Could you or would you ever leave someone you love?

[Aerissa_Jade]

You are in a relationship and things are going well, there are no problems or issues. You do very much love them... could you ever leave them?

On the flip side, how would you feel if someone left you when things were going well, no reason given?

[PJH359]

Well this one hits home because I’ve been on the “flip side” twice in my life. To this day, those two instances remain among the most painful memories embedded in my mind. The first was in college and it was the first time I was truly heartbroken. I met her at a nightclub I worked as security (bouncer). The most beautiful girl I’ve ever seen in my life…she almost intimidated me. Maybe that’s part of the reason it impacted me to such an extent. We were together two years and I thought everything was fine. But I think my lifestyle got to her after a while…although I never cheated there were a million opportunities to. So she heard a rumor about me and without even talking to me about it she simply called me one night and said, “I’ve had enough…goodbye.” It’s been 30+ years and to this day it still hurts to think of her and what could have been.
The other was more recently…the first girl I fell in love with after my divorce of 19 years. Ten years my junior she was gorgeous, extremely intelligent and so much fun to be with. However the stress of having to keep things quiet on both ends got to be too frustrating for her…and she broke it off without much conversation either. We are still friends but I miss her and would take her back in a minute.
When you turn your heart and soul over to someone special, it is devastating when that source of happiness leaves without notice. Not only are you filled with sadness and despair, but there is a sickness associated with such a breakup also. The exodus creates a crater in the center of your torso making it difficult to breathe, eat and maintain any semblance of normality. And when you have so much invested in someone you hold so dear, it’s worse than losing a family member. They become part of you…when they leave, that part of you leaves with them.

[mobiusforniner]

Yes, because she wasn't my wife. I knew she had fallen in love with me. And ironically the best thing for me to prove i loved her too, was to let her go.

[Sarahr123]

And then did you get married?

[mobiusforniner]

@Sarahr123 no I am already married. This girl was a close friend. I knew and felt she wabted more than a friendship. So I let her go. Hurt cuz I lost a friend

[dustybiker]

My mum met her soulmate. They were incredibly gooey close. He was diagnosed with cancer. He made them break up so she didn’t have to watch him go through it. I believe it was pretty advanced when they found it.

She always regretting allowing him to push her away. It taught me lessons on the flip.

[VIVANT]

I’m the kind of person who will leave a good situation before anyone gets disappointed, so yeah I do it. I’d also understand it if someone else did. It would hurt whomever did it hit I get it. I don’t think it’s good but I get it.

[TonyMetal___86]

Tbh i only trust myself when it comes to love cause i'm a man of my word...
If i loved a girl, i'll never dump her, even if things aren't so well, i'll try my best to make everything works but one hand can't clap and it takes 2 to tango!

If i was married i believe that marriage is eternal no matter what happens except for cheating!

Why would i have to hurt and dump a girl who trusts me an gave her heart and all herself? I'll never do that, cause hurting her means hurting myself, i'll always be there for her and she will always be my 1st priority!

Do i trust that someone will treat me the same? I doubt it, if i can't leave someone i love, it doesn't mean that they can't leave me!

They might leave and for simple and shallow reasons!

[Chazmatazz269]

Everything is going well? NO!
That’s a sign of mental illness! Based on that, everything is NOT going well!
If i were mentally ill, or frankly ill physically, i’d leave. No reason to burden someone you supposedly love with your infirmity and the expense of your care. That’s selfish. It shouldn’t be, but it is. Men are only allowed to contribute and support. When we can’t do that, we are meant to disappear without a trace. Burdensome men are lower than women who rape children in western society. No joke.

[Andres77]

You can love someone so much…but you have to weigh that choice against loving yourself.

and not loving yourself in some narcissistic fashion but caring for yourself, protecting yourself.

it’s a balance. It’s delicate and fragile. If you ever feel like you’re being forced to declare loyalties…some of your love will be poured into sacrifice but only to a point.

its not easy. It’s like cutting out an organ…. YOURSELF…without anesthesia. And trying to maintain a little dignity in the process. Not letting the other see how much it hurts.

[ohsheeT]

You don't ever want to leave anybody that you love even if you don't like them sometimes want to sleep but it depends on the situation if it is a matter of life and death or something yes I would I could leave I would leave

If I was just to walk away there would have to be a pretty big reason for me to do it pretty important reason it would probably break my heart but like I said there has to be a really good reason

[Still-alive]

If i knew i was going to move far away i would probably end things because it wouldn't be fair to them to love me when im way too far away. and i'd want them to find someone that can provide the intimate touch relationships most certainly need to be successful.

that might be the only instance i could think of though.

[Marushka]

I could and I would. In some case it's the best for both parties to break up even if everything seems to go well and in the end there's a lot of different reasons to break up and love alone can't solve everything.

[slatyb]

I could imagine loving someone that I couldn't live with for one of a number of reasons. For a trivial example, they might have cats. I'm allergic to cats.

[Autember]

If I were hurting them in some way and knew they wouldn't be able to walk away on their own... yea maybe I would. But it would be the toughest thing I'd ever have to do. Who knows if I'd actually have the strength to do something like that.

[Autember]

If someone left me with no reason... I'd be heartbroken. Especially if I thought everything was fine. That would be am awful thing to even contemplate...

[MCheetah]

Yes. I'd just convince myself I'm not good enough for them.

[Aerissa_Jade]

I've actually done that before myself.

[RavVid]

I might love a girl but leave her if she is disputatious or something else that is unrewarding.

Possibly I might leave for a very hot girl but I don't my morals would let me.

One girl did just up and leave but never knew why. F'ed me up for a while

[Amy10223]

No, why spoil a good thing?
Unless…I was gravely ill and there was nothing I could do but expect to die, I would let them go. No point in holding on to them and having them suffer.

[letuswaltzforthedead]

I find it extremely unlikely, I wouldn't be able to under regular circumstances but I can see it happening in serious dire cases. If it's to protect them or something.

[CrazyGirl2]

No I wouldn’t leave someone if things are going well… WHY? That’s far is how I would feel if someone left me even though things are going well… Extremely confused, and probably devastated!

[Th3ft]

I mean I have chosen to end old friendships before things got too bad but I do t see why I would ever want to leave someone if things were going well. Especially if I lived them.

[NathanDavis]

that would never ever make any sense to me

I don't tend to do unreasonable things

[Staximus]

Why leave when it's going good? The grass isn't any greener on the other side of the hill. If she leaves me, obviously it's not going as well as I thought.

[Weapon77]

Nope. It's not in my nature. I'll kill to stay with people I love. I've never found a girl I loved, so if I did, I'd die before I left her.

[Kabluie]

I have. Sometimes it can be mutual in a way where you both want different things going forward. The kind where you both give the good french kiss before parting.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

My love is true and for real I would never leave a girl that I love I am real love, not fake love, I would love her unconditionally

[BlueScorpio]

Gotta give me a reason to leave or want to leave.

[melanieeeB]

When everything is truly going well, then there is no reason to leave.

[jengeorge26]

I did leave someone that I was in love with

[KostasKouvalis]

Question 1: No. That wouldn't make any sense

Question 2: I think you already know my answer to that

[dreamstar72]

Leave because you need to or because it’s the right thing to do. Either way it would be complicated.

[exitseven]

If there was a good enough reason I guess I would have to.

[moonpie89]

Perfect doesn't exist. Issues will arise in relationships.. I have left someone I loved.

[Xtendable]

That would be difficult. If they left, no reason given, that would be maddening. If I left, I’d want them to know why

[muncher717]

wish they would fucking drop dead or die from fucking overdosing

[maximumpower]

Oh yes.
Its a two-way street.
Just sorry I didn't see it before she cost me so much.

[Nikki1989]

No, I couldn't do it. 😉

[CA4444]

Of course you can leave

[Danny_dan92]

I have. Needed to be done for my own sake

[likelyOK]

If there no problems why would I leave

[Pinay_ako]

Leave them for work?

[dynamicyandere]

1. No


2. Very Heartbroken

[fonduegirl]

Yeah. Break ups are very common for me.

[Iron_Man]

No I don’t do that

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

I won’t leave someone I really love.

[roy_ricky09]

Yes.. Sometimes that's for the best

[TammyVeracious_III]

Not comletely, a part of me stays

[TotallyAlmost]

My ex left me. It was bad.

[Fuentes]

The divorce rate is high for a reason lol

[nawtee_me]

All things are possible I guess...

[RandomGuy1030]

Yes i could because i need freedom

[Nikki101977]

If the cheated I have a zero tolerance for it.

[KrakenAttackin]

Define "love".

[MikeInHawaii]

Why would I?

[Sabretooth]

no...