No one wants to be broken up with so of course that feeling will come across them to get your attention and get back with you. Not everyone who comes back in your life is meant to be with you for a round two. "If it's meant to be it will be " means when you first get in a relationship with someone the "meant to be" motto steps in and it's either the relationships works out or it doesn't. Don't allow manipulation to make you fall back in the same traps you got out of. Know one thing about guys and when they want something, most will tell you everything that you want to hear from sweet as in cookies&cream. He will butter you up so good till he breaks your huge wall you built up which separated the two of you. Don't be fooled because "Warriors sometimes go through the same battle twice". Just because you ordered pizza and someone knocks on the door and you receive it doesn't mean the second knock is an okay to open the door for the same guy because you didn't order anything else. Everyone gets served what they deserve and just because a knock is at your door doesn't mean you open it just to hear what that person has to say (relating back to the pizza guy). Some people you just gotta love them from a distance because it not only secures your time and not waste it but secures your heart. If it was meant to be it would still be don't be fooled by messaged because he knows that's the same thing that got you in as he's trying to figure out the ways you got out under his spell and is trying to pull you BACK in to his bull crap. Just a pep talk , i know when you break up with someone you want to see who their next gig is and who is the "new" girl but once you break up with someone try to focus on "you". You're eager to see who is his next girl anxious and hoping he doesn't find another one. Be glad that whichever girl he's going after won't be you because as much as you're looking to see what girl he's going after.. people who you doubt are watching are observing to see if you're going to go back to him.
Don't walk away when him finding someone else and leaving you forces you to walk away because you have no choice. Walk away when you are given the open opportunity because no one can shield your heart but yourself. You guys might go back together, he kisses all over you, rub all over you and get you in the comfortable zone and all of a sudden feels as if he doesn't want you anymore and become ghost on you. Know what you're getting yourself into because he knows.
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He is most likely just manipulating you because he isn't finding someone else at the moment/someone as good as you. If your ex truly loved you, you would never have left him in the 1st place. Don't fall for those fake feelings just because he just realizes what he lost.
This is pretty straight forward. You need to ask yourself and be as honest and objective as possible. Is he the right one? There's a big difference between the right one, and the right now.
I'm kinda in your position. No closure and seems like he haven't dated after me.
You broke up with him so you can't expect him to give you closure. In the end closure comes from yourself not the other person.
From how you write it, him not being in a rush to sleep with someone is a good thing is hows self confidence and lack of needing to rush into something.
The more important question here is why do you need him to sleep with someone? From how you write you clear care for him but are also feeling guilty for the breakup.
As others have said, cut all contact for 6 months or more and let him figure out what comes with his life.
Well since you was the one that broke up with him usually that person is the one that explain why they are breaking up with and end it (that's the closure). Your closure should have came the moment you decided not to be with him. I'm sure he probably wants to be with you still and that happens when a breakup isn't mutual. But stand by your decision and move on. Maybe even have no contact with him awhile might help both of you.
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Hmmn. You can't really tell from that. But a way to play safe is to be nice to his mother. Call her once a while she will get the news to him herself. He will be more moved to see do something for his loved one than to himself. If after a few weeks he doesn't call you to work things out then you can just try to move on. Just don't trust that he need you when he hasn't said so expressly himself. I and a guy and I think this is How I will be most moved without thinking less of the woman. My opinion though. Take care
You seem to have a lot of questiones about your ex. So I have to ask why you broke up to begin with because it seems like you regret breaking up with him and that both of you want a relationship with each other which is why these questiones are confusing me, it seems pretty cut and dry from where I am standing. So why did you break up?
It seems he enjoys being with you but he is a dead end for you. I dont see how he will be good at taking care of a family if he lives with his parents at this age. Not moving out is a red flag.
It sounds like you both have different life goals and you should move on. You can do so much better.Looks like if you want him back, he's yours. He wants yo back, this should be fairly obvious. If you don't want him back spare both of you the drama and misery and don't lead him on. Please don't lead him on to keep as a "spare". It's a nasty thing to do to a person.
Hi Lioness, I think he loves you so much and you love him so much too. This break will let you see this truth. In my opinion you are ready to get marry. He cannot do anything without your presence with him, and you will be always thinking about him without his presence with you.
ex hasn't told you he's been with anyone since you..
Fallow the first thought that crossed your mine when you heard he still loves you. If you hesitated then the answer is NO! But if it made you feel special then fallow you heart and cherish each other, work on the imperfections that caused the break up. You are hot shit and I see why he want you back. He was a lucky man and still could be.
like clockwork... back every week to ask a question about her ex.
It would seem as if he is waiting to see if he will get another chance with you
Ok, you hook up a few months after he ended a LTR. If you were the first person he dated, can you say rebound.
There are 3 possibilities.
1- he is lying
2- he hasn't been able to maintain a relationship
3- he could be telling the truth but don't forget why you broke up with him in the first place.Sometimes it takes a long time for guys to move on... Been their a long time ago...
Why do you want this guy back? 😕
Do you want him back?
I think that he still have feelings for you
How is this still a thing?
Don't text him back. He's your ex for a reason.
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