How important is it for a couple to invest in time alone in their marriage?

[Desconhecida]

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Time alone = apart. Away from each other with friends or doing hobbies, etc. (Not together, guys!)

[1-3-2-4]

It’s very important.. my wife (soon to be ex) always wanted to be around me 24/7 it was so bad.. I tried to hold off as long as I could but I just couldn’t do it anymore it got to the point when She could call I would just sigh over it.

[1-3-2-4]

Thank you!

[libsaretards]

This is essential. Alone time is how you keep your individual differences, which is part of what makes a relationship sustainable.

[DaySpring]

But why is that apart of what makes a relationship sustainable?

[libsaretards]

@DaySpring Because if you lose who you are then you will lose some love in a relationship. Think of your friends. You may love hanging out but it would get annoying if they hit you up all the time and did not give you room to breathe.

[Lliam]

I think it's very important to spend time together talking like best friends about all kinds of things, snuggling, and appreciating each other. I like the photo you posted. My wife loves to hear me play guitar and sing.

Time alone can also lead to enjoyable physical contact. And physical contact is what keeps the fire of passion burning.

People who begin to take each other for granted, and fail to invest in quality time together, grow distant and forget what attracted them to each other in the first place. Their relationship begins to feel perfunctory; businesslike. They feel lonely, neglected and unloved. And that's when they begin seeking thrills (affairs) elsewhere.

People who value their relationship can't allow work and other activities to interfere with quality time. They MUST make time for each other, and not out of obligation, but because they love each other.

[Seinna]

It's as important as the success of their marriage is.

That being said, how much time alone they need depends solely on the person. Some people really don't need it, they focus solely on their family.

Spending time with others is beneficial for most relationships though because it tends to broaden your horizons making you a more interesting partner.

I don't think it should feel like an investment though... it's marriage and family that's an investment. Other things are a break from it and that's when they work best in my opinion. It shouldn't be yet another thing you're required to do, like saving a date for a therapy or counselling to fix your situation at home.

[FrenchGirl2]

It's important yes! My friend has a boyfriend and she is constantly glued to him, I ask her if it's trust issues and she replies me by saying that no she definitely trust him and never been so sure about a guy so great. But for example we were at a Starbucks and he received a text and he said because my friend was eying at him that it was his friends who made plans for the night and she replied "Awesome! Were are we going?" it was awkward... And if he cop with it and don't mind it's awesome but honestly I'm afraid that he'll get tired, understandably, and break up with her.
So leave space for your significant other, it doesn't mean that you don't care about him/her it means that you respect the fact that he/she needs to have a life aside from being your SO. Plus when getting back from the activity you can talk about it!

[ohshee]

It is so very important to have a day of just the both of you to regroup regather refocus otherwise it all catch up to you and people start growing apart and just not communicating right with each other you have to have that day or that night that it's just you two

[Zezzara]

It depends on the person. I don't care for it at all because I am a grow together kind a person. I look for companions that want to have a best friend/wife relationship. I am a believer if I love someone I would always feel okay being around them all the time. Hey that's just me

[crossdressingrihno]

What is the point in a romantic relationship if you don't spend time with just each other

"This is my girlfriend and we never talk outside of our friend groups" is almost a contradictory statement
"This is my wife and we never have alone time" is a sign the marriage will fail

[crossdressingrihno]

Still important
People need to have time to themselves otherwise you're just going to get tired of your partner and then you ruin your marriage

[jennajordyn]

Imperative... Same as team building exercises and effort; dysfunctional teams win nothing ever... Even though a marriage has additional advantages than say, a business relationship, you don't want to tax too hard something that's fun and pulls you through the tougher times... Treat your relationship like it matters to you and you want it, and returns will be bountiful.

[mobiusforniner]

To an extent, yes its important. I like a little time to play/write music or be engaged in a hobby to enjoy personal creativity whixh is impossible not to do alone. Then again im an engineer and am socially inept. Wife knows it lol

[NathanDavis]

for me, it has always been the norm... that defines what a couple actually is, a bond within two people

[chokeonDaddysbigD]

The most important thing. And the most important and expensive thing you can share and give someone is your time.. because you only live once and we don't have much time. And once out time is gone we can't get it back

[TonyMetal___86]

Nor so much because personally i prefer to do everything with her if i was married and if outside than i'll love her presence...

It ain't that much important to me to spend time away from her...

[TinaAl]

Couples should be always investing sexually to eachother

[HD1450]

Yes, they need to have that, it's like my son and his wife, they have twice a month what they call date night. I think couples need time for themselves

[user1516]

I think it’s really important. Your marriage will fail if you don’t see each other enough.

[bowenw]

It is absolutely critical for me, especially without any screens or other distractions.

[motownplayer2000]

I think very. Became marriage is hella hard.. it takes more work the people are comfortable putting into

[Crankor]

I feel if that's important then you don't really share in each other's interests. A much different kind of relationship

[Iron_Man]

There’s always an opportunity to have time alone it’s not that big of a deal

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Very important. Not too much, but not too little. Balance is key.

[oralmajiq]

Extremely important, just about next to food & water 💦😉