My friends with benefits chose another girl over me! Whyyyy?

[Anonymous]

I just found out that my friends with benefits is seeing this girl seriously because they went out of town this weekend. I told him 2 weeks ago that I didn't want him calling me anymore and he was fine with that. Now it appears that he's seeing this girl. I am mad, hurt, betrayed and my ego is bruised. He told me that he didn't want a relationship but now he's seeing this girl. I've seen the girl and we both are attractive ladies; she doesn't stay in our state. I'm confused as why he would chose her over me and she is long distance. I am so hurt. I know I shouldn't be looking on their social media page but I can't help it

[XRabbitHeartX]

I know this is hard to accept but you clearly just didn't appeal to him in a serious way. You were his fuck buddy. That's it. He didn't feel anything more for you. This girl on the other hand is someone who he feels romantically attracted to. With you it was all physical, with her it's probably emotional and physical. If you two had a friends with benefits situation then it's definitely not his fault for you being hurt. You honestly only have yourself to blame. You are not supposed to be friends with benefits with someone who you are romantically attracted to. This is like, the essence of a friends with benefits arrangement.

[Paris13]

With Friends with benefits, there is never any guarantee what is going to happen, or how it will end up. And although he told you he didn't want a serious relationship with you, apparently he found someone who he had More chemistry with, no matter how long or short the distance.
Lick your wounds and move on. I know it feels as though you got not only slapped in your butt, but in your face as well, but learn from this valuable lesson that it's Not always a 'Benefit,' but a chance you take when you get yourself involved in this 'page' of This chapter.xx

[ChiaChinchilla]

Because you were friends with benefits. Not in a relationship. If you wanted to be in a relationship with him you should have told him.

What do you think friends with benefits are? They're definitely not people who are in a committed relationship.

[lkjhg69cum]

Wtf? He dumped you because you were acting like a girlfriend (a clingy, bitchy one at that) in stead of a fuck buddy. Wow! Seriously? I told him I didn't want him talking to her anymore? No wonder he ran. Hahaha! Fix your shit or it will keep happening.

[genericname85]

if you didn´t want to get replaced with a proper girlfriend, you shouldn´t just have been friends with benefits. how can you be "hurt" if there only was sex and friendship between you? i mean the friendship can still continue without sex am i right?

[Keyspirits]

Correct! U juz got played. Sholdve ask him out before going further instead of regretting it at the end. Now its too late to ask.

[Asker]

No. I can't be his friend knowing that how I feel is not being reciprocated.

[Keyspirits]

More like u dont wanna be his friend anymore now that ur mad and upset cuz he's not with u.

[kangaru2]

i agreed

[Asker]

Exactly and this is why I can't be his friend. I'm already hurt and I told him not to call me anymore and he was ok with that; he didn't try or nothing

[Keyspirits]

Yeah..he alrdy got all the things he wanted from u so it isn't worth trying anymore cuz he alrdy got someone else to look after. Lesson learn right?

[Asker]

Oh wow

[Keyspirits]

Its the truth my dear, he alrdy got the attention he needed from her so he no longer needed urs =

Its sad but true >.>

[Asker]

So I just made myself look dumb by telling him to never call me again?

[Keyspirits]

Alil bit of dat x)
U couldve juz wait to see if he's gonna call u and than express all ur anger and inform about cutting off communications with him from there on. U calling him and telling him that make u look like u still care for him eventho ur lying to urself while in reality, u want him. :/

[Asker]

No. He called me and the next day after I thought about it I texted him asking not to call me anymore and I would do the same

[Keyspirits]

No than dat dont make u look dumb..dats sumwat i would do but do u feel like ur lying to urself when telling him not to call u anymore while in reality, u do?

[Asker]

Of course I'm lying to myself but I also know that I can't keep myself in a situation to get hurt worst.

[Keyspirits]

Hahaha gurls are perrty easy for meh to predict =P
there's nothing u can do..he doesn't need ur attention anymore. Let it fly with time and u will slowly gradually forget about him. I know its hard but bear with it hunny =

Juz learn ur lesson from now on...

[Asker]

Like you said I will have to gradually move in. It's so damaging to my self esteem thou

[Keyspirits]

It shouldn't be considering dat he was able to use u =P

[Asker]

Him using me and choosing someone else damaging to the ego

[Keyspirits]

Im sure there are more out there that will be able to use u so i dont see why it would ruin urself esteem. But if u dont want to be used again, be smarter. Think twice before u act. Sorry for bumpin' in all ur Q/QA's lol...i juz couldnt bare it cuz it hurts seeing or hearing about a woman being use >.> so i figured i juz gotta lead u to the right path and teaching u sum life lesson =x

[Keyspirits]

Q/A's* bear it*

[Asker]

Yea I know for future I'm not doing that again but in the meantime Its like I got played and I dont have anyone to get over

[Keyspirits]

Good. Be more cautious next time or u will hurt ma feelings even more :/

[Asker]

So should I feel bad and does he think that he played me

[Keyspirits]

Ofcourse u should! Why shouldn't u o.O
Ofcourse every guys would look it dat way. U got played along wuth him so yeah...sadly T-T
Confess ur feelings for him so u know if its gonna be a relationship between the two of u or not.

[Asker]

No there will not be a realationship. He is serious with this other girl. I just have to focus on movin forward while it still hurts

[Keyspirits]

Yas its best to move on, sometimes its best to talk with the opposite gender to get him outta ur mind. He no longer needs u anyways so whats the point in trying with him. Take babystep and let the pain fade away slowly while ill be here to keep u company and try to get'em off ur mind ^

[Asker]

Ha ok thx.

[Keyspirits]

Dats only if u lemme =P

[TaylorLange1993]

That’s what I thought, but my former friends with benefits got a girlfriend in February, a week after we had sex on January 31st. We had been friends with benefits for 9 months, and he always told me we’d still be friends if either of our situations changed, yet he abandoned me, and he KNEW I was afraid of that. I have Autism and ADHD and other things, and I’ve never been in a relationship and I was a virgin until I was 28 (I’m 30 now).

I feel like I’m never good enough to be the Girlfriend.

[Keyspirits]

The truth hurts but deal with it. Its an open relationship. Dont be reckless jumping into things so quickly without asking out that person first. Im solly ma'am.

[Asker]

But I wonder what makes her special? The other thing I'm upset about is that he's my cousin's friend and my cousin didn't even tell me, I had to figure it out on my own.

[Keyspirits]

U said both of u are attractive. I guess she slightly have the upperhand and probably cuz he's alrdy got bored of ur body so its time to try a different one. Compare it to food once u eat that particular food very often, u feel the urge to try something different cuz u had enough of dat food.

[Asker]

Yea but they are doing more things together. I'm also jealous

[Keyspirits]

Its juz what it is...better make the first move next time if u care about ur relationship >.>
Time to move on, he has no feelings for u anymore.

[Asker]

Sigh! How do I get over this?

[Asker]

It's hard not be chosen

[Keyspirits]

Hahaah i dont know either..its perrty hard not to stop thinken about them. U can try doing ur favorite hobbies or watch sum funny shows or movies to get ur mind off for awhile but bewary, its always gonna come back after all dat. It will fade by time...so slowly suffer from now and kill time by doing things i mention =|

[Asker]

I just hope someone comes along soon so I can get over his

[Keyspirits]

The time will come, be patient..everything happens for a reason. Dont juz wait for the guy to ask u out first. Gurls need to do it more too >.>

[Asker]

Ugh!!! I'm just jealous! They are vacationing together

[Keyspirits]

Lol get it over with. The world doesn't revolve around him does it? there's a thousand more men in dis workd dats a lot better than he is so take it slowly

[Keyspirits]

We could vacate here together if ur soo jelly xD

[yaddayaddayadda02]

You are a FWB. that means he comes over and bangs you when he can't get laid anywhere else. How can you get upset about what he did?

[Asker]

But where was this girl while we were having sex

[Keyspirits]

Its a secret relationship. He would never tell u dat he has a gf cuz he know u will dump him instantly. Men luv having multiple sex partners isn't it obvious? U are juz the sideline gurl for him :3
Every guy take every oppurtunities they can get to have sex with.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

That girl may not have been in the picture, yet.

[kangaru2]

I agreed

[Execu]

Prob related to something about your personality if you think friends with benefits means legit relationship. and you both look the same.

[Sex_Panther]

You're hurt because you were a throw-away that got thrown away?

That's dumb. Really dumb.

[Apophis]

You were his friend with benefits. He never really saw you as relationship material.
Did you think doing that would make him see you as girlfriend material?

[Keyspirits]

Right, he was never yours to begin with cuz u both haven't made ur relationship "Official" -.-'

[Asker]

I guess I would feel differently if we started out like that but we hung out and went on dates before I had sex with him

[Keyspirits]

Thats more like friendship rather than relationship >.>
If u wanna know if its a relationship, ask that person out.

[dominiquois]

You have got to be kidding me.
You are a friends with benefits. That's just a nice way of saying you're his "cum-bucket ho".
He does not trust/take you seriously or even finds you all that great.

[dominiquois]

Look, please use this as a learning experience. Don't be so easy. Value yourself and have standards. Don't let guys think they can use and dump you and you should do better. I mean, if it's a 1st time mistake then now you know, if not, STOP.

[rUinSAYAN]

fwb. you are fucked haha. you got. you're no serious thing thats it and I think you being jealous will lead you falling in love to him. be carefull

[rogue_alpha]

If you're just "friends with benefits" it should be obvious he's not that into you. You're just someone to bang.

[Mark-Ego-Almencion]

Girl, Men needs a serious relationship and we have standard for our "Wife Material".So sorry, start looking for a new FWB.

[mishymashy]

Sounds like you like him. Think about it carefully, you could tell him next time how you really feel or whats going on
(Please answer my question)
Thanks take care

[Anonymous]

Women friendzone, men fuckzone.

Sounds like you're fuckzone material, no offense.

[rUinSAYAN]

ow yeah

[knotme]

He didn't want a relationship with you

[Asker]

Yes that's what I have came to terms with but I don't know why! What was wrong with me

[knotme]

it doesn't have to be you, maybe he just wants out because of his own issues