My friends with benefits chose another girl over me! Whyyyy?

I just found out that my friends with benefits is seeing this girl seriously because they went out of town this weekend. I told him 2 weeks ago that I didn't want him calling me anymore and he was fine with that. Now it appears that he's seeing this girl. I am mad, hurt, betrayed and my ego is bruised. He told me that he didn't want a relationship but now he's seeing this girl. I've seen the girl and we both are attractive ladies; she doesn't stay in our state. I'm confused as why he would chose her over me and she is long distance. I am so hurt. I know I shouldn't be looking on their social media page but I can't help it

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Most Helpful Guy

  • if you didn´t want to get replaced with a proper girlfriend, you shouldn´t just have been friends with benefits. how can you be "hurt" if there only was sex and friendship between you? i mean the friendship can still continue without sex am i right?

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    • Correct! U juz got played. Sholdve ask him out before going further instead of regretting it at the end. Now its too late to ask.

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    • Ha ok thx.

    • Dats only if u lemme =P

Most Helpful Girl

  • With Friends with benefits, there is never any guarantee what is going to happen, or how it will end up. And although he told you he didn't want a serious relationship with you, apparently he found someone who he had More chemistry with, no matter how long or short the distance.
    Lick your wounds and move on. I know it feels as though you got not only slapped in your butt, but in your face as well, but learn from this valuable lesson that it's Not always a 'Benefit,' but a chance you take when you get yourself involved in this 'page' of This chapter.xx

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What Guys Said 10

  • The truth hurts but deal with it. Its an open relationship. Dont be reckless jumping into things so quickly without asking out that person first. Im solly ma'am.

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    • But I wonder what makes her special? The other thing I'm upset about is that he's my cousin's friend and my cousin didn't even tell me, I had to figure it out on my own.

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    • Lol get it over with. The world doesn't revolve around him does it? there's a thousand more men in dis workd dats a lot better than he is so take it slowly

    • We could vacate here together if ur soo jelly xD

  • You are a FWB. that means he comes over and bangs you when he can't get laid anywhere else. How can you get upset about what he did?

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    • But where was this girl while we were having sex

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    • That girl may not have been in the picture, yet.

    • I agreed

  • You were his friend with benefits. He never really saw you as relationship material.
    Did you think doing that would make him see you as girlfriend material?

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    • Right, he was never yours to begin with cuz u both haven't made ur relationship "Official" -.-'

    • I guess I would feel differently if we started out like that but we hung out and went on dates before I had sex with him

    • Thats more like friendship rather than relationship >.>
      If u wanna know if its a relationship, ask that person out.

  • You're hurt because you were a throw-away that got thrown away?

    That's dumb. Really dumb.

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  • Wtf? He dumped you because you were acting like a girlfriend (a clingy, bitchy one at that) in stead of a fuck buddy. Wow! Seriously? I told him I didn't want him talking to her anymore? No wonder he ran. Hahaha! Fix your shit or it will keep happening.

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  • Prob related to something about your personality if you think friends with benefits means legit relationship. and you both look the same.

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  • fwb. you are fucked haha. you got. you're no serious thing thats it and I think you being jealous will lead you falling in love to him. be carefull

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  • If you're just "friends with benefits" it should be obvious he's not that into you. You're just someone to bang.

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  • Girl, Men needs a serious relationship and we have standard for our "Wife Material".So sorry, start looking for a new FWB.

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  • Women friendzone, men fuckzone.

    Sounds like you're fuckzone material, no offense.

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What Girls Said 5

  • Because you were friends with benefits. Not in a relationship. If you wanted to be in a relationship with him you should have told him.

    What do you think friends with benefits are? They're definitely not people who are in a committed relationship.

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  • You have got to be kidding me.
    You are a friends with benefits. That's just a nice way of saying you're his "cum-bucket ho".
    He does not trust/take you seriously or even finds you all that great.

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    • Look, please use this as a learning experience. Don't be so easy. Value yourself and have standards. Don't let guys think they can use and dump you and you should do better. I mean, if it's a 1st time mistake then now you know, if not, STOP.

  • I know this is hard to accept but you clearly just didn't appeal to him in a serious way. You were his fuck buddy. That's it. He didn't feel anything more for you. This girl on the other hand is someone who he feels romantically attracted to. With you it was all physical, with her it's probably emotional and physical. If you two had a friends with benefits situation then it's definitely not his fault for you being hurt. You honestly only have yourself to blame. You are not supposed to be friends with benefits with someone who you are romantically attracted to. This is like, the essence of a friends with benefits arrangement.

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  • Sounds like you like him. Think about it carefully, you could tell him next time how you really feel or whats going on
    (Please answer my question)
    Thanks take care

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  • He didn't want a relationship with you

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    • Yes that's what I have came to terms with but I don't know why! What was wrong with me

    • it doesn't have to be you, maybe he just wants out because of his own issues

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