I prefer, every few months, to spend a week or two away from her. I get that from my job and it does wonders. Already by the time I'm on the airplane, I'm missing her like crazy. When I get home, she comes to the airport every time to see me (don't have to) and jumps into my arms for a spinning hug.
I think it's an essential part of our marriage. If I didn't have that, we'd probably settle towards a routine and mundane life. Those business trips keep reigniting the spark and making it passionate and adventurous each time.
So I went with like a week or two every few months away from her for me.
On a more regular basis, I like a guy's night out where I don't take her along (she goes with her girlfriends) once every couple of weeks.
I am a person that has many hobbies/interests. I prefer to have my signifigant other persue these things with me, but if not I can do them myself. Everyone needs a little alone time, but if you need too much then why are you with someone?
and I am occasionally dyslexic and stutter. but seriousy, I dont at all. no speech impediments at all
Such a good question. I have been with my husband for 13 years and some odd months. I cannot tell you how many times I have wanted to choke him out because I feel smothered. Everybody needs their alone time it may just be two hours over the weekend or just five minutes at night. Everybody no matter how good the relationship is needs those moments to themselves. I love him, but some days I just need to be by myself. I work and I play housekeeper and Mom and I know he works and he's a good dad and he may be OK with not having time by himself but that doesn't mean that I'm not. I've always been the quiet type and he has finally realized it when he has given me "my time" it helps me process things and it just makes it better.
LOL! I write a lot too and working on a mini series and that's my alone time. It's an escape, my quiet time.
That's good you're able to get it! I love to read but hubby always thinks that because there is no noise I'm obviously not doing anything 😑 It's taken years of patient explanations haha
Men are special. Sometimes they just don't get it. They can drink a beer and watch a game as their escape, but for me personally I just need a few minutes of silence. It's really my favorite golden rule.
I lock the door when I take a shower - that's my time to relax. Reading a book in bed at night after my partner falls asleep, getting home early and just kicking back and reflecting on my day, doing shopping alone. All these little things may not seem like much but it's just a small moment of calmness to find myself and be independent which I treasure and consider important because you never know, one day you might not always have someone, to appreciate time alone is important. To not be able to enjoy your own company would be a very disturbing existence for me.
I'm pretty independent and so is my guy. We've been together for nearly 4years. We are also both very busy with our careers so we often have alone time forced on our relationship. I often feel like I don't see him enough. But I find that I get that alone time that I need. It can be a day or two here or there to weeks when one or the other is traveling. It mostly works out pretty well but not having the ability to control when you get your time alone can be kind of frustrating. But it works out pretty well because we are both pretty independent people.
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While it would probably prefer to spend no more than 20% of my free time, 5% of total time, or 10-15hrs a week with any one person, the other side demanded more.
Even long term relationship shouldn't be more than 2hrs a day. I can sometimes go for a couple hours or even a day or so with another person if they don't bother me. much. A 3-day trip will probably drive me crazy.
I am an introvert and a loner. Being in the same room with other people bothers me. I feel exhausted talking to people. I need a lot of alone time to recharge.
Well we both work. So each of us spend 9 + hours working and commuting. Then around eight hours sleeping, we usually eat together in the afternoon, but I have to spend an hour cooking supper. Do everyday not through choice but through circumstance we see each other for approximately 4 hours. We once went two years without seeing each other for more than an hour day as we had conflicting schedules but jobs are necessary to maintain a home.
Wow, that's a long time with minimal quality time, happy to see you've got a better balance now 😊
We don't live together so... I'm usually perfectly fine spending hours on end with him. Meaning that if we meet up at 1 or 2, I'd be perfectly content to chill/cuddle/fuck as much as we want until 11 or even midnight. I'd enjoy seeing him for that long a couple days per week but, after 1-2 days where we spend basically all day together, I make a point of not including him in my trips to the gym or something. I like to keep my gym sessions to be where I go by myself and have some time to reflect on anything new in my life without him.
Need to be left alone for a day or two, not just romantic relationships but also friendships. I like my friends and family but sometimes I really need that time away because I get sick and tired of talking to them. I go out and do something else then Ill be in a mood to talk to them again. Think time apart really helps you recharge
Well if I'm in a long term relationship, my alone times would be when my partner is still at work and I'm just doing my own free time at home or going out with friends on days off. If both me and my partner are free on a day, then I'll spend time with him of course. But since it's long term, we wouldn't mind at times if we're both at home and just doing our own separate things.
It depends who I'm dating. There's some people that I can talk to all day and never get tired. Its like talking to them recharges me. And there's other people that I can't stand. I'm single and I'm happy being single because I know what I want but I haven't found it. I think once I meet someone that makes my intuition say that giving up my single life a good idea, I will know it's real.
@Wonderer89 As married women I think we both know and realise that we are not "joined at the hip" to our husbands. :)
Nah, never have been. I cherish our time together but sometimes I just need him to leave 😂
Depends sometimes I need a few hours, sometimes a whole day or 2 to charge my batteries. When I was younger use to think wasn't necessary and now I believe is very important to have alone time, free time, Me time to take care of myself too. Helps the relationship also, becomes stronger and more happy if we know how to understand and respect each others needs for space.
This varies widely. I like a fair bit of alone time and so does my wife. If an introvert and an extrovert get together, the extrovert needs to spend some time with outside friends so the introvert can recharge with some alone time. Both my wife and I are introverts, so we are happy to be alone together, in the same space, doing our own thing.
I miss her quite fast
a few hours and I think about her
1 day I miss her but still ok
2 days I miss her
3 days I start to be worry
4 days "babe? you're alright? I'm starting to worry"
5 days starts to freak out
6 days "I don't know if you're mad, I don't know what's going on, but I need to know that you're ok and not in danger :'l "
This is down to you as an individual and will vary between different people. It's a touchy subject, but just ask. Too much time together is shitty because you become complacent and stop putting in efforts you normally would if you just see each other less.
I don't think it's a touchy subject at all, if it is there is possibly a bigger issue
What I mean is most people are people pleasing and avoid confrontation, and are likely to say everything's fine when it's not, and you're not spending too much time together when you actually are. Sometimes you don't realise you are spending too much time together until you get some space from each other. Do you want more alone time?
It's not a very healthy place to be if you can't be honest with each other, relationships are a compromise of each other's needs and for that the other needs to know what those needs are.
Nope, I'm solid 😊 Sometimes we drift apart a bit and get caught up in ourselves but a quick chat and a week of date nights and we're back on track
Lol where are you making these assumptions from? We've lived together almost 8 years
I think the point of being in a relationship is to be together. For me being apart during work everyday gives you something to talk about when you see each other again. But in terms of alone time maybe just the occasional mani/pedi or a night out with the girls every now and then as im sure he enjoys he's time with his friends. But all in all i think youd WANT to be doing things together more often than not, otherwise maybe you are in the wrong relationship.
There are a lot of hours in the week, and when you work together there is plenty of time to want to do other things. We have different friends and hobbies that overlap when we support each other - but I still need quiet time alone where I don't have to talk or do anything for anyone else. This works for us, but I have friends that spend every waking moment together and others that literally only come together when they go to sleep. Everyone seems to have different needs when it comes to space 😊 It's interesting
Every waking moment together sounds suffocating to be honest haha! Also what do you talk about if you are always together. On the other hand coming together only at bed time is the other extreme. But i guess there every couple knows what works for them best. But in my opinion as a healthy couple you would want to do things together mor often than not. You would still need some time alone but for the most part you would look to function as a couple when possible if that makes sense. Although life can get between what you want and what you actually can achieve sometimes.
The relationships I have been in have usually been where I've spent a lot of time on my own because of distance or because the person I'm dating just doesn't wanna see me :/ so I spent way more time being alone than I'd like. I don't need to see someone ALL the time but more than I've got previously would be nice.
Hopefully you're able to find someone a bit more well matched to your needs Hun
I neeeed a bit of alone time. Me and my ex were living together and it got to the point where I was BEGGING him to go on a guys weekend away. I stopped going to visit his Nan with him, I still went but not every single time like before. Just needed a bit of time to myself because we were around each other almost 24/7. I worked from home and he didn't have a job. I would go stay with my parents for a week or two as well to visit and I'd find myself dreading going back sometimes.
People need what they need in relationship and it's a big part of a relationship to support your other in what they need. Everyone needs time to gather themselves and process they're thoughts and emotions , some more than others. I can be in the house with my g/f for most of the day and not be in the same room as her. We respect each other's need to do what we need to do. There is no specific or allowed time that one should need just support them with what they need it's just that simple
Sometimes I'm feeling more independent and like time to be by myself and watch movies and just let it be me.
Other times, like how I've been feeling the last few months, I want to talk to him all the time and get upset when I feel he's not caring about our communication.
I actually prefer a lot i need man cave time lol but that can mean we're both home she's just doing something else in another room and i'm watching sports or a guy movie.
Same 😊 I can't watch sports for three hours!
I haven't stopped talking to him since we started being together lmao.. I think alone time is good and I do need it usually but I haven't felt the need for it with him bc I love spending time with him that much.
I'm married and my husband works 24 hours every 3rd day. I need that alone time. It's nice to occasionally get a day off and get some extra him time but not too much, because then I get annoyed lol
Lol completely agree, I'm the same. That's a long shift though! Especially if you've got kids at home
We have 3 kids, 2 dogs, and 1 cat lol 😜. It works really well for us though
Oh god haha you're a brave lady
What does he do for work? If you don't mind saying. That's... a highly unconventional shift structure. (The only people I've ever known with shifts anything like that were oil-rig workers, who needed the longer shift because it was 1.5-2 hours -- of paid time -- just to get them out to the rig in the first place.)
Also, is that every third *business* day?
Because if not, that works out to 56 hours/week on average... which means a LOT of overtime pay, if he is being paid hourly.
@redeyemindtricks he works for the fire department, so every third day period. They do A, B, C shifts. He's on A and then pulls some 12 hour Bs at another county.
Hm interesting -- Tell him "thank you for yr service", on my behalf. ♥️
@redeyemindtricks will do! Thank you ☺
Respecting your Partners boundaries is really fundamental in a relationship.
It is healthy to let that person be on their own, I think everybody needs that, to reflect and to dedicate something good to yourself.
I need a lot of space and time alone, and it only works because he needs the same thing!
Definitely helps when you're both on the same page!
I'd maybe need an hour or two a day I guess, the same with my boyfriend. We both have activities we do outside of our relationship so we usually get our alone time doing them. And yes I think everyone does need alone time.
The guy needs to be sewn onto me like a double pillow or a human centipede.
I'm sorry. For real though. Like for real.
He needs to have a life and not text me everyday. Or else: friendzoned.
I need time to do things just for me like going to fencing practice or movie night with my best friend.
Heck yes, alone time is very important to have, at least I think so. People need a variety of lifestyle to thrive, so same with relationships (even friendships).
I would need quite a bit of time alone to just chill and relax without people. Having quiet time maybe 1-2 hours is cool then spending the rest with the s/o and/or other humans is cool too.
I need it. Being alone reminds me that I enjoy the time with my partner. A couple hours a day if I am living with them. Early relationships every other day at least.
I dont mind whether I see my partner everyday or not. And actually I prefer not seeing them everyday. Once things get more serious, then we will figure out a way to get some non partner free time. Spending all day with someone makes me dislike them.
I'm a FT working single dad , alone time is precious & I need lots , my children are 13 & 10 , so they do their own thing. When they have grown up & flown the nest , I will remain single & solo , even the thought of another relationship makes me shudder !!
I think all of us need alone time from time to time especially when in a relationship. There should a balance between a me time, family time, friends time and us time
I like the day time to be my downtime I can see the girl at night cuz I'm busy working and working out or doing other things in the day time. I also like to watch NFL football on the weekends with my brother so I don't want to be tied down 24/7. I will give the girl time on weekdays at night and show her good times
I prefer a good amount of alone time and I like some nights out with friends as well.
My Husband and I try to accommodate each other as far as the kids go and what not so that everyone is able to get what they need.
I don't think there's a specific amount of time, I think it's just important that when you do, you explain to your partner that you do, but make sure they don't take it the wrong way
Need it for sure. How much or often though depends. Sometimes might be more than others. Yes it varies greatly from person to person. Some don't seem to need any which blows my mind lol. I definitely need my alone time.
Same here. I love him to death but after too much time together I'm like "you need to leave"
We live together haha
I personally need some alone time. My boyfriend doesn't need any. It depends on your personality.
none. I used to loovee being alone and wanted to be single for life.
But then I met my boyfriend and we always want to be together. We live together and have been together for 2 years and we do everything together.
Meh.
My relationship is long distance from August-May (he's out of state finishing school) and I don't mind being alone. Also I don't mind spending every waking moment of every day with him during the summer, either, so... lol
I would need alone time. I can't be around the same person all day, everyday, even if they were my boyfriend. He's still a person and people can be annoying. I also need time with my friends.
How much? All of it. That would be optimal.
I schedule one day out of the week to be with my partner (Fri or Sat), and the other days I use to handle my priorities since I'm a busy man.
If we can see each other once a week to smash and whatever I'm happy 😆
& If she gets in the way of my priorities than I'm cutting that bitch off!
How is that "not love"?
anyone you could just cut off like that, you dont love.
Seeing someone once a week to smash rofl that snot love either.
Love is a deeper connection than lust.
That made no sense. So you're basically saying that love depends on how much time you spend with someone? Because if so then you're saying anyone who follows high level education (STEM), Profesional athletes and military troops aren't able to love anyone.
& I never said ONLY smash, we spend time together, I keep one day for her. Smashin is just something you do with someone you're dating.
In general, I need alone time away from people. In a relationship I really don't need any. I'm hyper long-term about relationships though. Probably want to pee and poop alone, that's it.
Of course every person needs alone time. How much time would vary from one person to another and would count on multiple factors for example how horrible is the other partner..
I know if iam in a relationship with yoh I would need a huge alone time.. Lol sorry i like to be honest.
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I don't think you'll face this problem anyway, because no one likes immature little boys in long term relationships. You're safe
outch.. Back fired !
Okay.. May be that is why I am not into one... An explanation for you ?
You never have to talk to those boys. And I never deny my issues...
You're right, I don't have to talk to those immature boys so I'll end this thread here
Are you that mad ? I thought you would be reliefed ! isn't that what you wanted ?
Fine.. No more talking.. Boys don't have the right to talk
MY MISTAKE ANY WAY
It's not a mistake, you have no comprehension on how to be a decent, mature human being and are full to the brim with drama. Even now
God.. You need to watch out your words ! .. I am not willing to return any of your insults because you know how much you meant to me.. And yea i am immature , disgusting , soft , gay and a dramatic boy... I know all of that.. What do you want me to say? Sorry i speaked here I will never speak again?
Any way no need for more of your words... Bye
I hope what you said to me makes you feel better :)
Oh please, those are your words not mine. Don't try and put those in my mouth - I said exactly what I meant just as I have always done. Don't put your insecurities on me and try to gaslight me into being the problem when the last time was completely on you. I've always owned my mistakes and miscommunications to apologise- every single time and quickly, it's not my problem that you're unable to do the same. Don't comment on my things if you don't want a response, I'm not going to ignore it and pretend you weren't incredibly rude
fine... you can add being insecure and i add being stupid too.. I really have no idea why i talked here... It doesn't make sense to me
What mistake did i do?
You are 29 years old, if you seriously can't figure that out based on our last conversation and your reaction to it you need to study up on human behaviour.
Good luck.
Lol , I have studied Human behavior and psychology. I hope you are more calm today. Believe me when I say that i don't know why i talked and why I am still talking to you. You know I don't like to defend myself when accused.
You said that last time was on me. I hope You tell me how do you see it and what mistakes did I do in your opinion? All I know that I was thinking I did something wrong and I tried to say sorry but I know I insisted and repeated until You got annoyed and blasted on me ! I stopped and we never talked again.
Yes , I am older than you and this means you should show more respect :)
Keep studying, because it's not your strong suit. I don't need to respect anyone who isn't worthy of it, and you have proven several times that you are not.
I confirmed over and over again that there was nothing wrong until you got condescending and called me names to which I absolutely told you was unacceptable. You choosing to be immature and ignore that instead of apologising is absolutely on you. So let's go back to not talking, that actually works pretty well for me.
It is Ok if you don't wanna talk. I told you that I would stop talking once you ask me. I really didn't think that you are thinking that bad about me !! It is surprising to see myself that bad. And I don't wanna you think that about me even if we stop talking ! I have no problem to Apologize when I am sure I am wrong which what i am doing now.
I called you a baby or a child I don't know. I was joking really and not serious at all , But you were not in the mood for jokes so you thought I am trying to insult you !
Again you have to consider the huge cultural difference which sometimes make us understand things in different ways.
What I can say that I am really sorry if I ever annoyed you or acted immature. I am not perfect And may be you are right in everything you said. You are making me very sad really !
I can accept that you don't wanna talk to me or know me but i couldn't expect that you would tell me all that ! Lol , and before you complain i wanna say sorry for being dramatic
So tell me what you wanna?
We're long distance and I get a lot of alone time. We only see each other every few months.
I wish I had less of this alone time lol
I need a lot of alone time. sometimes that bothers them.
everyone needs alone time otherwise you'll feel suffocated always being around your SO
I actually like to spend a few hours alone! I have been with my fiance fir 5+ years
yes and no I like to be alone say I'm n the kitchen or at the grocery store n he's at work or at home see people think that alone is a quantity but really it's a quality thing what's the quality of me being in his life... is he here with me mentally, not physically being somewhere... u can feel alone and be in a room full of people...
in a relationship I need time. at times we dont feel up to ourselves and it doesn't help to be with someone at that moment that's when I take some time off. think about the positives in life and then get back to her.
Pretty much what ever is most convenient for both parties. No need to put the other half in a position where they can't say no.
yeah, i need alone time, like maybe a week alone time : p
My boyfriend usually doesn't want all that much alone time, when he wants to be left alone he usually just plays his guitar and I know that means he's really into his music. I am so fucking clingy though so I don't really like having alone time
I would need it from time to time but not too often... except maybe if we had relationship trouble :o
I really value my alone time. I'd probably need quite a bit. Sometimes I just like to go out for a drive or catch a movie by myself to relax. There are times I just don't like talking to anyone.
Men and women shouldn't be so clingy. I would never care since I am used to being alone it wouldn't make any logical sense for me to become clingy once I got into a relationship.
I don't think it's clingy to enjoy spending time with your loved one
I live with my husband so unless there is a good reason like work/family/an event yeah three days is too much
same lol it sounds so weird to me that people dotn want to be with their partner ALL the time. Me and my boyfriend have been living together for 2 years and we always want to be together and do everything together. I dont know why if you love each other you would want alone time. But everyone is different.
but as a couple you share your business with each other; at least that is how we are. It is weird to keep things from each other in my opinion. I mean if he gets a job in the future of course I am not gonna comment on it because I know nothing about coding. But if he has to go somewhere he would tell me where he is going. And I also often ask his advice for my job and tell him all my plans and he often comes up with things as well (I am self employed)
@blondfrog it's only invading privacy if it's things he wants to keep to himself or I'm overstepping into snooping. We share a life together, many aspects are intertwined but we have our own branchs like hobbies, friends and social obligations. Interesting to see how others perceive it though 😊
we have talked about this and he gives me a lot of space and I do the same for him. we get along pretty well
Sometimes but when I'm upset I like to talk about it, so if we're having a problem we talk about it. Yeah we have alone time if we're at school but we try to see eachother as much as possible
I find as I get older, I date people who have lived alone for years. I have. I appreciate my solitude, but also try to set up work dates so we can share time together but get stuff done.
I don't have any alone time, don't need any , and don't want any alone time... same with her , happily married !!
Between my wife and i, the weekends we spend time together, because of our schedules and how much we work, we get our alone time during the week. its close to 50%
I like to be alone most of the time bt in that very time sometimes I feel like it's good to be with someone very close to you so that u can share all the things that u think while u r alone...
Seeing as I am at work for most of the day, I don't even think "alone time" is necessary.
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