Hello... im new here i know its late but i really am in need of help
i've Been with my girlfriend for 3 years (known here for 5 years). We have always been very happy together but I recently found out that her 3 year old son is not mine. my suspicions when he was born. he has blue eyes now I have met most of my girlfriends family and NONE of them have blue eyes and NONE of my family have blue eyes as well. This kept eating away at me and I decided to get a dna test and i discovered his not my son. I was so mad and hurt by this so I put the results on her bed and I have been staying at a hotel until I can figure out what to do. She cheated on me and lied to me in the worst way its been 5 days since I found out and I just don't know what to do... I feel like such a loser.. I feel like i'm less of a man
She called me from a blocked number today begging me to come back home and at least see her son because his been crying asking were his "daddy" is
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These women are being hypocrites claiming you are the dad. If the child's real father was on here, they would be claiming his DNA was what made him a father and bound him to the child forever. Once that becomes inconvenient for them, they switch their story. It shows just how afraid women are of men leaving if the man finds out the truth. Which shows how many of them actually cheat.
1 out of every 10 men has been tricked like you. The other 9 men are raising kids that often the mother has no idea if he is the father or not. This is why women think it is so important for you to stay and help the kid. A lot of these women could end up in the same situation one day.
You won't be hurting this child by leaving, that blame lies solely on her for cheating and lying. You are not, the father, and never will be. His mother lied to him about who his father is, and denied him a chance to know his real dad. You are not the bad guy for leaving. Your girl is the one completely at fault. It is the consequences of what your girl did that will hurt this kid. She is the one hurting you and the child.
For the rest of your life you will look at this kid, and see another man staring back at you. Your girl clearly isn't looking out for your happiness you have to look out for yourself. I would cut your connection to both of them. Even if you signed something saying you were the father, is is much easier to walk away from now, than it use to be. A DNA test should be all you need. Contact a lawyer and talk about what your options are in your area.
If you really want to remain a part of this child's life that is up to you, but don't let these women make you feel guilty. It isn't your fault. 100% of the blame lies with the woman.3
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