Do guys feel guilty after leaving a girl heartbroken?

When guys leave/ ignore us girls we become heartbroken and sometimes we feel worthless. My question is, do guys feel sad or maybe even guilty because of what they did to us girls?

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  • Ha hahahahaha it depends on how it happen. If she was a pain in the ass then yes we don't care. We won't feel bad and it's good bye for her. If she has bf/ trust issues/ or she might did something wrong. Yes it will settle in but it will fade. Now if he loved of liked the girl then it will take more an effect. Me, I ignored this girl and boy she was heartbroken. She was sad her head was down on the table she posted it. Why did I? Cause she was playing games, she lies, and playing hard to get for a full year. She flirt one moment then next she's like stop! Or she won't respond at all. Now! She still play hard to get but I can flirt with her without her saying stop. I had to let her know this hot and cold crap won't work on me.

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  • If a guy breaks your heart he probably doesn't give a shit. That's why women need to be less vulnerable and tender hearted Bc most of y'all end up getting hurt and the guy doesn't skip a beat. Read their answers

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  • I've only done that to one girl in my life, it was a girlfriend I was dating. I knew the relationship wouldn't work, specially with me going into the military. So I went to her house, picked her up and when for a drive with her. I told her flat out I didn't this would work. I was really kind about it though. I spelled it out like I was writing a 5 paragraph essay. I tried to make it as respectful as I could. I felt awful seeing her cry her eyes out as I'm telling her this. I cared so much about her, I just knew the relationship wouldn't work. I felt awful, but I knew it was the right thing to do.

    The next week at school, she didn't some in for a couple days. We had a couple classes together so I noticed right away, texting her if she was alright, but getting no answer. Finally she came into class one day, and she was late, she came into the room and gave me a slight look, a look of complete dissapointment and hurt. God it really hurt seeing that. It made me spend a lot of night thinking if I made the right descision. Deep down I know I did. It had to be done, I haven't actually talked tl Her now in over a year, by text, but everything is going good in her life now and I'm happy for her. I think we are on good terms, but we are both now just living our lives.

    I didn't enjoy breaking her heart. I was really good to her, was never using her or anything like that. I think most heartbreaks for girls nowadays are when their expectations for a guy they like is ruined, mostly by guys taking advantage of girls. I don't think of myself as a bad person for breaking up with her. I did it in the most respectful way possible, and that's all you can do really.

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    • Was it really because of going into the military or something else?

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    • that makes sense. Thanks for responding back. Do you ever think about her and wonder if you make the right decision?

    • Of course I wonder about her every once in a while. I follow her on social media and she is doing good things with her life and have a boyfriend who treats her great. I'm very happy for her and proud of what she's doing. I don't think she hates me, we have talked civilly since we broke up before. Whether she cares about me or not is not important. I care about her well being of course, but I know I had to break up with her at the end of the day.

  • Well the problem is the way you worded it. Women are way more vicious in dumping men then the other way around.
    My ex wife threw away our family. 25 years together. never shed 1 tear the entire time. laughed when she told me she had been cheating at the end of the relationship, which leads to to figure it was probably during the entire relationship.
    meanwhile, since I started dating I have broken up with 3 women where it was not just mutual that we stop dating. I never had a gf when I was young. I went on dates with 5 women before I met my ex. So at 46, I have had to break up with someone for the first time ever. I still feel like shit about all of them. But even though I would never have wanted or asked for a divorce, I gave up everything to try and make my ex happy. I was unhappy for a long time. Or at least, not as happy as I should have been. I refuse to just settle. That isn't to say I am not willing to compromise. But I won't just go along because I don't want to hurt someones feelings.

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    • Lol its nice that im not alone. Im 25 and never dated really. Both my exs were just things I stumbled into and they were extremely serious almost right away. Getting into the whole dating game just seemed so weird to me. I had to figure out rejecting and getting rejected. I had to figure out just because it went well didn't mean we were a couple. I had to figure out how to put the moves on someone. So many things and I felt way to old to be learning it. Glad I was not alone sorry about your relationship its nice to see you doing well

  • Personally last girl I broke up with I didn't and it was a pretty civil breakup. The thing is, there was so much foreshadowing to the point where when I initiated it I didn't feel bad at all because the relationship was already tanking for quite some time. It was actually relieving when it happened because I was tired of her arguing so much spinning in circles with issues that could easily be solved in 1-2 sentences.

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  • Depends. If a girl cheats on me, I'd care less about her. Which did happen. I ended up packing her stuff in bags, leaving out front and changing my door locks.

    If she wanted to move in with me then to catch her out with another guy, how would you react?

    If anything though if it was mine at fault then yes I'd feel guilt.

    Or mutual break ups and no one gets hurt much.

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  • Normally I would say offcourse we do, It's human to feel guilty when you are a direct cause of someone's pain, I know I did for all my relationships I ended...
    However after reading some comments above I guess I can't speak for all of us or even most of us.. So basically the answer is, some men (or women) do and some do not.
    I wonder if this meens empathy has become a rare emotion these days..
    It's a sad world..

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  • No. I think most of us adored women and were nicer in our teens, then we meet that girl in high school/college, get our hearts broken, and learn that women are very cold and flaky. It kills any sympathy or empathy we really have for women... the only way to really be good at dating, with how girls are, is to be cold and keep feelings out of it as much as possible.

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    • Why so bitter? Not every girl is like that.

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      Pinpoint? Not sure what you mean.

      As far as numbers go, I play women like blackjack, lol. I pick my bets wisely, don't let emotions cloud my judgement, and make an effort to always walk away when the deck is turning bad. That's the way to win.

    • Pinpoint as in zero in on one not many at once. To understand that one and customize strategy based on that one. Higher success rate. And less energy used.

  • It all depends on the circumstances surrounding the break up. If it's a broken relationship beyond repair then I would not feel as bad as I would feel relief. It's the one that still has promise that would make me feel bad

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  • Depends on who you dated and how it ended.
    Date an asshole/player probably doesn't.
    Date someone who did care for you, probably to some extent, unless you messed up.

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  • Yea... it's happened. But was better said than to lead on. Felt guilty she loved me & I didn't have same feelings. It was for the better as she'd be hurt even more if I stayed in her life. I felt bad.

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  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1cQh1ccqu8M

    this song somes it up lol
    i have broken a couple hearts but i never felt guilty...

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  • Well it depends on what kind of girl are you.

    If you are a nice, kind, loyal, faithful, respectable and even hardworking... they should feel sad for living you.

    If you're one of the liberated leftover girls who likes to dry humps different men every day or night, then there's no point of being sad leaving you.

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  • Yeah actually we do feel a lot sometimes. When I broke up with my girl friend I felt a lot for like a couple of months. But when once I realized that she is happy and started to move on then I felt better. Cos I couldn't fit in with her I had a guilt of hurting a girl's emotions. So yeah we do feel.

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  • Yes of course guys feel bad when we breakup. It hurts us. Is there some guilt? Depends on the breakup, how the guy perceived the breakup, and who did what. Ex's are ex's for reasons, if something didn't happen then you'd still be together still.

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  • Yeah I don't show much emotion but I don't like hurting people so I'd feel guilty.

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  • Depends on the girl and the relationship, most of the time yes but I am a pretty touchy feely guy. I feel bad anytime anyone stops talking to me. I just messaged a friend a few hours back who I had a fight with about a month ago and she told me to piss off. Honestly I just hate anyone being upset because of me there is enough negative energy in the world I dont need to add to it and I hate to see people hold on to it. Long rant ending lol, I always feel bad but it doesn't mean I want to get back together but I never mean to hurt anyone even if thats how it comes across.

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  • As stated many times it depends on the relationship and the person. For example I broke up with my last girlfriend and I've never felt so bad as i really liked her.

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  • I have left relationships twice in my lifetime and one I've gone back to where I didn't feel I had moral high ground to end it. In those cases I felt badly for her. One had kissed another guy while I was away for the summer so I felt I couldn't trust her. She pleaded with me not to end it. She chased after me when she realized I had walked away and tripped trying to cross a ditch. I think she broke her nose because blood was streaming down her face and ruining her blouse once she caught up to me. I still rejected her. I still loved her but I was dead set that it was over.
    Yea, I felt bad. I still feel bad decades later but I mourn the loss of a relationship, not her.

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  • I find if they are a nice person that I valve as well as hot, I would feel a little guilty.

    If they are total bitch, I would be happy to see them suffer! Ugly and fat women I don't care!

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  • Not really. Girls always expect you to text them first and I get real tired of that because it feels like im making all attempts and investments.

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  • No not usually, but sometimes yes.

    If its because the she cheated on me, was an absolute b*tch or was trying to test me, then I honestly couldn't give a flying f*ck about her feelings. In fact, if she cheated on me, I'd hope that she's never the same again. Yea ino, psycho :) haha

    But if she was just a bit annoying or things just weren't going anywhere I'd feel maybe a little sympathy. But not much. I'd mostly just want to keep away from her to avoid awkwardness and get on with my life.

    But there is one scenario that would evoke extreme sympathy.
    If the girl was perfect, but I myself was falling for someone else. Then its completely my own fault, the girl can't do anything about it and I start to feel like I'm a terrible person for letting her get involved with me.

    Those kind of breakups are the worst. And I feel like sh*t for weeks afterward.

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    • What if you duped her into casually dating you, pretended you were damaged and emotionally unavailable, had sex a few times, kept up a charade of being single for almost a year... When you were in a serious relationship and living with someone (blended family thing with kids) the whole time. Then, she found out and ended it... With you saying you were trying to cool things off because you really liked her, great banter, she's funny, you knew she had fallen for you... But you just wanted her in your life because she's smart, pretty, witty, and hilarious? She cried. Told you she's heartbroken and went no contact...

      What would it mean in THAT scenario when you said you felt "bad"?

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What Girls Said 8

  • Depends on the breakup.. No different then a girl leaving a guy. No one wants to hurt another person but truth is, break ups are painful no matter the situation so some level of pain will be felt by both even when its the best decision. even if the breakup was weight lifting and necessary.

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  • I don't think they do because I sure don't care when I leave a guy feeling heartbroken. The only way I would care even if it was just a little would be if I really cared for the guy or if we had something special.

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  • Been told by several male friends No, they don't feel bad. Strokes to the male ego are a good thing and hurt feelings are just a by product.

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  • Depends who. A sociopath who is a player, won't. If the guy didn't break a girls heart on purpose than he will probably feel bad.

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  • I wonder the same

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  • Good question. Most don't give a shit.

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  • Well it depends on what kind of guy you dated

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  • Depends on the guy's feelings for that girl

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