Its been 2 months since our break up, she been harsh to me an cold, she started dating this guy 2 wks after she broke up with me, i begged her cried an told her i understand why she broke up with me, she said that she broke up with me because of insecurity and trust problems, i couldnt break up with her because i love her an was blind, i failed to see how much she was hurting me i lost my self in this relationship gave up everything for this girl, she was my only friend, i was thankful that she broke up with me because i took the time to see things clearly an what i was doing wrong, she basicaly blamed me for everything, i never cheated lied or anythong to this girl, but i caught her lying to me many times an that made me accussed her of things an couldnt really trust her but i really loved this girl, this whole time we been apart i tried to work things out with her an tell her i see what my mistake was but she kept telling me she want to be single for now, i had to find out on my own that she was messing with this guy, when we was together she hid his # in her phone an i hacked her phone an seen the msgs, but she told me they are just friends so i believed her an now they are together, the thing is everytime she would try to hide things from me i would find out an she would tellme i got trust issues but she made me this way, she lied to me so much it crushed my heart that she left me after all the things i did for her all the things i sacrificed for her, im in h. s i gave up basketball, friends everything for her, i sold my videos games an took the money to buy her a necklace an ring an a stuffed animal, i wrote her a letter explaining to her i was wrong an i was sorry i have changed ect, but she told me she dont feel nothing for me an she is with this guy now an to move on, she left me heart broken again, i took the time to give her space before i did that for her but now I don't know what to do, the guy just got out of prision
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She's your ex and you had a bad break up. There's nothing "to do" with this girl because now she's thankfully out of your life. You learned some lessons I hope, not to give up the things you like to do for a woman. There's never a guarantee in relationships and you don't deserve to lose yourself in the process because that eventually becomes dangerous. Almost all of us have done it - given up friends and hobbies for the person we love. In the end, it's a lesson learned.
But, as I said, she's your ex now, and she lied and hurt you both during the relationship and after. Why does it matter so much if she's cold to you now?--she's your ex, what she's doing shouldn't matter anymore. You're still stinging from being hurt and you have nothing to take your mind off of things because you need to get yourself back to being you again. It's this point during break ups when you need to find the things that made you happy before you met this girl to get your mind off of her and rekindle the things that mattered most to you before. Find old friends, take up your favourite sports again, buy a few video games - whatever it takes to build back the guy you used to be that made you happy before. She was absolutely wrong for you, and she's acting in such a way to make it clear that you two are over because it sounds like you might be giving a sign that you can't get over her and want her back. If she doesn't want this and is trying to make it clear, she's going to get nastier by the day to make her point. Leave her alone, let her be part of your past and thankful that she taught you a few lessons. I know it's hard, but you will find a better girl out there that will make you wonder why you spent so much energy worrying about this one. She did you a favour by getting you to move on. Good luck! :)1