My boyfriend and I dated for a year and we were the best of friends, never fought, had so much in common, and knew each other like the backs of our hands. Our friends would always tell us how much they loved us together. He was diagnosed with depression about 4 months into our relationship and it's fluctuated ever since- sometimes getting really awful and he'd isolate himself from everyone and overthink things. He's been in a rut for the past few weeks but I didn't realize how awful it was this time. Things were going totally fine I thought and he was being sweet but then he disappeared for a few hours and then called me and had a breakdown. He kept saying he couldn't do this anymore and was so depressed and so we went on a break. Two days ago, he broke up with me. He said he's never felt this depressed before and he couldn't feel anything. He said he wasn't happy with anything. He said he cares about me more than anyone and I'm the most special person he's ever met and that he doesn't understand why he feels like this. He said once he gets straightened out and therapy that he'd want to try again. I'm close with his friends and they all said they're really worried about him and that he's not himself. I talked to my psychology professor and she said that the things he said to me is textbook definition of what happens when someone is chronically depressed and that I shouldn't think its him talking because it's his depression. This whole thing came out of nowjere- his episodes always did. She said that he's incapable of feeling those emotions or thinking rationally right now. He told me he wants me in his life and still sees my in his future but he can't give himself to a relationship right now. Do you think that once he's able to get stable again we'll be able to get back together? He admitted that there were no problems with our relationship & he said he's been going crazy with overthinking things. We had such an amazing relationship & i love him so much
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What he's doing, he's doing for the both of you, speaking from experience, depression episodes make you feel like a burden to those around you. Also even if you don't ask much of him the little obligations he has to you feel much worse when the episode kicks in.
Sad truth is, there is no cure to it, you won't be able to just chipper him up. What you can do is be there, if not as a gf then as a close friend. Despite how much he's pushing, you need to pull harder and remind him why you're pulling, because he'll make every excuse in the book to escape the idea that there's still something positive in his life.
I won't bull shit you it'll be incredibly stressful for you, however.0