Why do guys randomly text? Why are guys so confusing?

[Anonymous]

i met this guy through a friend and I thought he was really cute. I added him on facebook and he message me asking if we met 2 nights ago and I said yes and we talked ever since. we had a really long convo that day then I told him I thought he was cute and he said the same and that he didn't want to be awkward and say it first. we exchanged numbers and he texted me a lot for 2 weeks then everything stopped which I did not care since we are both busy people with school and work. there was one night that I was going downtown with a girlfriend and I invited him to see if he was up to hangout that night and surprisingly he came and met up with us. he looked at me a lot, and would always follow me when ever I left. I was dancing with one of my girlfriends and he sneakily came up behind me and danced with me all night. there was one point where I grabbed his hand lightly to come but he then adjusted his hand to hold mine. I was really surprised. He also sends me mixed signals and I don't know if he really likes me or if he just wants to get into my pants. so my question are:

1.why do guys randomly text without say hi or what's up? ... but instead text saying something random like we never stopped talking from day one.

2. would just any guy be okay to just hold some girls hand that they only hung out with once or twice?

[ap1100]

I don't think holding a girls' hand is bad. It's cute. I'm sure there are guys who do it so you'll think they're nice guys and can lower your guard and sleep with you, but probably not a lot of that going around. Seems a lot of guys don't bother to hold hands anymore.

This is the dilemma of a relationship: you can never know what the person is thinking and you have to take risks. Just take it one day at a time. The fact that he's in contact with you means he's interested. If you're worried about him just wanting sex, go out with him for awhile before you have sex with him. See how he treats you. I find it interesting how girls are so concerned about be used for sex, when YOU are in control of when and with whom you have sex.

Good luck.

[AlejandroD]

Exept during cases of rape XD

[ap1100]

It's interesting, I thought this was the post where I mentioned that girls are more careful because of things like rape. It wasn't, which makes the point I made in another post that girls seem to think every guy is a potential rapist. Not a bad defense strategy, but it feels like it goes too far a lot of times.

[Asker]

we live in a world where things get a little bit more crazy. to us girls we think that guys only want one thing from a girl which is sex unless the guy makes it clear he doesn't just want that but maybe a relationship in the future too. we tend to easily get hurt especially if we have fallen for it before from a previous experience.

[ap1100]

Well, I can't entirely blame you, but relationships are about taking a leap and exposing yourself. You can't have a truly satisfying relationship without the potential for getting hurt. We've all gotten hurt. If you can't get past it, you can't really have a truly intimate relationship. Not all guys want just sex. If you think that, then you're part of your own problem because you think every guy is just a user. All guys want sex unless they're super-religious, but many want sex within a

[ap1100]

relationship. There are plenty of us who withhold our sexual escapades for girls we like. Unfortunately, we, too, get blown off by girls who think that we're "needy" because we call when we say we will and act gentlemanly. There are plenty of good women who respect guys like us, so we can't lump all women into one basket the same way girls can't lump all guys into basket of sex-aholics. BTW, I know plenty of girls who don't think guys just want sex, and they're among the happiest girls I know.

[AlejandroD]

1. Because its more likely to get a response then just another "hi hi ha" which most girls tend to response as.

2.yes, I see nothing wrong with it =p