Anonymous(45 Plus)+1 yWell, as a "blind" person reading this, and many of us perfer you use "visually impaired".
Unfortunately, I've found that many women are shallow, and for some reason the lack of eyesight or enough vision to do things that a sighted person does on a daily basis bothers them. For instance, driving an automobile. Sure, and while it's not fair that I can't drive due to my eyesight, but I shouldn't be penalized by a woman because of it. I can't help the fact, and besides, would you want me behind the wheel? lol :)
I do very well, I have my own home, a great job and I take very good care of myself. Unfortunately, when meeting women, I get the "you're a nice guy, but..." (fill in the blank...)
Nobody wants someone who is "broken". I had perfect 20/20 vision at one time, but due to an accident, that changed my life forever. Now I am hoping that someday medical research will break through and help me and others see again (or for the first time). I am 33 years old, and I've been "visually impaired" for almost 4 years. I was engaged when my accident happened, and the girl left a few months after I was told my vision could not be repaired. You would think after knowing someone for 4.5 years, it wouldn't matter. But the day she left, she looked at me and said that she wanted a husband that could see her and her children someday. It's something I'll never forget. Since that time, I've tried to meet people, either through online dating, or when out with friends, but when I tell women or they learn that I am visually impaired, they lose intrest in me, and that's to bad.
You're probably asking how bad my eyesight is, well it's 20/400 in the left eye and I am 100% blind in the right eye. I see colors, but not that well anymore, lots of contrast (lits and darks) but detail is very hard for me to see without magnification, and the same goes for text/print, I need at least 12x magnification in order to read. I use a screen reader on my laptop and I have a 30" monitor here on my desk with a program that allows me to zoom-in and read if I need to, or look at a photo, or whatever...
I do everything I used to when I had eyesight, I travel, attend sporting events, work, etc, and when people see me do this or I talk about it, they can't believe it or are impressed. I live my life as normal as I am able to, sometimes I have to find ways of enjoying things a bit differently than when I had eyesight, but I still get enjoyment.
It's to bad that most women can't see past my lack of eyesight to get to know me. I still have a lot to offer someone.
And while my situation is probably different than a lot of other "visually impaired" people, I'm not speaking for them, just telling you what I've had to deal with when trying to meet someone.
So if you ever meet me or another visually impaired person, give them a fair chance, don't judge them or treat them any different than the next person.
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For blind, I meant like the stereotypical blind, meaning they need a sight seeing dog for instance and can't see anything at all.
and I'm really sorry about your eyesight. when I was little, if I hadn't have gotten glasses at the age I did (age two), I would be blind today. so I can somewhat, but not really, relate to you. - +1 y
Whoops- I didn't read your whole post when I posted the thing below, so ignore the first part. sorry :-)
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2 things. I’m sorry that happened to you, and that woman who left you... I hope she gets a social disease and ends up an old maid. I’m also glad that happened to you. Saved you the trouble of having to be with someone so shallow and heartless. Showed her true colors. Maybe you’re a bigger man than me and have no ill will towards her, well then please... allow me to indulge in my misanthropic tendencies do it in for you.
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I am so sorry that this happened to you. No one deserves that. I really hope you find someone who isn't shallow. Not all of us are going to treat you like that. It's just a matter of finding the right one.
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Quit with you "I DECIDE HOW THE English LANGUAGE SHOULD BE USED AND I HAVE DECREED THAT CORRECT LANGUAGE OFFENDS ME AND I COMMAND YOU TO STOP SAYING BLIND EVEN THOUGH THE PERSON IS BLIND!!!" crap.
Another group acting so entitled that they get to change language.
Blind definition (as relation to physical blindness): "unable to see because of injury, disease, or a congenital condition"
That is a factual word that is 100% ACCURATE.
You are blind. If you don't like the word blind... I don't give a shit. Quit telling people they can't use 100% CORRECT and FACTUAL words because you come up with some idiotic reason to claim offense by it. That is your hang up.
Now, I hope you get vision back via some new break through. Quit guilting people for saying the word blind.
It isn't a derogatory term or insult. It is factual, correct verbiage. - +1 y
@Miristhesis just because the verbiage is correct doesn’t make it rude. I could call you a dumbass because that’s what you factually are but it doesn’t make it respectful to do so.
If others explaining how to refer to others with respect offends you then you’re the problem.
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Yes. If I loved them to begin with. Some blind people can see things better then people who see with your eyes. And if you loved someone why would you not date them. If you are in love you are in love. Nothing else matters.
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I agree with you- I think blind people can "see" us better than we can. They see what truly matters, which is our inside.
Sometimes I think this world would be a better place if all of us looked the same and all we focused on was people's personalities.
+1 yno, because I'm sighted and blind people should date only from their group. I like men with seeing blue eyes. eg: paul walker, brad pitt...they might be uneducated but as long as they can see and have blue eyes and are tall it's great to me. my parents after all agree with me that a blind guy is a burden on someone who has eyesight. as friends it might be OK to get to know a blind person but I would not allow him to enter my life other than on professional affairs, right now there is a blind guy, I think he has no girlfriend because last time we went for a gathering he was alone with a friend of his, a guy of his age maybe or a bit older. the other guys all had girlfriends but he was alone... so know that not many sighted people find blind guys attractive. so my answer is no!
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Oddly enough, not all girls are as shallow and ugly on the inside as you. I'm sure you'll find your Paul Walker or Brad Pitt someday, but for their sake i hope they see right through you and run the other way.
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You must be really ableist! How certain are you that Brad and Paul are also biased on disability?
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They can date who they like you awful, ignorant person
Hi MH,
You are very brave and positive, the girls who passed you, that's their loss, you deserve a better one!!!
I don't see the meaning of this question actually, Haha. I think each of us has many parts of mind, feeling, body, thinking... the blind (or use the way who MK mentioned "visually impaired") person just lost a small part of him. If I was denied because I lost a small part of me, I will not happy and glad that you didn't see my all parts, because you will regret and actually you are not worthy at all.
Furthermore, I think some of us obviously don't understand the key point/secret of maintaining the relationship, so some of us focus on the imperfection of small part, that's silly or pity, hahaha!!!
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+1 yif I loved them yes of course , anyone can go blind so what would happen to all the people who said no if the person they loved turned blind would they dump them? love isn't just about seeing each other although pysichal attraction does matter without a doubt but love is more than that so blinde, deaf or any kind of dissablity isn't going to make me not date someone if I like them I like them
good question30 Reply
I'm a girl but yes. I'd date a deaf one, too, but I guess I'd have to learn sign language. I'd also date someone paralyzed. If you like someone a lot those things shouldn't matter. I'm sure it will be more interesting to hear what guys have say though. Great question!
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Learning the alphabet in ASL wasn’t too hard for me. I love learning a new language!
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372 opinions shared on Dating topic. Yeah they’re no different than the many blind and incompetent people of today-
oh wait nvm, they are. While some COULD be bitter, most blind people are nice. So yeah, I would. 👌
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+1 ywow now that is a tough question. Maybe dating but not marriage. There is just far too much responsobility and hassle to get things going, + I would love to have my wife see me + I am a very visual person myself as I am a design artist and filmaker.
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I like your answer. I like that you were real and honest-- I'm sure some people on here just said they would but they didn't think about the challenges the situation would bring.
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I have dated a blind person before. It was the only relationship I ever had where she didn't screw me over in some way and make me have to dump her. We decided that we really weren't made for each other and are still friends today. She's a very awesome girl and I have nothing but good things to say about her. I wouldn't know what to do if she didn't want to be my friend anymore. Far more than I can say about any other girl I've ever been with.
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+1 yit depends who sets me up on the blind date.. if it is a good friend or family member or someone I trust, then I would probably go on it IF I wasn't liking anyone or getting over anyone at the time. what is the worst that can happen if you go on a blind date? you see her one night and never see her again.. or the best thing is that you start a relationship with her
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+1 yRather a girl can see or not doesn't matter to me as long as it doesn't negatively impact any of my typical deciding factors.
Personality: Personality can make up for a less-desirable trait or multiple traits all on it's own.
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Looks/Appearance: Physical appearance only matters to a certain degree.10 Replyyeah why not?
as long as she's smart, funny, talkative and beautiful yeah
if my current girlfriend went blind I'd still love her
would be a bit gutted cos I want kids and it would be so hard
but it would be worth it if you loved them
actually tbh wouldn't date someone physically handicapped though :( sounds awful00 Reply- 907 opinions shared on Dating topic.
+1 ySure.
Of course, with my luck, she would need the seeing eye dog, and I'd probably be horribly allergic.
It's not a deal breaker. If I thought she was beautiful, smart, charming, responsible and all that, then by all means, yes. Ha ha. And the kiss might be easier to do too, since she might not expect it. ;)
And wit MY level of ugly, it might be the ONLY way a woman would be interested in me.01 Reply
+1 yYeah, because he wouldn't focus as much on the physical aspect of things, like appearance, and probably focus more on the connection. If I like someone, these things don't matter.
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+1 yyea actually it would be okay because he wouldn't care if I'm ugly lol
but it would still probably be weird
im in love rite now and if he went blind (knock on wood) I wouldstill be there for him 24/710 Reply
+1 yI think the question here is why people lie that much?
people tend to anwers things that don't matches with the reality...
I bet most of them wouldn't date a blind people when they say they would...
this society hs a lot of hipocrisy...
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I woulnt date...10 Reply
Anonymous(45 Plus)+1 yAbsolutely. I wouldn't have to comb my hair. Sweet.
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Haha love your answer
I dated such a lady. When we started both of us understood it was not ever going to be a lifetime connection. What I found fascinating about her was how well her other senses had developed. Her sense of smell was so developed that she could tell I had walked away. Her sense of hearing was also highly developed. She did have a service dog that she loved. In all honesty, she never considered herself as disabled.
00 Reply569 opinions shared on Dating topic. I know it's an old question, but it got necro'ed, so fuck it :p
I actually once dreamt that my awkward butt saved a blind girl (we were both kids, and I didn't use my actual butt to save her). From that moment on we became friends and eventually lovers.
I still think about that dream sometimes. I wish I could meet her in real life 😫
So yes, I would :p
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+1 yMaybe. As to why or why not. I’m on the fence. Why? Well, if she was a good fit for me, her being blind wouldn’t bother me. Why not? She wouldn’t be able to do a lot of activities I’d enjoy with me. It would really come down to attractiveness and how good of a fit she was for me to say yea or nay.
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+1 yI would. I don't see a problem. It's not like all dates have to be dinner and a movie dates. There are other things to do. Music showcases at local pubs, comedy clubs, etc.. If it doesn't bother the other person, then why should it bother me?
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+1 yThey’re no less of a person. Some things would be harder, but some things would be easier. (Plus anyone who says love is easy is a liar.) Besides, we seem to be getting closer to being able to cure blindness. Maybe we could afford her a proper surgery one day.
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you would never know if that's the person you're supposed to be with if you didn't
they would probably be rweally interesting to talk to in my opinoin12 Reply- +1 y
I definitely agree-- they would be so interesting to talk to. I would love to know how they "see" the world. I would also challenge myself to find new ways to describe things using things other than sight. And also, it would challenge me to work on my personality. He wouldn't be able to see my appearance, so all he could judge me on is my personality.
Anonymous(36-45)+1 yActually one of my ex-boyfriends is legally blind. He was such a sweetie! I would do it again if there was some chemistry between us. After all, they are regular people.
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+1 yi don't honesly see that happening. its not that I couldn't love a blind person I just think that my pity and feeling sorry for the other person would get int eh way of the relationship
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I am the type of person who always feel sorry for others and I don't think I would be able to get over that fact
+1 yNo. Because of the simple fact I am petite and in a moment of danger I look to my man to protect us and the potential kids. Him being blind limits this. But I do hope blind people be happy and I wish them the best.
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Anonymous(25-29)+1 ySimple Answer:
NOPE!
Would I date someone who’s insanely obese?
NOPE
Would I date a man who doesn’t have a D-K?
NOPE!
Would I date someone who doesn’t have an arm?
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Yeah it’sjust a liability. If he looses his sight while already in a relationship. That’s different
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i would date a blind guy if there was chemistry it wouldn't even matter that he couldn't see.
10 ReplyIf we just have a spark, yes.
And I can know he's not shallow.
& if he's helluh hot, he can't see if I'm ugly or not, ahaha.
(:
so I'd just have to go snag him.
;D10 ReplyBlindness does not affect their personality or their gender or anything that would really make or break a relationship. But I am also patient so I don't know if I could if I was impatient...
10 ReplyYes, because we would get great parking at wal-mart and because no matter how old and ugly I continue to get. I'm beautiful to her no matter what.
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LMAO
no
i like someone who appreaciate my look and after I like someone who can be independant and be able to raise the kids like I can21 Reply- +1 y
Excuse me what's that meant to mean...I am 27 I am a single mother to a 4 year old, I have a guide dog, I am registered blind. I take my daughter to shop, I take her everywhere. I am independant, I pay my own morgage. I pay my own bills, My daughters best friend is my guide dog. He has brought us more enjoyment in such a small space of time than an self centered man has. And he does more for us.
+1 yYes of course. I think blind people have the luxury of seeing what beauty on the inside really is and don't care so much about looks like everyone else does
00 Reply1.1K opinions shared on Dating topic. don't see why not (pun not intended), I mean if we got on and clicked then I would treat them like any other person
after all it's the personality that matters in my opinion00 Replyyes, absolutely. do yourself a favour and watch this dvd: "At first sight". This is a true story and will give you a lot of insight into the world of the blind. Never try and change anybody, if you feel the other person needs to changed, it's posiible that he or she was not right for you in the first place. Good luck.
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+1 yI would actually date a blind person if I find her attractive overall and there also if the chemistry is there. Yeah being blind is not a deal breaker for me.
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Anonymous(45 Plus)+1 yYes I definitely would! Most sighted women are never happy with what they have and are always looking for something better! I feel that if treated right a blind woman would not feel compelled to cheat because she won't be faced with someone a little better looking every day. It's a shame folks are that shallow, but it happens a lot!
00 ReplyI really don’t understand why not. I want a man of character who loves me. This has never crossed my mind.
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+1 ywhy would it make a difference if they can see or can't their a human being just like you and me so yes I would
10 ReplyI would cause if you click then you will know that tthat person likes you for you and not for ur looks
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Anonymous(30-35)+1 yI helped blind people in camps , my father was an eye doctor too , but can't date them. All of my life I have worked so much for other people , family, animals , charities. I am tired now mentally, I never had anyone reciprocating the same. Even if I am dead sick it's always me alone. A bling girl will need somone caring. I have no energy left to do that.
00 Reply2.1K opinions shared on Dating topic. Sure, but she would need to have one hell of a sense of humour and zest for life.
10 ReplySure. If I like the person it doesn't matter if the person is blind.
20 ReplyHonestly if she has an amazing personnality and i truly enjoy being around her i have no problem. If she relies on me or not doesn't really matter.
00 Replyi would treat them like any other person. if we totally clicked I would go for it. depends if we got along
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+1 yI have immense respect for the blind. They would have to have some other exceptional trait for me to be with them.
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Anonymous(30-35)+1 yI don't have the time in my life to take the responsibility. Otherwise I probably would.
10 Replyif I like him yeahhhhh y not I think they are intersting how he can blind but be a succesful fun person
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+1 yAhh noo. They say love is blind but i wouldn't take it so seriously
00 ReplyI will date a blind person ,if I'm interested in her and she feel the same about me .
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+1 yIf I love them romantically, such disabilities matter not. In fact, I would prefer to date such a person, as at least they won’t see me and judge me on how weird I look.
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+1 ySure. If I was attracted to her then I would have dated her.
00 Reply I would most definitely Marry a blind man if I love him that will not matter one bit I'll be there to help him in need and we would help each other get thought all this it will not be easy probably but we will try our best :)
00 ReplyNo, i wouldn’t be able to handle it. And it also would make me sad to see someone I love with that condition.
00 ReplyIf she had a good heart, didn't let herself go & I thought she'd be a good mother yes I would.
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Anonymous(30-35)+1 yyea if it was someone I liked. having a blind guy as a boyfriend would actually be a plus for me because then they couldn't see how ugly I am.
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Opinion Owner+1 yNice of you to say :)
Yes, just because they can't see doesn't mean they aren't a kind person
00 ReplyDepending on her personality. I know some can be mean.
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Anonymous(36-45)+1 yI’m sorry. No. I couldn’t see myself doing that.
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Anonymous(36-45)+1 yI would. A touch can be a powerful thing. I mean when they touch your face.
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Anonymous(30-35)+1 yIf there is chemistry who cares if they are blind or not.
10 ReplyOf course not.
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That is because you are a terrible person, you could go blind yourself or get another disability, then what. Karma?
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@DarkLegacy If I am unlucky, just bury me.
Anonymous(36-45)+1 yI feel like I am blind anyway. But if I meet someone blind it will be like blind leads blind.
00 ReplyIf he was my type, why not?
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Anonymous(30-35)+1 yIf it was only in one eye
00 Replyi don't think I could :( its too much to handle
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You don't like a challenge?
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Hm what is that supposed to mean..i don't really watch soccer and I am not an arsenal fan all though they have really good looking guys haha.. and everyone has their own opinion. I personally can not see myself dating a blind person, it is too much to handle for me personally. why is it when people say I would never date an obese person, or someone who is too short or too tall no one makes a big deal out of it. and a challenge sure it is a chellenge but I hope no one dates me because they think
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What like the guilt that you are so self centered, is that too much to handle.
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no we are not self centered, what's wrong with saying no. I wouldn't date a blind person, I would only if I ever go blind. but now I am not so for now no.
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