My 'ex' and I broke up a couple of times. We tended to push and pull each other. Couldn't find balance. We agree we rushed into a relationship, naively thought our feelings for each other would be enough.
We came to find out nearing four months together that we were too busy with stuff we háve to do, like work, his sport, my horse, his therapy, my healing, plus the distance between us and still living with our parents (27f 30m). We had found ourselves under pressure, running short on time, needing our time for ourselves, distance was definitely an obstacle. And since we both still live at home, couldn't spend proper quality time together.
We broke up final during a miscommunication and unreachable expectations that came from the simple fact of now knowing each other well enough.
Now we straight away stayed on very good terms. No 'no contact' or bs, it feels like we are temporary broken up. For example, we got together in person and talked for hours about the confusion we both felt and we truly had a quality honest convo. Mixed feelings for sure. We drove around a little bit, we went to eat, we hugged goodbye. I felt calm once I got home. No tears, no heartbreak... No harsh emotions between us, just love.
The day after, I received a text where my ex asked me how I felt after our convo.
A few days later, I was the first person to be shared some great news with by my ex. And when I foud out something about myself that made me realize my behavior I shared it w/ him to discuss. We had a beautiful open conversation and both agreed it felt like a waste we'd rushed into it.
We still call each other pet names.. we are there for each other at any time too.
As I am focusing on healing, getting my own house etcetera, he has been putting more time into his therapy aswell. I can see we are both working on ourselves. It must have a deeper meaning?
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Yo this sounds like a real complex situation. On one hand, I get why you guys broke up cause it does seem like you rushed into things a bit and had a lot of other stuff going on that made it hard. But it also kinda sounds like you still really care about each other a lot.
The fact that you were able to talk things through so openly and stay really close even after breaking up is actually a good sign. It means there's still a strong connection there and you both want to understand each other. Most exes don't act like that.
Maybe taking a step back as more of a temporary break could be good while you each focus on your own thing for a bit. Work on communication and quality time together if you do try again later once the pressures aren't as high. Absence makes the heart grow fonder and all that too, ya know?
As long as you're both staying honest about your feelings it could totally have a deeper meaning. Just don't get too stuck wondering "what if" and put your own stuff first for now. See how you both feel in a few months once things settle down more. Could be you end up right back together stronger or realize it wasn't meant to be. But it definitely sounds deeper than a normal breakup!
seems like its tiring relationship n won't stop being tiring but u could always try ur chances if u both willing to change
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