Have you ever reunited with an ex? How did that work out?

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Sometimes, people break up when they will be separated by distance for a long time: they are going to college in different states, one is going into the military, a family is relocating due to the breadwinner's employment, etc. In those cases, if the relationship had been progressing satisfactorily before the separation, I think reunions make sense. If you break up because of physical or emotional abuse, substance abuse, infidelity, or any other reason that adversely reflects on the quality of the relationship, then reunion does not make sense to me. Of course it is POSSIBLE that people can change their behavior, but experience has shown me that it rarely happens. When you reunite, it is most likely that after the initial excitement subsides, you will encounter the very same problems that you previously experienced. . . and you will probably encounter them much sooner the second time around. I dated a girl in 1979-1980, and we broke up because she felt guilty about leaving a prior relationship and wanted to return to that partner. Adios! But years later, I found her, rekindled the relationship and eventually married her. Big mistake, but at least I learned something from the experience. Have you ever reunited with an ex? How did that work out for you?

FunkyMonkee · Accepted Answer

All 3 times, technically. The first time we (my 2nd & I) just went back to being good friends, as we started out, eventually, a decade or so later, we started having sex again, a few days later, we stopped (her choice) and a year later, she got pissed at me for a REALLY stupid reason, called me a few asinine names and, by then, I'd had enough and haven't talked to her since!
The second time, I was with my future ex-fiancé (my 3rd g/f) eating out and shortly after she left, my first g/f suddenly showed up from out of nowhere and I spent an hour or so talking with her about what we've been doing since we last saw each other 15 years ago and, afterwards, I walked her to her car and as we hugged, we kissed and it suddenly got REALLY passionate again (she started that, not me!)! A few seconds into it, she broke it off and said we shouldn't go down that road again. We said our goodbyes and I haven't seen or heard from her since.
The third time, Madame Ex (my 3rd) messaged me online from wherever the hell in Europe she was living then and after a few short conversations over the next few months, she got severely pissed at me for saying that her niece was gorgeous and accused me of coming onto her!! I haven't talked to either of those psychos since then!

LoU_Hades · Accepted Answer

F: I reunited with an ex. We had broken up for reasons related to the quality of our relationship. The reunion was partially successful.

We reunited as 'friends' several times, but we landed every time in bed. I didn't feel comfortable in this configuration with her official boyfriend and later her spouse. The guy knew she fucks with me. Fortunately I wasn't the only dick in her "friends" collection, hence her guy didn't get some obsession and hostility towards me.
On the other hand it was not good for me because I didn't have a serious relationship few years long. It wasn't necessary because if I wanted sex, she came and went away.

Shezadi · Accepted Answer

I had three breakups with my boyfriend and he is STILL my boyfriend.
Hope my dad will let me get engaged with him since he has a job now.

His father will ask for my hand once again in December during my Christmas Holidays.

His father asked for my hand last year but my boyfriend didn't have a job last year, hope this year my dad will say yes.

Cactusqueen · Accepted Answer

I’ve seen those who are addicted to one another. Seemingly can’t stay apart for long. But then toxic together. I’m sure it can work out depending on the situation surrounding why they became an ex but I think more often than not it’s best to move forward

Jean-Marie_Céline · Answer

No. I tried to stay friends, but she kept trying to get naughty and ignore my objections, so I cut her off.

NurseStacy · Answer

I did months after our break up.
I confessed that I wanted him back.
He didn’t give me the answer I wanted to hear and I was a wreck for days.
Fast forward several weeks later he confessed that he felt the same way about me.
It was too late because I already moved on from him (emotionally).
The pain I went through feeling unloved was enough for me to wake up and get over him almost immediately.
This was more than a decade ago 😌

whitehide · Answer

I reunited with my first girlfriend three times. Honestly, I can't remember the reason why we broke up right now, but it was the same reason every time. Needless to say, I was stupidly in love with her, but it never worked out. A good while after the fourth time we broke up, she asked me to come see her because she missed me, and I was going to see her, buuut my best friend actually kidnapped me and got me reeeeally really drunk, I can't remember the rest of that day, but somehow, I hooked up with another girl that night.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

I have never reunited with an ex girlfriend. I've always figured that they are an ex for a reason. I did remain friends with an ex only because we made OK friends but in no way did I ever consider getting back with her.

There is only one ex that I might consider getting back with, because we ended on good terms and we split up because the relationship didn't work out due to distance. But she is in a relationship now so that is out of the question... LOL

DiegoO · Answer

I don't know how that would turn out. I get rid of her address, I am not sure if she still has the same number (blocked her and added her again, since she asked my number on FB). What else, yeah, we are strangers again, more than ever.

I don't think we will see each other, much less in person. From all I know, she is a dead fish when it comes to initiatives, and I am not gonna put my self in a waiting list for her response to that.

Have you ever reunited with an ex? How did that work out?

ask4any · Answer

I dated a girl in high school when we were each 16 years old, her birthday exactly 1 month and 4 days behind me. We always felt we would be good together. But never could due to others. We promised that if we are ever available at same time in life, we'd give it a shot. 22 years later, touched base a few times in those years. We're available at the same time. I move to be with her. We have a daughter together and the relationship died 6 months later. The last time I saw my daughter was Christmas day 2009. She was 2. While I spent some time overseas mom had my parental rights terminated. So no, it wad not a success!!

R_ūshī · Answer

Ohh yeah... A LOT... like maybe 5 times with my ex. We were on an off. It didn't feel weird whenever we got back together.

If anything, we have difficulties being without each other so it was comforting to get back with him all the 5 times lol. We even joked about and made memes of it. He'd often say "I'm not just your boyfriend, I'm your ex and all the other exes you've had before that" 😂😂

I think I'll never stop loving that guy.

SMOOTHBROTHER · Answer

I'm a believer that once you leave a person under bad stances to NEVER EVER go back to them. sometimes it like putting another bullet in a gun when the first one barely missed you and u got away clean. I WOULD NEVER EVER TAKE A WOMEN BACK INTO MY LIFE IF IT ENDED BADLY.. NEVER..

MikeAndMolly · Answer

We were both kinda bad at relationships the first time around, and neither of us was actually happy in the relationship at all. We both had too much personal stuff to work on back then.

We got back together almost two years later, after we'd both tried (unsuccessfully) to move on from each other, but had also both become much better, more independent people.

It's been years since then. Our wedding is next summer.

Browneye57 · Answer

Never.
Taking an ex back is like rooting through the trash, you know, like dumpster diving. You might find something you like but it's still trash.

No, whatever it was that caused the break up will still be there - it will surely come roaring back.

wankiam · Answer

voted e... those reasons always tend to come back at some point however good the sex is

Shahax · Answer

Actually did this year, broke up with her for abusive behavior and immaturity. We got together again and things were a bit better for a while but eventually her old habits came out again so I had to breakup with her again unfortunately

AngelGabe · Answer

Strongly recommend not using the words "reunite" or "get back together." If your relationship severed you are both permanently changed and what you made previously is non existent. A sad but important distinction.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Well, I reunited with my man 3 times before I married him last summer. :)

OddBeMe · Answer

Had one track me down at work and show off her new fiancé to me. Didn’t seem like she was over it.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

It worked out for half a week only.  I won't consider such an idea ever again. Request details, if you MUST.

JackSmy · Answer

No, the only ones I would have considered, are happily married with kids and even grand kids!

curiousmanguydude · Answer

Yeah once and it went bad. Never again with any x since there is always y or z

TacosRAwesome · Answer

I broke up with my first boyfriend at least 5 times because I was a moron back then... His dick wasn't even good. 😭🤣

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

F. We got back together more times than I can accurately count. It all worked out very horribly! In fact that was the main reason I joined this site back in 2015.

Anonymous · Answer

I haven’t yet but there is a plan to soon so I shall let you know how that works out (good hopefully).

Anonymous · Answer

We did reunite, we fucked for a whole month non-stop but that was pretty much it, there was so much sexual tension but nothing much else, which is why it ended again, I wanted something serious even though staying with her was so fun and satisfying.

SydneySentinel · Answer

E. It was not successful.

maadison · Answer

Awkward and tense. Only to show we still have the same sexual tension we did when we were teenagers.

worldscolide · Answer

I ahbve never and would never reunite with an ex... Period.

bulletbob555 · Answer

I would if it was a good ex. Now I'm friendly with my sons mom, it doesn't take me long to remember why we aren't together

Alearu · Answer

Keep the trash in the bin, don't put it back on the dining table.

thewitchbellatrix · Answer

I've never try it but two of my friends have tried it and it goes well ☺️

Likes2drive · Answer

I’ve done it twice but it never turns into anything

ThisAndThat · Answer

Only over the phone once and mainly to talk to her dad. He was a preacher.

seniorghostman · Answer

I hope one of these times she won’t have a man/husband she is getting even with. But happened twice

luvstoned4him · Answer

Never and will never but they tried

Avicenna · Answer

No, not romantically, but I'd be open to it.

SissyFrenchMaid · Answer

I've stayed friends with all my exes

Nik1hil · Answer

Not a clue never been in relationship

laurico · Answer

Sometimes I wish I could.

Nice222 · Answer

Did that once and it was terrible.

berwise13 · Answer

Weve been married 24 years

Hamsteroids · Answer

Ew no. Never

Wowgirl30q · Answer

Good question

JesseJayNeak · Answer

No. And I never will

DannyBoy777 · Answer

Sex is better

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