So my ex mentioned this to me, and I'm feeling conflicted by this since when I broke up with him year and half ago I was kinda hoping he would date to figure out what he wanted... But hasn't. I know when we got together his previous LTR ended few months prior but this time he seems to be no hurry... Not interested? I dunno he mentioned before if we are meant to be together we will be and when I moved away he told me his mom was sad cuz now her "son is going to be alone" and last few texts were "I care about you" " I've been thinking about you with a kissy face" soo you think he still may want to be with me? I just can't stop thinking about him... And he's not giving me closure :(
Most Helpful Guy
You broke up with him so you can't expect him to give you closure. In the end closure comes from yourself not the other person.
From how you write it, him not being in a rush to sleep with someone is a good thing is hows self confidence and lack of needing to rush into something.
The more important question here is why do you need him to sleep with someone? From how you write you clear care for him but are also feeling guilty for the breakup.
As others have said, cut all contact for 6 months or more and let him figure out what comes with his life.1
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Most Helpful Girl
No one wants to be broken up with so of course that feeling will come across them to get your attention and get back with you. Not everyone who comes back in your life is meant to be with you for a round two. "If it's meant to be it will be " means when you first get in a relationship with someone the "meant to be" motto steps in and it's either the relationships works out or it doesn't. Don't allow manipulation to make you fall back in the same traps you got out of. Know one thing about guys and when they want something, most will tell you everything that you want to hear from sweet as in cookies&cream. He will butter you up so good till he breaks your huge wall you built up which separated the two of you. Don't be fooled because "Warriors sometimes go through the same battle twice". Just because you ordered pizza and someone knocks on the door and you receive it doesn't mean the second knock is an okay to open the door for the same guy because you didn't order anything else. Everyone gets served what they deserve and just because a knock is at your door doesn't mean you open it just to hear what that person has to say (relating back to the pizza guy). Some people you just gotta love them from a distance because it not only secures your time and not waste it but secures your heart. If it was meant to be it would still be don't be fooled by messaged because he knows that's the same thing that got you in as he's trying to figure out the ways you got out under his spell and is trying to pull you BACK in to his bull crap. Just a pep talk , i know when you break up with someone you want to see who their next gig is and who is the "new" girl but once you break up with someone try to focus on "you". You're eager to see who is his next girl anxious and hoping he doesn't find another one. Be glad that whichever girl he's going after won't be you because as much as you're looking to see what girl he's going after.. people who you doubt are watching are observing to see if you're going to go back to him.
Don't walk away when him finding someone else and leaving you forces you to walk away because you have no choice. Walk away when you are given the open opportunity because no one can shield your heart but yourself. You guys might go back together, he kisses all over you, rub all over you and get you in the comfortable zone and all of a sudden feels as if he doesn't want you anymore and become ghost on you. Know what you're getting yourself into because he knows.1