Is it necessary to have alone time and personal space even in a committed relationship?

[HawkPerception]

Yes

No

[DishLady]

YES! And a lot of relationships tend to falter because one person “suffocates” the other with attention, cyber stalking, and wanting to know every little thing every little second of every day…. (I’m getting a little claustrophobic just describing it to you… 😂)


It’s essential to have your own hobbies, your own friends, your own interests, etc. — a life of your own — rather than suddenly just tagging along with and clinging to your SO. It’s important to keep being the person your SO fell in love with!


Spending a few hours a day doing your own thing helps create new opportunities for discussion at the very least. It gives your SO time to miss you and ask about you, time to surprise you with a new story of their own, etc etc…. It’s the “down time” you need to maintain a healthy, mindful life.


So whether you choose to sit across from your SO reading a book while he/she does the weekly crossword … or whether you choose to tinker with your car while your SO goes jogging… these moments are just as important as the time you spend holding hands, cuddling, and so on.

[TheRealPepperPotts]

@DishLady @HawkPerception What she said... This ^ . Spot on, Miss Dish!

[DishLady]

@TheRealPepperPotts Thanks, Miss Pepper. :)

[DizzyDesii]

Yes. I’m pretty routine so what worked for me was having being around one another for an hour in the morning. Then going off to work. Being around one another for an hour after work. Then having 2-3 hours to myself that afternoon. Then being back together by 9 or 10p that night until we fell asleep. Basically giving anyone I’m with 4-5 hours a day on weekdays. Weekends are adjusted based on if we have other plans with one another, ourself or others. But still a minimum of 4-5 hours a day together in person or by phone

[DizzyDesii]

Thanks for M H O

[OlderAndWiser]

Is it necessary or required? No, but. . .

Is it advisable? Absolutely.

For a period of about a year, my first wife worked as my secretary in my law office. We were never alone except for when she or I used the restroom. It was absolutely horrible. I was miserable and I had no desire to talk to her when I arrived home. Sleeping with my secretary did not make it exciting! :)

[DrPepper12]

I thought this was a joke question. Yes, the most important relationship you will ever have in your entire life is the relationship you have with yourself and that REQUIRES alone time! Too many busybody USA Americans do not understand the difference between alone and lonely!

[HawkPerception]

Ehhh... I ask a bunch of questions, some of which should be obvious, but you'd be surprised how many people choose differently from the expected answer 😂

[HawkPerception]

None of my questions are me looking for answers, but curious what others believe

[DrPepper12]

👍🏻💯😂

[GeminiDiamond]

Hawk you always ask questions I say yes to. Get out of my head mister.

[HawkPerception]

Not when rent is free in there 😉

[midnightmoon05]

Yes it is necessary. I make my hubby to have his alone time…his family time, his boys outing time and our couple time and our family time. 😊

[Flatmanlewis]

Absolutely, 100%, yes.

[avery58]

Yeah for sure

[OtterMan68]

Yes, very much so

[Dongie]

Yep. Sometimes you need it.

[renodnol32]

Absolutely.