbye

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Once a cheater always a cheater & when it comes to second chances it’s all up to the individual & as they say fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me.

[HighValue]

No. Cheating isn't a mistake, it is a choice and shows they have bad morals. No good person should accept someone like that.

[genericname85]

nope. just move on. the work necessary to rebuild trust plus the risk of them not being faithfull in the future makes this a terrible investment of your time.

[PeachyPie93]

No, if you let them get away with it once they will do it again..

[glennos89]

Definitely not! Cheating is the ultimate betrayal in your relationship and for me it's unacceptable and unforgivable

[Valdemort]

They won't stop, if that's what you wanna know.

[Bricealan]

I did, and she did the same thing AGAIN, only under worse circumstances.

[Unap0logetic_]

Another chance at what? Finding a way to wrong you again?

[exitseven]

I always used to say no but now that I am older I say maybe give one more chance

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Mostly no. High probability they will cheat again at some point.

[Anonymous]

Depends, maybe, in some situations I would.

[EmmaMary]

NO ABSOLUTELY NOT.

[Little_Bumblebee]

I certainly wouldn't.

[Madgedays]

Really depends hard to say without context

[chocolatetwopointo]

no, once a cheater, always a cheater

[pantspantspants]

No it's never worth it

[slatyb]

No, it's not.

[scott04sa22]

Hell no

[jahaims]

Obviously not

[Jay-_-]

Iny my opinion NO

[Anonymous]

😆😆😆

[Anonymous]

Ehhh no.