Unfortunately only he can answer that question if he's willing. It's really crazy how relationships work and how we think about them. I'll tell you my story or at least some parts of it. I got involved with a girl but she had a boyfriend well we both fell in love and we felt like we meant so much to each other like nobody else ever. She told me I was the most important person in her life and that she had never felt this way about anybody that she had never been this much in love and doesn't ever want to lose me. Then she told me she loved it because I was fighting for her even though she was angry at me because I was fighting for her and ruining her relationship and making her confused. At the end she broke it of with me and said that she never wants to see me again and doesn't want to have anything to do with me anymore. This was after almost a year of us spending almost all the time we could find together doing crazy things and being completely in love. Now we haven't seen each other in almost 5 months except for twice when we got into huge fights when we ran into each other. So it's funny how things change in just a couple of weeks.
I stopped fighting for her because she showed me she didn't love me anymore and didn't want me to fight for her anymore. I don't know how she feels and she doesn't care how I feel. So you see sometimes because we think of something and set our mind to it it puts in place all kinds of thoughts and actions. So my advice would be if you guys can try and talk about it and be completely honest no matter what the outcome may be that's the only way you are going to be able to get some peace.
When a relationship is on its last legs there is no point fighting for it, you're only delaying the inevitable.
Why didn't you fight for him? Why didn't you try a little harder? Instead of just pulling away and assuming he would know you wanted him to chase after you. . . If the relationship was in trouble, he was doubting himself too, so when you pulled away it was probably right when he needed you to give more effort. I think this could be a valuable lesson learned for you in future relationships, but what a hard way to learn it.
after 4 years, he probably was tired of it. things may have started going south because he was facilitating it and when u pulled away you were only doing what he wanted u to do all along. maybe he didn't have the courage to end it himself so he passively forced you into doing it
Because you're not supposed to fight... just fix it and hope for the best but ig your attempts only get worse you run out of options. Fighting for something when you feel like you've lost connections with the one you love is hard. Especially if the love you once had is gone
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It was most likely his feelings were not that sincere. That's not to say he didn't care for you but love you, if he had he would have waited... I was in love one time and we dated for two years. Towards the end of the second year we got pregnant and I did everything right, there are things to this day no one knows what I did to make her feel secure and that my plans for us was long term. I got my father to cosign a $150,000 house loan, I went to my employer and got a $13,000 pay raise, my grandmother also gave me a $10,000 loan so that I could purchase a car for her and I started taking language lessons to show her just how much I truly loved her... well that moments over with lol.
Do you wanna here what did me in (supposedly)? It was my mother's reasoning she told me that I didn't have to marry her just because we were pregnant... WTF now my mom was coming from the point that I didn't want her to feel trapped because we were young.. And yes I said that to her... Well she did a 180 with wanting to be with me and having the child.. She opted for an abortion and even though I didn't want her to (to the point I broke down crying in her mother's kitchen like a pussy) I still went with her to have the procedure, I had flowers for and I just laid next to her for hours (I was smart enough not to speak).
I know Chatty Cathy clip your string.. I was not the perfect boyfriend, no I was selfish with my time (I was a front man for a hardcore band) plus I had issues that I never told her about, hell I didn't fully know until a couple of years ago (childhood abuse from grade school)..
She moved away without telling me and we never talked or each other again, that was 15 years ago and I am still single. I have never dated or had relations with another woman in all that time.. Now I'm not a psycho, there are other reasons why I chose to stay single, but one of them was.. I would never find a love like that ever again. She deserved better than a life with a musician... I'm sorry.. what was your question?
Because, girl, guys are very simple. No matter what you think. We are simple. If you walk away and say "Don't follow me" we don't follow you. If you say "We're through" then we're through. If you say you don't love us anymore, you best believe we're through.
Why is any guy going to fight for a girl who doesn't want him? And why would any guy who watches his girl pull away, think that secretly she DOES want him, and wants him to fight for her? That's crazy.
Men are not psychic. Stop acting like we are.
It's a terrible terrible situation to be in and I'm currently going through it myself. It makes me feel like I'm not worth it. I wish I could offer you more advice but right now I hope you take comfort in knowing that I understand how you feel <3
Why didn't you fight for the sake of the relationship? It sounds to me like you wanted to be wanted but you went about it all wrong.
You answered your own question. The relationship went south. He saw nothing to fight for.
so you did break up because you wanted to test him? that would be stupid enough to not run after
That's just life
Actions speak louder than words
Words don't mean a thing
And relationships do end sometimes
It makes me remmber my last relationship... i was so ingenue and would keep listening to her... no one needs to fight for anything... if you broke up thats it.. you wanted it and he doesn't need to do anything to change your mind.
If you started to pull away why would he bother. There's no point in trying to control somebody to stay with you
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