Why after 4 years in a relationship and stuff starting going south, and I started pulling away he did not fight for me? After claiming that I was everything to him? And during the brake up he said he would always wait for me? Why didn't he just try a little bit harder? please help
Why didn't he fight for me?
What Guys Said 6
Unfortunately only he can answer that question if he's willing. It's really crazy how relationships work and how we think about them. I'll tell you my story or at least some parts of it. I got involved with a girl but she had a boyfriend well we both fell in love and we felt like we meant so much to each other like nobody else ever. She told me I was the most important person in her life and that she had never felt this way about anybody that she had never been this much in love and doesn't ever want to lose me. Then she told me she loved it because I was fighting for her even though she was angry at me because I was fighting for her and ruining her relationship and making her confused. At the end she broke it of with me and said that she never wants to see me again and doesn't want to have anything to do with me anymore. This was after almost a year of us spending almost all the time we could find together doing crazy things and being completely in love. Now we haven't seen each other in almost 5 months except for twice when we got into huge fights when we ran into each other. So it's funny how things change in just a couple of weeks.
I stopped fighting for her because she showed me she didn't love me anymore and didn't want me to fight for her anymore. I don't know how she feels and she doesn't care how I feel. So you see sometimes because we think of something and set our mind to it it puts in place all kinds of thoughts and actions. So my advice would be if you guys can try and talk about it and be completely honest no matter what the outcome may be that's the only way you are going to be able to get some peace.0
If you started to pull away why would he bother. There's no point in trying to control somebody to stay with you1
Because, girl, guys are very simple. No matter what you think. We are simple. If you walk away and say "Don't follow me" we don't follow you. If you say "We're through" then we're through. If you say you don't love us anymore, you best believe we're through.
Why is any guy going to fight for a girl who doesn't want him? And why would any guy who watches his girl pull away, think that secretly she DOES want him, and wants him to fight for her? That's crazy.
Men are not psychic. Stop acting like we are.0
It makes me remmber my last relationship... i was so ingenue and would keep listening to her... no one needs to fight for anything... if you broke up thats it.. you wanted it and he doesn't need to do anything to change your mind.0
What Girls Said 6
Because you're not supposed to fight... just fix it and hope for the best but ig your attempts only get worse you run out of options. Fighting for something when you feel like you've lost connections with the one you love is hard. Especially if the love you once had is gone0
Why didn't you fight for the sake of the relationship? It sounds to me like you wanted to be wanted but you went about it all wrong.2
It's a terrible terrible situation to be in and I'm currently going through it myself. It makes me feel like I'm not worth it. I wish I could offer you more advice but right now I hope you take comfort in knowing that I understand how you feel <30
Why didn't you fight for him? Why didn't you try a little harder? Instead of just pulling away and assuming he would know you wanted him to chase after you. . . If the relationship was in trouble, he was doubting himself too, so when you pulled away it was probably right when he needed you to give more effort. I think this could be a valuable lesson learned for you in future relationships, but what a hard way to learn it.0
That's just life
Actions speak louder than words
Words don't mean a thing
And relationships do end sometimes0
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