3. emphasis on the random. we've never met (don't know if we ever will in the future)
-any or all of the above
Only asking because guys in the past have friended me even tho I've never met them before and we might share the same network.
but we do go to the same school. not necessarily the same year
As for me, I don't think I go around looking for people (who I don't know) to friend even if we are in the same network.
How often do guys do that?
And how often do girls do that?
And do you usually accept? Hesitate at all?
I'm guessing people only do that if they think that person is attractive, especially if that person has made their profile private/limited access
But again, then I'm like what do you have to gain if you add this random person as your friend? access to their profile I guess, but not much else, unless you intend to contact that person in other ways such as message them or something
& do you ever feel weird if after you friended a person on FB & like a while later you actually meet them in person (but you don't have a lot of interactions generally)?
it's like we've..sort of met before. I know who you are..but I don't "really" know you.
maybe it's just me...
i did not realize so many people would comment on this. thanks to all who commented :)
Nope, I never accept friend requests from people I don't know or never met. If there are a few mutual friends, then maybe I'll accept them.
I don't accept people I don't know, simply because, obviously, I have no idea of who they are, what they're like, or even if they are actually the person they claim to be on their profiles. Plus, what with ID theft being a big thing these days, I don't exactly like opening my Facebook information to those I don't know.
A girl friend of mine would often get friend requests at least twice a day, and about 75% of them were random people looking for cyber sex and being general stalkers and creeps. I realize it's different for girls and guys in terms of attracting the weird ones, but it shows you just don't know what you're getting yourself into when you add someone unknown.
I'm all for it... When I do do it it has been in groups for meeting people randomly on facebook. I kind of think of chatrooms, and social sites as the new age pen pals. As the computer has taken over the pen and paper... We connect internationally to people we probably won't meet via other means. So I usually will accept it from random people, but if people don't ever talk to me or respond to anything... than it annoys me because why would they add me in the first place... So I'll generally delete them in that case so they're not just making it harder to see what is happening with people I do talk to.. Does that make sense?
A girl I've never met friended me; I saw she was a fan of my work, so I friended her. She does have many mutual friends (now that I think about it, I don't think she's ever seen me at a gig). She has EXTREMELY limited view of my profile. She's a bit clingy, and she has no idea of social graces, but I've never met her, she can't see anything but the basic information, and she can not write anything.
If they're fans... and I've met them a couple of times, I've gone to school with them, or they're in a related field AND have mutual friends, I'll accept it. Sometimes I will take a wait and see approach; one girl I have yet to meet in person, but she is going to attend a group that I go to; as the group hasn't started for the Fall, I am waiting in order to get to know her a bit better first.
But totally random? I doubt it. They'd better explain who they are first before I decide.
I get random girls all the time, I don't add them because I don't know them (made the mistake once and it was some girl say hay check out my naked pics, and it came up in my friends news feed, I'm friends with my mom) if I never meet you then I won't add you but I will consider it if we have a lot of friends in commo just due to the fact that I may one day meet them
I'm a Chinese guy living southwest China, in the past two days, I have been trying to make friends with you U.S people online. What a sad story, nobody talked to me. As for now, I find out why, and I think I should stop now...
You people are the same to us. Nobody tend to talk to strangers, even online.
Chinese can't browse twitter or facebook or myspace, there are firewalls built by the goverment.
I think it may be different for guys than with girls, butthen again maybe not ni usually accept them because I don't really care. When I am on Facebook, I don't really care that much who adds me. Unless it's one of those fake profiles for p*rn sites.
well its only facebook, and if they stalk you or something just take them off your friends list,
NO, NEVER ACCEPT, THEY ARE ALL ROBOTS THAT WILL ATTACK YOU AND YOUR COMPUTER. SOUCE: IT HAPPENED TO ME
There have been some cases where I've accepted a friend request or two just because of networking. It's sort've awkward when they add you and don't say anything. After a while if they still don't say anything, I'll just remove them later.
I think some people are just too shy to make "friends" (I really hate the way this word is always misused) irl. Most of the time, I get people from my college adding me. I'm sure we've seen each other around. There are also some people who like to collect the number of friends they have on fb/myspace because they have no life. If I believe they are one of them, I'll remove/reject immediately.
Facebook is kind of like Myspace now. Its all about knowing who you know. Or friending who you know. Facebook is more or less like a phone book directory except with more intimate knowledge of people.
I don't usually do that. If I don't know them personally I would delete them after I added them.
Now... there was a recent article in cosmo that says that: people stalk you!
if you put on your status something like: going out all night partying, be back tomorrow...
then the stalker will come to your place thinking you are out, and when they find you not there, they will break in and steal all your stuff. this is a true story. celebs have had this happen to them. you don't want this to happen. be careful of your facebook status updates AND who you have as a FRIEND because they may not be your friend.
Ugh I get fr from random guys all the time. I like to say I'm only friends with people I know but that's not true. I maybe have 20+ people whom I've never met. Yeah I feel awakward when I add some random guy, especially if he tries to fb chat me.
I'll add them if we have a lot of friends in common (usually) or if I know who they are. Like, I'm friends with my cousin's wife even though I've never actually met her in person. I've never friend requested anyone that I don't know, though.
no, don't ever. You don't want people you don't know stalking you. If you feel questionable about actually knowing them, send them a message asking them how they know you. My ex friends random girls just to jack off to their pics. There's a lot of creepy people out there
If they are completely random, and we have no mutual friends, then I would definitely not add them. This really p***es me off! I ignore them but even then you get some who don't get the message! I wish they had a block them button like on MSN that would really help a lot.
If we have mutual friends I will email them and ask who they are and email my friend to ask.
Uhm, I wouldn't. I normally message that person and ask, "do I know you from somewhere?" most times they answer back and sometimes they don't. If I really can't remember them at all then I don't even bother asking and I just "ignore"
Usually I don't accept, unless we have mutual friends (real friends- not just facebook friends I don't really talk to). If the guy sends a message I'd consider it, depends on the guy and the message he sent.
I've never done it, but I've accepted them as long as we have a few friends in common
nope. on my personal page, no way. no reason to add strangers. I'm there for close family and friends only. I don't see it as a "dating site". that's what destroyed MySpace along with the spam.
i would add someone if they lived in the same area as me
if we had mutual friends
or if he was cute
i've been added by people that I don't know, I just assumed maybe we went to school or something and I didn't really know them like that
I won't add them unless I am sure we've met in person, and if I run into them and we act like strangers to each other, I just remove them from my list. You have no obligation to entertain a complete stranger on facebook.
i only add them if we have mutual friends or a common network at least, not city though lol that's too broad, but like workplace or school someone might know me and I don't wanna be a rude bitch and reject their request