Most Helpful Guy
I have had a great insight from GaG for which i will be forever grateful. I always suspected when women said 'love' they meant something more like 'control' but now, so many here obviously judge love by what measure of control they have over a man I have come to think it is the default for females to see love as a kind of magic spell which will give them power over a guy.
What keeps me from walking away is commitment, it comes from inside me. I choose to do what I think right. If I thought it was the right thing to do i would walk away no matter how I felt about her.2
Most Helpful Girl
I have before. One of the hardest decisions I have ever made by far! He was my first love. My everything, during that time. I didn't see how toxic our relationship was until I was in too deep. He was manipulative and controlling. Very emotionally abusive. Cheated multiple times and I caught him red handed. Yet, he still to this day (he calls me randomly) refuses to admit his wrongs. I was young then, only 15. My first ever real relationship but as I look back now I don't think it was real at all. I left him when I was almost 17. It took me awhile to get over him. I met someone new when I was 17, and had my first child. At 19, I had a second child with the same man and we have been together since I had met him. I realize now that my current boyfriend saved me from the toxic waste of a life I was living while being in control of my ex. If it wasn't from him and my children I fear that I would still be trapped under my ex's spell. It still crosses my mind from time to time, of course. But when I look back now I don't feel the pain anymore. Instead, I can look back and smile at the good memories I had with my ex. Because truly he did help me become the woman I am today and he taught me a lot, no matter how badly he hurt me.0