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Um, no. My girlfriend doesn't go ANYWHERE to meet a male friend alone. That's called a "date". Either I'm going with her, or she's not going, or we're not going to be together any longer.
If you haven't met this guy, tell her "So, when do I get to meet this friend of yours?" if she didn't immediately invite me to come along, I'd start antagonizing her about it. "You know, I'm really not comfortable with you dating other people while we're in a relationship". "Yeah, you say he's a friend, but I don't know this guy, I don't know what he's after". etc.
If she gets vehement about you being controlling etc, then she's probably cheating on you. If he's really just a friend, then she'll want you guys to meet and get along, and she'd want you there with her, but she might just be thinking that you'd hate going to an art gallery.
If you HAVE met this guy and you're cool with them being friends and spending time together ~alone~ then just be honest. "Baby, I'm feeling a little neglected here. I mean, this is the only day we've got to spend together for over a week, and you make plans with somebody else?"
Whatever the situation, you HAVE to be honest and communicate about it. When I met my girlfriend, we spent a ton of time together. Her friends (one in particular) started complaining that she never hung out anymore. So she started inviting her along. Which was fine at first, but eventually it got to the point where ~every~ time I'd suggest we go do something it'd be "Sure, is it alright if X comes?" and she'd NEVER make plans for just the two of us. I had to talk to her about it. And yes, I had to discuss it with her a couple of times before things started getting better, but they did, and we figured out a way to balance our alone time.
Sometimes women get so caught up in wanting to please EVERYBODY that they forget to assign priority. She probably doesn't even realize that she's doing it, because you're so passive about it. You need to be more assertive with what you want. You don't have to be a d*** about it, just be honest.
My advice is you'll love her and accept her the way she is or the little will eat away at you to the piibt that one day you will lose it and leave... i think you should t ake advantage of the way things are now and appreciate what you have because when she either gets pregnant or married forget it thats a wrap! Things will really not sit well with you then... good luck
Why does it seem like your girlfriend is always choosing her friends over you? And what can you do about it?
It can be frustrating when your significant other seems to always choose their friends over you. But before you get too upset, it's important to understand why this might be happening.
There could be a few reasons why your girlfriend is choosing her friends over you. Maybe she's feeling a little overwhelmed and needs some time to herself. Or, her friends could be going through a tough time and she's just trying to be there for them. It's also possible that she's not intentionally choosing her friends over you, but that's just how things have worked out lately.
If you're feeling left out, there are a few things you can do to try to change the situation. First, talk to your girlfriend about how you're feeling. Let her know that you miss spending time with her and that you're worried she's pulling away from you. See if she's open to making more time for you in her schedule.
If she's not able to make more time for you right now, try to be understanding. Offer to help her out with whatever she's dealing with, whether it's her friends' problems or her own stress. And in the meantime, make sure to stay busy with your own friends and hobbies. That way, you won't be too focused on the fact that your girlfriend is choosing her friends over you.
I know exactly how you feel! I'm going through this exact same thing with my boyfriend and it is so frustrating, I feel like I am always choosing him over other people because I would prefer to be with him, but he's happy to keep making plans with other people. I feel like if I keep mentioning it I'm being clingy and getting the balance right between giving them space and not letting them take you for granted is really hard.
I think if she is taking your only day together to spend it with someone else that's really unfair on you, she should want to be with you and as her boyfriend you should be priority. If she saw you every day then a day or two away from each other makes sense but I think you should tell her you feel less important than her friends and as her boyfriend she should be with you especially when you don't get to spend much time together. If she doesn't seem bothered, I think you should find somebody else that would appreciate you much more.
Everyone should have a healthy balance of spending time with their significant other and their friends. Who would you have if your significant other left? The friends you've spend years with or the guy/girl you just started going out with. It's good to spend time with the girlfriend, but you need to give each other space sometimes. You should ask her to spend time with YOU AND YOUR FRIENDS together as a whole. This creates balance too.
Well then hang out with your friends or make some. And show her how much fun you having she will come around because you not paying attention to her.
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Better question is why is she not excited to be with you to the point of breaking plans to spend it with you instead?
Because in my experience that's how girls act with guys they are attracted to and want to be with. Like I have outright had to tell girls not to break plans they made with friends to spend with me.
If your girl isn't this way with you then you have bigger problems. Because she's lost respect/attraction for you as a man. And being a guy who constantly dumps what he's doing to spend it with her is part of that.
u 1. Possibility that she is cheating on you.
2. Why not ask if you can join them at the art gallery? Her response to that question may be quite rvealing.
3. This is a warning sign or a red flag. This should be addressed and resolved if you have any thoughts of becoming permanent partners. It won't get better after you get married or start living together or whatever you do.
An art gallery alone with a male friend without her boyfriend? She's definitely looking for better options and seeing him more of a boyfriend potential than you, especially if she purposefully excluded you out of it
This isn't out of the ordinary though. While men see their girlfriends as an important unique person in his life, women tend to treat men they date more like commodities. This is why virgin women who wait for commitment are more attractive but men are more attractive if they slept with their friends first like feedback from a tested product
I’m sure you have heard of Hoes Before Bros & in this case she is turning the tables & choosing Chicks Before Dicks.
Reading that last sentence (in my opinion) says it all, if she's choosing others over you it could be a sign that she isn't happy within the relationship and perhaps you should talk it out and see if you can work something out between you both, she obviously cares for you but I smell something familiar... something fishy perhaps?
You are a pretty toxic person to be in a relationship with. You said she chooses them over you AT TIMES, which is perfectly fine. She is not supposed to lose her friends, just because she has a boyfriend.
Choosing to spend time with a male "friend" over you means she is likely cheating or trying to find someone she likes more.
Don’t take it personally. Everyone needs time to breathe. Little breaks away from each other is good.
Oh no, choosing to see a male friend over you? That is a BIG red flag. BIG. I sometimes will choose to spend time with my little sister over my boyfriend, but NEVER another man!!! My goodness...
Seems like she's trying to throw you under the bus by calling you needy. Honestly I guess she needs her time with her friends just like you do, they'll still be around if she isnt.
Weird...because it's usually the other way around.
She needs her independence and you are not giving her enough space. Leave her alone and she will come back to you.
try talking to her about it - it's hard to offer advice on something like this without knowing the people involved.
Your 25-29 and you still haven't figured out that girls just see guys as a walking atm machine... children these days
Don't like it dump her, didn't seem like a big deal til I read more, if she's choosing a male friend over you that's a huge red flag I'd be out immediately
Hi it's same in my case too. It's my suggestion that just focus upon Career only.. And leave her alone then only she will understand your value.
Not good bro. Girls are a dime a dozen
It's quite possible
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