I still live at home - how can my girlfriend and I have 'private' time?

[Anonymous]

When you lived at home (or if you still do), how were you able to have 'private' time with your loved one? I'm moving out in 2 years (have to finish university first), but between now and then, how can we have some private fun with each other?

[jordi]

My boyfriend still lives with his parents and I live with mine as well. We actually have a lot of private time. Most of our private time is when we watch movies( at his house in his room) and we go to dinner about once a week. I don't exactly know how old you are but I know that I love when my boyfriend and I go out of town for the weekend. Sometimes its way nice when just the two of us get out and have that driving time together when we can talk about anything. You don't have to stay at a fancy motel, and in my opinion its funner to stay at a friends house if you have friends that have moved away. Maybe we have different lifestyles but I know that this is one of my favorite things to do.

[QueenKatie]

I would have a word with your parents. you don't need to go into embarrassing detail - you could simply ask to have your girlfriend stay over. They must realize you're a grown man now, and they will hopefully be understanding about giving you space together.

However, my best advice if you really want privacy, or if your parents say no, would be to move out of your their home. Get a part-time job to fund your studies, and rent an inexpensive room in a student house. Not only will you have full independence to do whatever you want, you'll find it's a helluva lot more fun too! :)

[InquisitiveMale]

I agree with the second part of your advice but I don't agree with the first. Some people are really close to their parent's and talking about such things are easy, but for most, that's just a conversation you want to avoid. Parents are obviously going to know you're going to be partaking in sex but do you really want to be asking permission?

Mom, dad, can you leave the house so I can invite my girlfriend over... awkward.

[QueenKatie]

Why would they have to leave the house? He could simply ask that his girlfriend is allowed to stay overnight. There wouldn't need to be any discussion of sex - that would be implied. I take my partner back to see my parents and I don't say 'Hey mother and father, I'm bringing my partner to stay, we'll probably shag on your spare bed, is that OK?'! I just say - 'We'll be arriving on Wednesday'. :D

[A-Soldiers-Wife07]

My husband was still living with his parents when we were dating. He just told his parents that if we're in a room and the door is closed that means we want some alone time. Many times I'd just go over there when his parents weren't home. It was a lot easier when I graduated HS and moved into my own apartment. He ended up just moving in with me anyways later.

[melleasy]

i think you should just like do typiccal things like going out and having private time... just try your best to get around the house when your perents or gone or just ask them can you have her over

[InquisitiveMale]

Invite her over when the house is clear. Motels are tacky.

Cheers.